My OP was what was going on in my mind ... like a early morning thought.
I spoke to this friend and we were discussing whats happening around us and in our lives generally and the part that we must be doing the mans share of thinking was actually in a light sense .. it was more to do with a situation we were discussing .. not to put down men or insult anyone.
NONE of what i said is a generalization about men as such. Its observations here and there .. put down in the OP and open for discussion.
I have seen very caring and very sensitive men as well but not many .. i mean in the emotional or communicative sense.
Plus its important to consider that the section of people i see and have observed is totally different culturally .. so maybe the difference seems large to me.
There are men who are very understanding .. like i have mentioned about my friends in the other post .. in my post you quoted ... i was accounting for the different kind of guys i have noticed as in family , friends ,acquaintances. Plus the society and culture i come from , personally i havent seen many guys very communicative.
As women we can be so confusing too. Sometimes many women arent as open as they should be in a given situation.
Actually all this is more of the kind of people we have seen and how we analyzed them ... generalization is of no use.
Thats such an emotional post and sooo beautiful !!!
I have this big admiration for men who dote on their children its like wow !! I dont get to see single parent fathers here .. its not usual and not in the way i see people on CS taking care of their children from feeding to name it .. they do it.
Its soooo touching !!
Ohh that was a lovely novel ( you can write more ) Tater.
Also, a lot of guys when they dont understand the problem seem to overlook the situation , assume its understood or will be and some even find it emotionally pressurizing or taxing.
In simple words apart from some guys who go quiet cos they dont understand , there are guys who find it very demanding to be able to handle situations of this kind and hence the differences begin.
I do agree one's got to simply discuss and prioritize .. silence can only breed more confusion.
Its always suprised me how males think so much differently than females on many issues esp. emotional . Its like you go all sad and touchy on issues they can be outright cold about or rather find you totally incomprehensible to have that reaction even.
As women .. i guess most women like men to be prompt in staying in touch , displaying affection ,calling , speaking ..... just being there. I guess men might expect the same of women .. not sure.
I was talking to a friend this morning and we sort a concluded we must be doing the man's share of thinking and feeling too
I am not generalizing but my observation and experience so far.
And Guys .. do you find a lot of women emotionally a bit too over sensitive or say .. difficult to understand ?
So ... people what do you think ? any experiences to share ?
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Thanks Ras ..
on the cheek
Men and Women emotionally..
Yes Tina .. but reading my OP again .. i felt i wanted the OP to be clear.