I have noticed that two very basic feelings are cotrolling everthing i say, do, decide in my life.
One is fear, the other is love
When I ask myself regularly..(a lot of times I forget but sometimes i do) .'where does this come from, when I look very honest to myself?....peel off all the layers and get to the bottom?
I can then easily sense, deep within me, whether it is fear or love.
Just because of the fact that I am conscious of it....automatically I choose the side of love more often. At the level of consciousness ((induced by asking myself) there suddenly appears a possibility to just choose.
It was very simple and very surprising at the same time, to get to understand this proces...and it has brought me a lot of god and nice experiences. It just feels much better...more real and more open and trusting...it gives energy.
RE: why Man so afraid ??
no ideaI experience it the other way...
all men stick to me...nowadays
even the ones I 'had' 30 years ago...through facebook they come back and start to call me...
I feel popular in spite of my age...can choose..like candies in a big store, so much choice but everything looks good...or nothing good enough?
a luxuory....it makes my hesitate...he? him? or a fresh new one?
old? young? educated? or not so? black? white? circumcised? etc...
and I am getting experienced in dumping.
how to do it in a nice way??
A woman who finds real love...more easy.... is a woman who knows how to dump.
I kept my ex husband for 20 years...that was too long...too loyal..so I'm now practising in dumping. I need that.
maybe your friends are doing the same?
Although I do it in a nicer way; I explain why....openly.