I sit back and watch my friends' and familys' dating lifestyles. They meet someone and they fall in love within a month or two. They're already having sex and talk about marriage by 3 months. Hell my one friend is engaged to a guy shes been dating just under 4 months and has known about 6 months. That is way too fast for me. One friend has gone on 3 dates and is letting him go through her phone. She has only known him a month.
Is it just me? Do I move too slow? Is it wrong that I want to take my time, build trust and a real relationship before having sex and letting that person in to every part of my life? I know how long it takes me to build a strong friendship and I think its very important that you build that along with a romantic relationship. I'm not in it to learn for the next one. I'm in it to make it work and to make there be no next one. In my almost 27 years of life I have never seen a fast relationship last forever. And I want forever. If you want something to last forever wouldn't you want to take your time to build it?
I love my one cousin, she always does weird things with me. I had the Bananza theme song stuck in my head all day yesterday and I kept singing "bum didabum didabum didabum BANANZA!" Well she picked me up to go to Walmart with her and the whole time I'm still singing. So she joined in. Here we both are, 20something year olds walking around Walmart singing as if it was a normal thing to do. You might be thinking its not that bad but we made sure we sounded bad, for extra fun. And when someone looked at us weird we greated them and walked away. Has to be one of the best times I have ever had at Walmart.
Tomorrow is February 14th. I will be in hiding all day. Now I'm not one of the people that hates vday when single. I actually always hate it. Id much rather be random in showing my love than have a day that bascily tells me I have to. I understand Saint Valentinus ( or Saint Valentine) married people that the goverment wouldn't allow to be married. That is something to celebrate, but never do I see one Saint Valentine on the 14th. Its all forced romance or forced loneliness. This is why I stay to myself and do what I want. I just pertend its any other day. If we aren't going to celebrate the saint the day is named after then this hiday has become completely commercialized. Christmas is almost there but I won't get into that.
To all of you that do celebrate it, I hope its a good one. I hope no one feels lonely or pressured into anything.
I have been on this site... maybe a month now. And some days I have to admit that I am scared to read what people have sent me in my inbox. Not for what I would consider any normal (or less weird ) reason. Simply because I always seem to attract the people that live by the song Call Me Maybe. They all basicly say "I love your eyes. I want to make you happy for the rest of our lives and always be inlove". Thanks, I know, my eyes are aawweesooooome (that's partly sarcasm if you couldn't tell
)! But dude, this is the first thing you said to me, EVER! I don't even know your name and you're talking about being inlove. Is it just me or does that freak anyone else out? Maybe I'm just crazy or maybe its a cultural thing that my sheltered Baltimorian brain can't handle. But even if that is that case, its not gonna work! From my experience, talking about love within the first week will guarantee no love. That is if you are already out of the school years.
This is not limited to this site. I've been on other dating sites where it happend too. Hell, I've been in chat rooms where they basicly say hello, their a/s/l and say I love you. So please, if this is a culture thing and I just don't get it then tell me. But if I'm just a freak "I love you" magnet please just pray for my soul.
I got a friend request on FB about a week ago, it was my niece. At first I thought some one was supervising her and typing for her. Now I realize that its all her. My almost 10 year old niece has a Facebook. I'm having mixed feelings about this. She's too young; I get to be more apart of her life; her life is posted online; I can chat with her more; it makes me feel old... so on and soforth. My next thought was that my page is faaaar from kid friendly and now she can see it. So I am currently trying to find a way to block my content and keep her as a friend. If I can't figure it out then I have to unfriend her. I'm not sure I'm mature enough to handle this.
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