Ladies who join a dating site are usually seeking romance first, and your profile reads more like a CV for a position to live in the UK.....so I would advice you to read other profiles to learn the best way to improve your profile. But how will you support this wife, if you are not seeking work in India, because you want to leave. Do you believe relocation is that easy and free? First, you need to improve your English skills and focus on developing yourself as a person with skills, as travels and visa's as well as marriage costs, but first you need to message and communicate. Ladies in the western world need to feel they share interests, even for some religion is important, and as a Sikh, you really have to look at the wider picture. Look at TAGS, improve your communications skills by sending flowers and messages. There are no short cuts, and romance takes time......Niah
I believe I have commented before, and my thought then was as today, mixed messages need to be dealt with. Confusing between a long term relationship and friends/hang out, makes a difference, especially whether they are already living local or come from anywhere in the world. You need to reread your profile, and change accordingly, considering what message is the real one. Expand your written text, add more photo's, look through TAGS to link with those who share your interests and send flowers. You say you work a lot, something which may cause ladies not to contact you, but do you contact ladies, starting with all those who live locally? But first an foremost, decide what you hope to achieve and don't hide behind mixed messages.....Niah
You seem to have thought your profile through, and I find the wording good, but a simple smile will change the impact of those photo's. Do try to take a new one, up closer so there is little surround, and with a real smile....you will be surprised how your profile will come alive.....Good Luck. Niah
I found the photo's more snapshots and busy, lacking impact when viewed as a thumbnail, but my main question has to be the status of short term. Could it mean you are really seeking a friend to share your holiday with, as you have stated the destination and time frame. Apart from that, not a bad profile, and I am sure you will soon have the red light shining in your mailbox.....Niah
The profile section regarding what you are seeking in ladies, is saying you have been hurt and don't want to go down that road again. But by listing the negatives, you will only send a shopping list scenario, that makes a lady move on quickly. You mention liking children, and you have three boys....I wondered if you was hinting she could have children, or you wanted them...but you state dating, which is sending mixed messages, and restricts ladies to those within your location. I would think you want a more mature lady by that list, so the 18 year old start is a little low, though you may want children, and 45 is a little late for that. TAGS will focus on your hobbies and make a direct link, just remember, ladies do not like being told what they need to be like. Isn't the fun though sometimes frustration, in learning for yourself, and who is going to admit their faults....to a stranger. Apart from that advice...photo, info boxes....all good. Niah
Not a bad profile that you can improve on as you get more used to different aspects...like TAGS, but giving your Skype details out first, is often not wise.... Ladies are cautious until they know you. Always be positive....not negative.... Niah
Amazed 174 and no favourites, but that can be achieved by sending messages and as you state dating, focused on the local area. Use TAGS to streamline and make contact with like minded ladies. Add a few more photo's, sharing a wider lifestyle image. But changing dating to Long-term...might help even more. I would remove the wording on entry, and replace with positive words.... Ladies don't like males who say they are good looking or not good looking, as it could be fishing for compliments.....so think on that....but a great start. Now try hard to achieve some favourites.....which is the way forward....so start messaging..... Niah
A simple profile that works. I would however add a few more photo's. Check your presentation....punctuation would help flow. Maybe extend the age of the lady a few years, but over-all a great start. Niah
Your opening statement caused me to believe that you had been on here a few years....but 23 views and no favourites...caused that statement......You are new..... You may be humble, but patience is a virtue too. Something else that's important, is for you to message ladies you find attractive, but this does not guarantee you will get a favourable reply. So send as many as possible as quickly as you can. Love is shared between two, but first there needs to be sincere communication. You have to earn the right to be in a good relationship, so start looking in the new members....and countries that may accept you.....just in case the lady you meet does not want to relocate. But you do need to share how you would spend a date, what your hobbies are can be covered by TAGS....and sent flowers.... Niah
Living on an island does restrict meeting people for dates, so you are going to have to meet online and hopefully meet up if things turn serious. This could be the initial problem, because some younger ladies, meaning aged 18, are not able to travel so easily, so you are going to be the one travelling, and the problem is if they want to relocate to an island, if things get serious. You have focused on your hobbies, but they may not be shared by a lady at first, though hopefully they could be developed, but my first suggestion is to read through TAGS, and link with those who share your interests before you start writing. You have made it clear how you live your life, now take a step back and accept you may have to adapt your life to accommodate a lady. Again, more mature females can be more flexible than the young, and as you are 28, consider starting your ladies age range around 25 + who may be more likely to settle for life on an island. Niah
look closer at the ladies profiles you have contacted.....and their answers to your mail.....there has to be a common factor...so maybe you are targeting the ladies you find attractive, but ones who want other things....check those profiles, ages, location.....and reasons why.....they never went further....
You have completed the information boxes, but without a profile photo and written text that gives insights into the real you, the profile is light on information. This can lead to readers believing you are not serious. I do believe you must explain in more detail, and could also use TAGS and flowers to make contact, instead of waiting for ladies to contact you. Niah
Well what I know of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, dating is not an option, so I imagine you will be on a short holiday in Vienna and hope to have a friend to meet you there.... Since ladies will need to either travel or live there, maybe you should be contacting local ladies there, sending flowers, but I think most will be wary, knowing that usually 2 year contracts in Saudi means rather a long time before you would meet again, if you both wanted too. So certainly focus on ladies in Vienna....add some real photo's and share some of your interests..... Niah
I do realise English is not your first language, but you really do need to write enough for a lady to learn something about you. Why would she contact you first without information? A profile is to prove you are worthy of contacting, meaning you share something in common. Sending your contact details is taking the easy way, if the lady bothered to contact you, but usually they won't, so take control. Fill the profile information in and expand in written text. Use photo's to get your message across, if you are lacking the language skills. Send out messages and flowers, once you are clear in your own mind what you are seeking...and if you favour Chinese ladies, the you already know where to look..... Niah
I am confused why a well educated man with his first language as English, would not know the correct spelling of WOULD....especially with the added aid of spell checks? So immediately I ask myself why..... To holiday in various places is every ones right, but I find it confusing why you'd post a small snapshot of you holding a baby on a dating site. It is also very difficult to see your face clearly, the most important feature for dating. This photo is more suited to secondary photo's, and really needs to be larger, maybe with a better explanation. You are seeking dating, and have never married, so no commitment there, which will send warning signals to most ladies as will your hobbies. Over all, it shows your lifestyle as an adventure, which is great for casual dating as long as you intend to wine and dine a date and make her feel a queen. So in my mind you haven't quite given a reason ladies would date you over someone who shows care and commitment. Ladies like to be treated as special, that really needs to be addressed.....but you have made a start, showed one side of your life, just needs to be developed with thought. Niah
I have to say there is nothing wrong with your profile, apart from.... I would reduce some of the information in boxed answers...working on less is more...but over all....a great truthful profile as you see it. I rarely comment on ladies profile's, but I think you have said what many ladies would agree with.... Niah
Although a brief profile, you have covered most points that are important, but being a businessman yourself and based in Dubai, I think you need to state if you need to remain there long term or wish to relocate? Are you seeking local ladies or on the WWW? Usually it become obvious, but I think you need to give that part of your profile a little more thought, though listing your likes is good because a simple word give a lady some insight into you. So although no photo, you have given pointers. You suggest a lady needs to contact you on face book and Skype as well as here on CS, which might happen over time, but since you haven't given contact details which I think is wise, I do think those references aren't really necessary until you have had time to maintain contact over a period of time. So my advice has to be to read through and give some serious thought. Niah
Well there was I about to say that English doesn't seem to be your first language, because of the bad spelling and grammar, to read your occupation as journalist/writer. My advice therefore has to be that your profile needs serious work before you will be taken seriously. Niah
Well I hope you view any female profile without a photo an equal to yours....or do you only view those with photo's? Stating you are bored, doesn't carry any weight as a reason why you haven't posted at least one photo, so as some have rule not to talk to anyone without a photo, you must expect contact to be restricted. Niah
You have travelled and have a variety experiences, including volunteering in Australia aged 65, but you are now resident in Malta where I would believe ladies who fit your profile within required ages, will not be plentiful on such a small island. Are you willing to relocate again? Yes I think you have thought through your profile before posting, but whether it will be easy to achieve without compromise, is another matter. Niah
I have a few things which concern me.... I think you have gone overboard explaining...and are scaring ladies away. Even if they read from start to finish, which I don't believe they will, the wording ...less is more, comes to mind. As we mature, especially if we have spent time alone, we tend to forget that a relationship is about two sharing, and reading your profile between the lines, the message that comes through is you have your lifestyle sorted, and a lady will fit in..... Wrong......you will have to adapt as she will.....those days are gone when a man had the final word.....especially if she has worked and supported herself. A relationship is of two equals, and you may enjoy travelling around to work, but many prefer to take life at a slower pace. After a lifetime of working, most welcome a time to slow down, and spend time with love ones. We may think we are young...which is great and we may be compared with others, but there are always restrictions....maturity is knowing what you can and can't do, and accepting/adapting....and that is reflected in the partner you choose...and who chooses you..... Niah
To be perfectly truthful, I couldn't go on reading the ramble of words that form a list of the lady you are seeking, and my main thought was self respecting females will move on just as quickly. The photo's are fine, as are the filled boxes of text, but the written text for me was more an article about your dreams. To improve in my mind you need to reduce all written text, remembering ladies do not take kindly to males who do not have open minds regarding their part in any relationship. Niah
If you feel in awe of anything...person or object, you will not portray the real you. So to be yourself, start in your comfort zone, gradually expanding your horizons.... But a reality check.....fun girl....when you have a pout....what do you expect, unless you are hoping ladies feel sorry for you. Needy men are not sort after, so be positive, stop looking for only pretty girls, and accept all comers, even outside your preferred age range, and then you will meet fun people...not from a shopping list, but in reality. So take a serious look at presentation, which means photo's and written text. Niah
You mention a relationship, yet to most, activity partner can mean no commitment, so rather than sending mixed messages, I would make the situation clear. Not a bad profile, just needs a little more thought and a few more photo's and expand the written text, using flowers to make contact and TAGS to locate ladies who share your interests. Niah
My advice as you state email/pen pal, to go to TAGS, and seek ladies who share the same interests, because communication would depend on that. I would think adding photo's and more written text, will enhance your profile, and as communication in cyberspace you aim, join the forums. Flowers will open communications, meaning sending them to ladies you find interesting, and I am sure you will soon have a few favourites.....but Forums I think is a starting place. Niah
I do agree with the last comment regarding good looking ladies, which proves you do not understand ladies, though few men do. I am more concerned you see a lady to be an activity partner....no more it seems, which will certainly send negative messages to any lady who reads your profile. Spelling is not a problem, just use the spell check, but bored makes me wonder if you actually work.....and hope a lady will bring some life to your day, and the mention of two words 'desperate or daggy,' does follow a line of thought as 'needy.' I'd look closely at that sentence. Photo okay, could be improved and adding a few more would help. No need to expect ladies to contact you, best contact them starting with ladies in your area, because activity partner restricts you to close locality. Flowers are so easy to send to ladies you find attractive.....why not use them.... Niah
Lonely....on a cruise ship.... Friends/hangout....yet you believe there is a lady out there for you.......but nothing serious... As I said on the first profile review....you are sending mixed messages......and still are.....
Not quite sure, but the profile comment implies by friends/hang out that local to where you live in Mexico. If that isn't right, then best expand, as I can't see casual meeting up if a flight in involved. Everything else seems fine, though I believe the written text can be expanded, and a few more photo's would help. Niah
3912 views is healthy...and you have 6 favourites, so communication skills are good..., but it makes me wonder the age of the favourites. Why, because you have given ages of ladies younger than you, and not very often will you find a lady who is in her 20's and also financially secure as a man in his 50/60's.
I think with mixed messages, your profile may confuse some who want to be confused....meaning you are seeking a youngish lady. I don't therefore think it is 'animal magnetism.' If you are happy continuing as you are, then leave the profile as is, with just a few minor tweaks, but if you seek serious change, though I believe everyone gets a certain amount of hopeful enquiries, then it means you have to initiate it by editing the existing profile. I do think your photo's can be improved on, so maybe focus on them and use TAGS. Sending flowers to ladies you are attracted to either locally of world wide, could make you so busy with their return messages, you will not bother to focus on the ones who aren't important. Niah
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Ladies who join a dating site are usually seeking romance first, and your profile reads more like a CV for a position to live in the UK.....so I would advice you to read other profiles to learn the best way to improve your profile.But how will you support this wife, if you are not seeking work in India, because you want to leave. Do you believe relocation is that easy and free?
First, you need to improve your English skills and focus on developing yourself as a person with skills, as travels and visa's as well as marriage costs, but first you need to message and communicate.
Ladies in the western world need to feel they share interests, even for some religion is important, and as a Sikh, you really have to look at the wider picture.
Look at TAGS, improve your communications skills by sending flowers and messages.
There are no short cuts, and romance takes time......Niah