JuanD: Love to travel; particularly to avoid Winter.

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Middle-aged, but still feeling young.
I never want to stop learning.
Interested in History, Architecture, Art, Travel & Scenery.
Pretty laid back and easy going.
If you just want to take me for a ride, I'll say adios!

I've been getting replies mostly from guys who are about half my age. Not sure if that's just because there is no one of my own age still around!
To be honest I've been celibate for 17 and a half years, so even I have never been with someone my age. Physical contact now would probably make me feel very self-conscious; possibly because I was the exact opposite when I was young and super-fit.
One of the very few benefits of old age is not caring what you look like, because no-one sees you that way anyhow.
But I really don't want anyone to see me as a potential lover.
If I cared for someone that way I'd probably have to kill myself trying to get back in shape!

Since I love meeting people who are very different from me, I guess age is just another difference.
I may even be able to offer some tips and advice, based on many years of making every possible mistake!

But what I've discovered in the past is that many people, particularly gay guys, lack self-confidence.
Just being involved with someone who cares and is interested, can allow you to grow and explore your own strengths.
We generally don't get to do this at school and in our young lives, so relationships can be a bit of a fumble, and a big learning curve.
Plus seeking approval all the time can be time and energy consuming: even destructive.

So good friends and supportive partners are not only a great joy, but a source of confidence that makes a strong foundation for the rest of your life.
Sharing can halve your sorrows and double your happiness!

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Even tempered and inquisitive.
Not necessarily someone with the same interests as me, but someone who wants to share their interests, so we can each broaden our horizons.
Able to share a laugh, without being too frivolous.

**UPDATE** (Continued from above)

I've never been possessive in relationships.
That's not to say I don't care, or don't get jealous.
But jealousy is just destructive, and as Margaret Mead said, "it's a sign of your own insecurity: not how much you love someone".
Plus if you care about someone, you want them to enjoy whatever life can offer. It would be supreme vanity to assume you can be all things to one person, or to curb their fun, just to support your own ego.
A commitment for me, is to simply make another person the most important in your life. That can be the same for friend, family or lover.
"Love is the condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own". That works equally for all kinds of relationships.

As a gay male, even if marriage is now sometimes an option, one of the benefits is that we can construct our relationships on our own terms.
Conforming to social and historical mores, and judging others against them, seems like just a recipe for making a lot of people unhappy.

I have a couple of rules for myself:
"You can't be happy at someone else's expense"
"There's a nice way to do absolutely everything"

If you've read this far I have to commend you for your perseverance.
You can probably tell it's a long time since I had anyone to talk to about deep and meaningfuls.
I've only done so now because social media has taught me that no-one ever reads past the first few words.


Like most Australians born before the 70's, I'm basically Anglo. As far as I know, almost equal parts English, Irish & Scottish. Don't think any have been here long enough to claim convict heritage though (locally regarded as 'Australian Royalty').


I know I'm in a tiny minority, but I never understood the need for religion..... except for people who don't like to think for themselves. I think I have a pretty good idea of what's right and wrong.



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