Why Some Younger Men Like Older Women

Older woman with younger man romance or marriage is not a matter of awe anymore. Many men have found love, harmony and happiness with older women. Nowadays age is no more a criteria when it comes to matters of the heart though earlier that was not the case. Actually what makes guys attracted to older woman? I think the possible reasons may be as follows…

Maturity and confidence

The older women bring a sense of maturity and confidence into the relationships. Older Woman has more experience with men and is more stable compared with younger women and men feel more comfortable with them. Young women tend to be more fickle minded compared to mature women. Mature women know what they want and are much responsible in handling relationship. So they by default bring more life experiences into the relationship and therefore nurture the growth of their partner without trying to be in command of the relationship.

Older women are taboo

This factor makes young men attracted to them. Our society is used to see older men and younger women more than the other way round and thereby offer more acceptances to such relationships. The normal tendency of people is that they want what they cannot have or what is a ‘forbidden fruit’.

Lesser competition

Young women may have several men chasing after them (the general trend). Older women offer an alternative. Also to an older woman a young man feels more attractive and boost to her ego that she tends to shower her attraction on him. Also there are many liberated and attractive older women known colloquially as ‘cougars’ hunting for younger guys in places like the internet or bars looking for some fun life of a single and are easily available. Personally I find the word ‘cougar’ as highly objectionable.

Taking charge

Young men do not have much experience with women and may not know what to expect with women. And it helps to have ‘take charge’ kind of women as a partner who has already been in the same situation earlier. Many people also agree to the fact that sex gets better with age and getting an experienced partner is considered a plus because older women know what they want and they have experience towards pleasing a man. Older Woman also mostly takes care of the fact that they don’t get pregnant by using contraceptive pills to protect them.

Intelligent and confident

People gain more confidence as they grow older. Many young men find older woman attractive as tend to be less superficial. A conversation with an older woman can be interesting and intellectual whereas majority of younger woman tend to be silly, immature and sometimes shallow.


Majority of Older women is financially independent and has successful careers. Men like it when his partner is self-sufficient and self-supportive and don’t need him to take care of her.

The need for mothering

It is said that all males have a child in them. An older woman can easily fulfill that need in them though no woman likes to think by this way directly. But especially those men who are deprived from their mother at their childhood by anyway, get attracted to older women generally.

Attraction and love

Some may find it odd that some young man surrounded by girls at his age group would find an older woman attractive. However, this is because many older women are really attractive and younger men may even find romance or love in them.

I may have left out something. Please feel free to add more through comments.

Comments (42)

Age does not make a difference...
Dear Friend ,Exactly i agree with you the points which you mentioned because age does not make a difference even distance only matters mutual understanding ,support ,know each other and many more factors.I met many peoples ,Some married older woman and some married younger woman.Every body thinks by their own Phenomena.
I just trying to be mind logic and reality.. not interested with guys younger than my age
And i set default age in the profile, but what makes me surprise, my viewers are 60% younger than me. Then I undoe the age filter..wow.. now im enjoying reading my inbox
The younger they blows me with a zest romantics words.. yeah they boost my confidence ..
love wow
Age shouldn't be a factor when it comes to matters of the heart. Loyalty & exclusivity should be the trump card to successful relationship. Hypothetical speaking let's say I'm tempted to take that route. She should be totally drop dead gorgeous with substance. We talking about someone who's exceptional period! I should pride myself calling her my queen. The thing with cougars though oftenly things tend to be complicated. Especially with someone like myself cause I still desire to at least have 1 child. I almost dated someone from here. She didn't want to understand the importance of me having to pass on my genes. So I guess another 1 bit the dust. :heartbroken:
well I am 65 and had a few young guys contact me but I like my own age group but guess what guys my age guys are looking for younger women they think at 65 we are past it haha,
im attracted to a lady 12 years older than me and all i have to say is all of the above is so wrong, i just hate false facts, i hate when people try talk about something they know NOTHING about or like artists that copy other peoples work are just plastic and fake. !!
Just ended a relationship with a wonderful younger man! He was charming, sexy, strong, kind, honest.. Physical relationship was amazing! I had to end it due to his jealousy over competition and my not wanting to spend every second of every day with him. I would do it all again with a younger man. The last two attempts at relationships with men my age were painfully lacking stamina and spontaneity. Age is but a number when you feel good and can find common ground with someone.
the majority of cases, the
young boy is looking for
older women because
they know how to give
tenderness and love, she
will never deceive you
with another. And is
always there for you. For
me, true love is between a
young boy and a woman
older than him. Age does
not matter.
Surprising most comments are pro for younger men,older women. Now in actual life, not as popular as this sounds and certain amt of disapproval is still associated with it. All amounts to what is going on between each couple and if they think it works...more power to them!daydream typing wine
My experience with younger men is that they all seem to be seeking a mommy figure...someone to take care of them, feed them, clean up after them, support them, drive them around, buy them things, take them out, and wham/bam/thank you maam whenever he's in the mood. Then, if they don't get their way, they pout like a little kid, say and do hurtful things, and try to convince you everything is your fault. They may be charming and good looking and full of vitality, but behind closed doors it's a different story.
great thoughts....
well its definately experience, less mind games and they are not giggly, they are wordly,smarter, and know how to cookrolling on the floor laughing
some of us older women like the younger guys because they can keep up with us, and we need to be turned on by a good body too, who wants a fat balding 70 year old with hemorrhoids and a p*nis that has seen better daysrolling on the floor laughing { no offense to 70 year olds},
even if he had a brilliant personality you would still have to sleep with him once a monththumbs down , well if it takes been a cougar count me inapplause cheering head banger
Well, I think finding love is not as easy as people think...love is a good thing....still waiting...Good blog...good read.conversing applause
Subadiva - 100% agree

I just had a 4.5 year relationship with a man 8 years younger - I was his everything - I had white gold with diamonds - cars etc FROM him BUT I said to him from the start I did not want a family & I did not want to be married again.

After several requests of marriage & being turned down he went out & found himself a woman his age. They were married within 8 months & she was pregnant within 10. This will be the 3rd woman he has got pregnant & his 4th child to 3 women.

So its not just 'Why do younger men fancy older women' its also 'Why don't older women fancy younger men'

Do you fancy doing a top 10 on that

Bitter much!!!rolling on the floor laughing
@Scubadiva Thanks for sharing your opinion. But, what about exceptions? :)handshake bouquet
That's a very flattering list, but my opinion is a bit more pragmatic. I believe most young men simply want to have unattached sex and young women are too much work. So the thinking goes: I can learn from an older woman, I don't have to worry about money or a lot of hoopla, they're supposedly h*rny and grateful to have some young guy, so it's great to use them for sex until I'm ready to start a family with a young one. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that is how I see it.
@ci4560 My pleasure! tip hat handshake bouquet
I would like to thanks
for the right words you say
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@latin_guy37 You are absolutely right. I also have similar experience.handshake
For me teher is nothing better than a older woman. But sadly sometimes woman thinks that young man wants to take advance or something and they can not beleieve that could be possible. The age is just something mental.
@pinkdiamond3 :) handshake bouquet
Because Cougars are sexy and know how to treat their manlips lips
@yolanda1970 That will be great!thumbs up handshake bouquet
If my husband is younger than me, yes, I will take care of him, and make myself more younger, suitable for him.
@eyong Thanks for commenting. handshake cheers
If you know you are a faithful guy who can really keep love, who knows the meaning of love. And you need a good partner that you can spend the rest of your life happily, Then go for a lady older than you. BUT if you are just a player hehe you can jump around with the girls. I wanna live long, so i will go after ladies older than myself hehehehe
My pleasure, LifeThirst. :)
@BUBBLYBELL Well said! thumbs up handshake bouquet
Age is just a number !!
Maturity is age number :)
@miranda3535 Right!thumbs up handshake bouquet
when love coming....age isnt important....age is illusion...
@sakalidis handshake cheers
yes great list
@lauraak13 handshake bouquet
grin great list
@Liana23 handshake bouquet
this is so true, my friend is dating someone 10yrs younger than her, he has said she is much more stable than women his age, no games, she doesn't look 50, she takes care of her health, is educated, happy and secure in herself. well done Life thirst great tips!
@bard76 Very true! handshake cheers
always favoured a more mature woman. fed up of all high maintenance and childish games of younger women.the 'older' woman is more romantic,intriguing with intelligence. when it comes to the bedroom. what more can i say. wow!
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