Sorry, ladies, but in your quest for the answer to that elusive question "aren't there any nice, REAL men out there in the world?" you've often added the caveat "NO BAGGAGE!"
In doing so, you doomed your search before its begun, and that's exactly why you haven't found any "nice real men." And for some of you, it's why you get abused, belittled and (worse) attacked.
Let's put aside for a moment all the freak men here on the internet. This post isn't about them, and I have a blog about them coming shortly. They'll get theirs'.
But sorry to say, real men have baggage. That's what makes them real.
Often baggage is a dependent family, responsibilities to former ex's, children, bills, personal problems. That's what REAL men have. That's what NICE men have.
Consider the guy who claims to be without any baggage. First, he's a f@cking liar. You know it, deep inside, but your delusions make you WANT to believe that guy who looks an awful lot like a Abercrombie model in his profile COULD be real. Bull. (The fat, bald jerk stole a photo from the Abercrombie web site.)
The guy who doesn't have any baggage has, instead, a path of destruction behind him because, by nature, BAGGAGE IS RESPONSIBILITY. Baggage is follow-up. Baggage means being a man and holding up your end of the deal, supporting those who need you, being there when someone is in need, even if it's an ex, or a child, or a former girlfriend.
The guy without baggage has shirked those responsibilities, leaving each relationship behind him without any feeling of responsibility to the other party, leaving a "clean slate" only because his callous disregard for women has allowed him to erase them like chalk on a blackboard.
Women claim to want to be protected; biologically, there is a reason for this. But all humans practice self-loathing -- the ones who claim they love themselves are practicing it the loudest -- and some women exercise this by seeking out the men who will destroy them the quickest. So they go for the "no baggage" guy with the fake profile, or the photo of him standing holding a weapon, or shirtless drunk holding a beer bottle and making a thumbs-up gesture. (Because he must, of course, ensure the message "Beer is cool" is known to all others in our species. Sigh.) These are abusers without any responsibilities, and therefore... NO BAGGAGE.
When women start to realize that baggage means a REAL man who can handle whatever life throws at him, can stand up and protect his woman when she needs it, and will be there long after the relationship has been all but nuked --- then women may start having relationships that matter.
Baggage is a good thing. It's what we use to carry our humanity. The guy boarding the plane without his humanity checked is the one you DON'T want to spend four hours sitting next to.
Unless you're a sadist, then this whole blog is pointless, and you can just go hog wild.
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