will they come to me like a fly to a jam pot or, will they run like a fly out of a mustard pot.

Hi All, be honest I can take it, what do you think. Ok that's just a bit of humour I decided to add, the same as the title.
I am trying to encourage women to talk to me first of all. So that we can meet over coffee or drink somewhere private yet public enough to be at ease.
I am looking for someone to love, a friend and companion. That's my long term goal.
I don't intend to waste anyone's time or my own for that matter,
but to be honest I need someone in my life, and yes, I'm a little fussy.
Many thanks in advance for any advice you can give me.