No matter how you ended up single at this stage of your life, or how long you have been single, chances are you have made a decision to find another romantic relationship or, at least, start dating again. You wouldn't be reading this if your methods have worked well, so open your mind and pay attention.
1) Look within your age group. You may think this is the time to find yourself a hot beach bunny, but remember the downside: she wants you for the security you represent, the places you can take her and the things you will buy. She will create a lot of drama in your life and may be looking to trade-up to your wealthier friends or someone younger. For a while it may be fun to try and keep up with her, but later you may not even want to. She won't understand your problems and you won't understand hers. Women of your own age, however, are not high-maintenance and are past the stage of creating drama out of everything. They understand you and you will understand them. You will have things in common – like arthritis, and an interest in the economy or politics. Best of all, they are modern and often look far younger than you think they actually are. Many single women over 50 are in excellent shape, know how to dress appropriately, make a good impression on the people they meet, are independent, and usually don't look to a man to solve all their problems. 2) Use a good online dating service. Again, look for women your own age and contact them. Make a coffee date and actually show up. Meeting for coffee doesn't mean you have to marry your date. Also, don't be too picky. Don't look for a duplicate of your wife, or the exact opposite of your wife. Don't look at the pictures too closely. Remember not every beauty takes a good picture. Many models are not particularly attractive in real life – they just photograph well. Also, beware of those sexy studio pictures. They are done with LOTS of makeup and photo enhancements. And don't be afraid to contact the women who appear out of your league. Chances are, all the other men are afraid of rejection too. 3) Ask your friends' wives to introduce you to women. Don't ask the husbands. They will forget or won't want to get involved. Wives always have a bunch of worthy single female friends and are happy to set up a comfortable meeting. Also, women often are better judges of who would provide a good relationship than you are. 4) Look in the supermarket, the bookstore, Starbucks, festivals, flea markets ... you get the picture. Anywhere you see a woman you find attractive. Don't be afraid to say the perfect pick-up line: "Hello. I think you are pretty. Are you single? Care to have coffee with me?" Be polite, confident and not sexy or defensive. 5) When in the social scene, forget the sexual harassment training you got at work. Finding a relationship out of the office is different. Single women looking for a relationship are also looking to flirt.Would YOU like to publish an article on Connecting Singles? Are you an expert at something, have an interesting story, or a good lesson to teach... why not share with other members. If you have experience or expertise in a topic that will be of interest to CS members, you may submit an article to be published on the site.
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