ShyButterFly Forum Posts (2)

RE: Can you fall in love with someone you have never met?

Yes, I also believe in falling in love over the net with the 'person' ..... has happened a few times ...

It's exciting, butterflies, etc... but then comes ... 'the meet' and the 'pit in your stomach' ... as they don't have that 'x' factor in person.

Call me shallow, but there has to be that 'something' .. chemistry/physical appeal ... there isn't much point being in love with the 'person within', when you have a hard time looking at the person 'without' (on the outside) ... they don't have to be 'handsome/beautiful', because we all see people differently, but it is important how that person looks in YOUR eyes ...

I have met some very special people, have connected deeply, and value their friendship enormously, but unfortunately, no 'bang' .... as much as I would like it to be.

"Give it time' you may say .... OK, done that ...but how much time is fair to the other person, you are screwing them around and probably hurting them by not returning their feelings... is that more acceptable than saying 'love you as a friend' .. and let them get on with finding someone worthy of their love and time?

I wouldn't appreciate being 'stringed along' until something better turned up or whatever.

.... so much for making a 'quiet' debut on this site

RE: Who Matches who on this Site

thank you for putting a smile on my face, lol, reading thru the posts... lol

We are all looking for the same thing... so the 'match' shouldn't be such a surprise.... but it's not the characteristics of personality, and activity that people want to match with necessarially, but the 'chemistry', physical attraction ... but some would have an extremely difficult time of either, since they don't put a photo up, (even password protected), and don't put any info in the profile...

So how are we (females/males) meant to be blown away by your profile... ????

But on the lighter side, at least there is 'contact' with another human being in the posts