Hey mate, nothing wrong with your profile. Both your pics are great.
Personally, I'd try to narrow down a bit the age of your ideal mate - 26 is a bit too young for a 40 year old in my opinion. But that is just me.
I tried to stay +/- 5 years of my age. It worked a lot better for me and I found someone far more compatible.
Remember that women are attracted to the "bad boys". Good boys don't really get that far through the internet, because women need that bit of "excitement" that they imagine.
Sorry to say that is human nature. As warped as it is, the bad boy is more attractive to women who think that he won't be bad toward them, even though he is bad in every other way.
I ventured overseas because I couldn't find anyone suited to me locally. Maybe you might consider the same.
After all, we are all related from "Adam and Eve" so to speak.
Don't give up, keep searching, praying, and dare I say, look outside the box. You will probably find your perfect partner in the place you least expect to find her.
Take the story of Ruth for example. A foreigner who found love with a man in a way that was so "out of the box" for that society.
1. Depends on your audience. Where are you wanting to find a woman? If you are looking to find a western woman, then you are going to have to work on your English. Seriously. You are going to have to speak better.
2. More photos of you in various places, like in your town centre, in a park, in a restaurant, etc. This will show others that you are more real.
You just have to get involved in the forums, blogs, and start contacting women who you think you might want to get to know better.
You say you are shy. Well this is something that you can overcome by starting here on this site. You can send flowers to girls, and you can send in-site emails saying "hi" to them.
You are going to have to make an effort and toughen up a bit. You will have to be prepared for rejection and take it on the chin when it comes, and you will have to have self confidence.
Seriously, I think you will have more luck looking for women in your own age group (+5, -5). Larger age gaps can lead to problems down the track.
Photos - Add more where you are looking at the camera. Add photos in different settings; inside your home, at a cafe, in the park, etc.
Text - Okay. Check out other blokes profiles (not because you are interested, but to see what others have said and pick up and use the good styles of writing, etc to enhance your own profile)
My Match Info - Fill it in. If you can't articulate it in your text then at least fill this section in so that women know what you are looking for. We all have ideas of what we are looking for, so be honest with it and articulate it. It will be a benefit and save you wasting time with people who are not in your league, not interested and who don't match what you are really looking for. Be honest with yourself. When you are honest with yourself, then you won't have a problem articulating it honestly on your profile.
More About Me - Use it and fill it in on your profile. If you can't articulate more in your text, use this section as an aid to give ladies more info about you. The more you give them (the real ones) the better your chances of receiving a reply. Women need to know about you before they will begin to communicate with you.
I feel like your profile is "staged" and not really you at all.
PHOTO - very staged, very elusive, does not propagate trust in it. Add more photos, head and shoulder, and others in different settings including inside your home, at the shops, in a cafe, etc.
Text - very illusive and shallow. Okay you are 19 years old or so. You need to express more of who you are and what you want and what you have to offer.
My Match Info - Seriously? Any? I know you have specific tastes in women. We all want certain traits more than others. Articulate it in this area. Let women know for their sake and for your sake. The last thing you want to be doing, if you are real, is wasting time with women who you know you really don't have a connection with and that you really wouldn't want to marry or date.
Well, what can I say that will be positive. Okay my positive is that your profile text is short, and sweet.
PHOTO Upload more. Post head and shoulders, preferably smiling, maybe in a park (Melbourne has heaps of them since I lived there for a while) or in a shopping mall, or even outside on the street, or sitting in a cafe.
You say you hate having photos taken. Get used to it is what I say. Step out of your comfort zone (that is how you will meet new people and maybe find a loving relationship as well).
Start viewing other profiles of men and women to get a feel for what they look like, what they say about themselves and about what sort of a person they are looking for.
Fill out your profile some more, and don't just wait for others to contact you. Be active on here, put in the effort.
Yep. It is fine. Having said that, I would recommend that you upload more pics in various places and not just have the one.
WHAT IV WRITTEN IN MY PROFILE IS IT OK?
Yep. Short and sweet. Simple.
Have you had a look at other profiles of people? Use some others as inspiration as to what else you might want to add to your profile as to get more views, and perhaps land some emails, and "flowers" ETC.
Well, if you are seeking only local blokes, you may want to try a local dating site as well as this one.
CS is more international in nature. Have a look for yourself and you will see that.
Your profile is short and sweet and direct enough.
Personally, I think "good looking" is different for different folks, so that might put a few 'decent' blokes off. Men, like women, can have a low self opinion of how they look.
So perhaps you might want to reword that a bit to better explain what you are looking for.
The additional photo is a really good starting point.
Now you need to improve what you have written, and add more to it. What you are like and what you don't like. Give a guy a bit of an idea whether he is wasting your time and his time.
Complete more of your profile. I would recommend completing at least the "My Match Info" section, but would go even further and complete other sections with more details as well.
Your profile is so much better now. Really good text. Reading about you was a very enjoyable experience.
Your two photos are really nice. I really like the photo where you are smiling.
I think you are a beautiful woman.
I wish you well in your search for your dream man.
TIP: Get involved in the forums and blogs so that people can get to know you and you can get to know them. Many relationships have started out this way on this site.
Good luck. And well done. You have a very good profile now.
Hi. Well at least you have a good opinion about yourself by your opening line in your review....
PHOTOS You need more of them in different contexts, perhaps a park, or something. Head and shoulders, and perhaps even a 3/4 shot or two.
TEXT Doesn't match your "My Match Info" so there is inconsistency there from the start, that would make me wary of your profile as not being entirely accurate or honest. Since you put in your match info that you are seek a guy from any distance, but you say in your profile you are looking for a local guy only.
This leads me to my next suggestion. This site has an international dating focus and perhaps you might be better off seeking a potential partner through a more local area dating site.
Your text should also give a little information about who you are and what you like and don't like, what you have to offer to a guy in a relationship, and a bit more about what you are wanting in a guy.
Surely you can sketch out a little more about the attributes you are seeking from a guy than the very little in your text at the moment.
Hope these suggestions might be helpful, and good luck.
Don't know if you are judgmental when it comes to dating. You don't mention much in your profile about anything other than drinking, and racing. So a bloke doesn't get any idea about you at all other than that maybe you get drunk.
Personally, New Zealand is a small place and you might be better off trying a more local orientated dating site, rather than this one that has a very strong international dating flavour, if you are only interested in local NZ guys.
I'm sure that there are bogans out there that want a hard drinking and motor sport enthusiast lady for some good times, but if these things are all there is to you, then I wouldn't date you.
Nothing wrong with these things, but they wouldn't be compatible with me.
Good luck in finding someone like this that you like and that you can date and hopefully enter into a lasting relationship with.
PHOTOS Both are blurry. Did you do that on purpose? They both appear as 'selfies'. Personally, I prefer non-selfie photos in other places like a park, or shoping centre, etc. But that is just me.
TEXT If I were looking for a date, I would prefer a little more info about who you are and what you are like. Not a novel, but concise info describing you a little more, what you like, what you don't like, etc. But that is just me. Maybe other blokes might be different.
PROFILE I would suggest completing the "My Match Info" section. It would give a guy a bit of an idea about what you prefer. Guys also need direction so that they don't feel like they might be 'wasting their time'.
Mostly, blokes are visual, so more photos will probably get you more 'hits' (flowers, possible mail - from real guys), unless you are not looking for that.
You have good photos.... I would personally not put up photos from a few years ago, but only use current photos.
Text - well, what you have written here is okay. Remember ladies like to read as well as look at photos, so I would put a bit more into what you like and don't like.
I would also be a bit more honest in your "My Match Info" box. You have certain preferences, and it is better to express some of those preferences so that ladies know whether they might match or not.
I would do a bit more work on opening some of these sorts of doors in your profile.
PHOTOS I would put the photo where you are smiling as your main photo. Your smile looks better than your other two photos where you are not smiling.
A smile is more appealing to people.
PROFILE TEXT You have written a simple and straight forward presentation of yourself, but I would add more information about you. What makes you happy, what makes you sad. Don't go into a lot of detail, but give a bit more insight into who you are and your personality.
It is good to know that you work hard. But so does many other woman, so what makes you stand out in the crowd?
TIPS 1. Women will probably not find you. You have to go and find them. In this world of 'equality' women still like to be pursued and wooed....
2. Use the tools on this site. (who's view me, personality quizes, etc) Participate in the forums and blogs so that women (and men) can get to know you, one can strike up some fantastic online friendships this way.
3. Be realistic with what you are looking for, expect and look for ladies 'in your own league'....
4. Maybe God might want you find another wife, maybe not. For sure is the saying "God helps those who help themselves". Your going to have to do the hard yards, pound the payment (and possibly dance floors), email women, flower women, do the seaching, take the initiative, and put in the effort.
5. Remember that online dating is not that much different to real dating, you'll experience fizzers, and fakes. Don't let them get you down.
6. Keep your head in the clouds, but your feet on the ground.
PHOTOS Good. But i'd add a at least a couple more. Women like to look at photos as much as men like to look at photos.
TEXT To short, not enough. Remember this is you selling yourself to ladies. Females like to read about us blokes as well as look at the pics. So you need to expand what you have written and add some more specific info about what you are like, and you need to be more specific about what sort of women you like and don't like.
Seriously, we all have ideas of what we like and don't like, you need to express (in a nice way) some of these so women can compare themselves to what you say.
Fill out the part about what you are seeking more than just "any". Come on, you know what you are really looking for, what sort of women you like, so express it and indicate it in your profile. This will save you and them wasted time.
If you are looking for rave reviews here, then I would advise some changes to your profile.
PICS I'd remove your bed shot and have only shots where you are wearing a shirt or some other attire and standing up.
Non-shirt shots speak volumes and most are not good in other people's minds on a site like this.
I'd also add a couple of recent/current photos of you in a park or other public place so that girls can see you in a more natural setting.
PROFILE I really don't think that a 55yo woman would be for you. I think you need to be real with the age you are looking for and with what you really want in a girlfriend.
You have real likes and dislikes and you need to spell some of these out so that potential girlfriends can evaluate and help decide if you are worth contacting or not.
I would also fill in a bit more detail in your text about other things you like and don't like, etc.
I also suggest that you complete more information in your profile, particularly that "What I am Looking For" section.
More information is definitely needed to make your profile more believable and more real.
Well now. You got it in one! Great, simple profile that exposes a little of who you are and leaves lots of room for interested women to contact you to cure what curiosity might be aroused by your profile.
I think you've done a fantastic job.
Good on you. Now you just need to contact women who take your fancy and don't take is personally if you don't get many responses.
Good question - What do I need to change to get more attention?
Well, firstly I'd look in the mirror honestly and see if you are really like the things you are looking for in a woman.
By this I mean your photo does not reflect your profile description of yourself. Not trying to be rude, just honest.
Good luck finding someone on this site relatively local to you. You might want to try other more local dating sites for this. CS tends to be more internationally orientated. JMO after looking around on here for a while, eventually marrying a women I originally started something with on here.
I would also challenge your perception that you are going to attract women. It will be that women might look at your profile, but very few will actually contact you. That is your job to pursue the woman of your dreams, to act on the leads that you get from the "who's viewed me" tool, etc. You will probably need to participate in the forums and blogs. Let women get to know you through these mediums. Your profile is the appetizer, not the substance, that will still be up to you once you been viewed.
Most women still want the man to lead in dating, in contacting and in courtship.
Good luck.
Take what you want from this review, and leave the rest behind.
Target audience, remember that young blokes find it hard to think seriously about a long-term relationship. Well the type of guys you want according to your profile.
I perceive that physical attributes are the most important things for you. That's okay. But you might find that the right guy for you might not meet all of these 'attributes' listed.
I would actually upload some 'realistic' photos in natural settings (in a park, social setting, head and shoulders not half cut off like your b&w half photo.
These are my opinions to help you attract quality young guys.
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RE: Why does my profile attracts no one?
Hey mate, nothing wrong with your profile. Both your pics are great.Personally, I'd try to narrow down a bit the age of your ideal mate - 26 is a bit too young for a 40 year old in my opinion. But that is just me.
I tried to stay +/- 5 years of my age. It worked a lot better for me and I found someone far more compatible.
Remember that women are attracted to the "bad boys". Good boys don't really get that far through the internet, because women need that bit of "excitement" that they imagine.
Sorry to say that is human nature. As warped as it is, the bad boy is more attractive to women who think that he won't be bad toward them, even though he is bad in every other way.
I ventured overseas because I couldn't find anyone suited to me locally. Maybe you might consider the same.
After all, we are all related from "Adam and Eve" so to speak.
Don't give up, keep searching, praying, and dare I say, look outside the box. You will probably find your perfect partner in the place you least expect to find her.
Take the story of Ruth for example. A foreigner who found love with a man in a way that was so "out of the box" for that society.
Cheers.