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it's easy

To Fail

To give up

To be angry

To be selfish

To hold grudges

To make mistakes

To pass the blame

To go with the flow

To put yourself first

To mis-spend money

To ignore sound advice

To make lousy decisions

To wish upon a lonely star

To choose comfort over principles

To prioritize things over relationships


But ……………..

it does not help you

….. at all
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time well spent

we always - always make time for those who are important to us.

in one respect all people are equal. the day has 24 hours for everyone, that is 1,440 minutes or 86, 400 seconds. whether we are the president of our republic, a royal or a commoner, the CEO of a company or an intern, whether we are influential or not, whether we are pretty or homely - we all have the same amount of time and have to do the best with it.

we are quick to say, "i haven't got the time." but this is not always correct. we all have the same amount of time. if we want to be honest, we ought to say, "at the moment i haven't got the time for you or for this specific matter." it is a question of priorities and of the emphasis we put on certain things in our lives. whether we have enough time for things depends on how highly we regard our priorities and organise our lives.

when we talk about a certain day, we call it a "date". each day has each specific "date": a certain year, a certain month and within the month a certain day. we agree upon a specific date when we make an appointment with someone. however, the word "date" actually refers to rather more than only a specification of time. "date" derives from the latin and means "given" (datum). time is given to us; it is a gift; it is something entrusted to us, a certain day, a specific time. God gives it to everybody. so it is up to us to sort our priorities and make the right use of time because the things which are important to us will be the ones that takes it all up.

however, it is not necessarily what we declare to be the most important to us, but it is in fact what is most important to us. for when you love someone or something you have got the time to spare. we always make time for what we really love. someone once said: "show me your calendar and your bank account and i'll tell you what matters most to you."

with sis les...
if you love you have time to spare, no matter the schedules, you take the time. we can easily recognize how important relationships are to us by the amount of time we invest in them.

it is vitally important to start planning ahead and taking our relationships seriously because there will come a time in all our lives when they will be more important than anything else.

after all, when we are at the end of our lives we do not ask for our land titles, stock certificates, precious jewels, or how much money do we have in our bank accounts but for the people that matters the most to us, for our loved ones - so let us play it safe - let us spend our time and resources and emotions to what really has lasting value - your marriage, my love, your children, her husband, our parents, the best friends that we have and other worthy relationships... i tell you, these people always - and i mean always long for us and our time.
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appreciate me today - love me day after day

We think heroic examples of extraordinary commitment like that of famous missionaries like Mother Theresa, Hudson Taylor or David Livingstone are the only ones that make a difference. We remember lines from classic movies about love from Hollywood dream factory, when Julia Roberts is whispering, “I’m just a simple girl,” to Hugh Grant or when Mark stand back and let his best friend marry the love of his life, Juliet or when Anna Valerious risked her life to save Van Helsing from eternal damnation.

When we think of true love, we think of Elizabeth and Mr.Darcy, of Romeo and Juliet or Emma and Mr. Knightley. However, true love has got much more to do with the mundane rather than with the spectacular and exceptional. Daily routine determines our lives. That is where our love and our appreciation of our neighbor are called for.

It need not be an expensive clothes from People are People or Kamiseta; a small gift is more than enough! A good word, an encouraging text or a short message in Facebook, a quick hug gives some color to a dull, ordinary day for a moment. And according to my married friends, a ‘thank you’ after the meal or the question, “what would you like to watch on TV tonight?” instead of channel surfing through the fashion/sports channel can signal loving sentiments.

How about dropping a line to a friend? Imagine how please they would be. Equally, a short call to a neighbor/friend indicates our appreciation of them. Obviously, we do not have the time for all these little gestures every day, but try one a day!
‘For the whole world you are just somebody – but for somebody you are the whole world.” This is certainly a rather idealistic way of putting it, but it reflects the longing that lives in all of us. We all wish to experience what it is like to be important to others, to be appreciated by others. It is exactly at this point where Jesus’ challenge comes in, “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you”.

I am a bit insensitive about a lot of things and people. I’ve an excused for that, I am primarily a Phlegmatic! I know it’s not much but…. Anyway, I do hope that from now on I will do better. I’m sorry for my lack of concern and insensitivity. In my heart I do know that you are all beautiful people with big hearts for God and others.

What small token of love can I give to someone today?
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I am OLD

I was sitting in a coffee shop quietly drinking a frapuccino i just ordered when I was interrupted with a piercing yell from somebody in front of me. I looked around greatly embarrassed that my name was “announced” so loudly; I stared straight at the person who just did it ready to be angry…but I feel like a yell was also about to come gushing out of my throat when I realized it was my long lost (young) friend (which by the way doesn’t look so young anymore)…goodness!! Times flies by really fast. How come she looks so grown up and ladylike?…she even speak and act like one!!! How long has it been?! Seven, Eight…maybe six years ago? Oh, my! I can’t remember!!! Am i old?

Anyway, after exchanging hugs, kisses and other political pleasantries (actually the joy I felt seeing her wasn’t feigned nor political…they’re genuine) I ask her about common acquaintances and friends and her family, she said that all is well…Blah…blah…And then she asked me the two questions dreaded by all singletons, “Ate Nat, are you married?, How old are you? Duh!!

How old am I? “Still young enough… dear”, I answered her and I smile sweetly to assure her that I may be old but hey, I’m not ancient…yet…ha-ha. Her question though simple pushed me to look deeper why most people my age felt pressured and yes, embarrassed (I’m not alone) every time this questions arises.

According to Max Lucado’s friend there are three things people should do in order to stay young. Firstly, eat healthy, secondly, exercise regularly, and thirdly lie about your age. Not a very godly advice, that last one.

So, when did I realize I’m old? Did I miss the tell-tale signs? No. I knew and was acutely aware because people call me Ate (even those that look a lot older than I am!), I have carved fats on my back even though i am skinny, small moles appear on my face and neck, I call everyone “gang”, and almost all of my friends and family advices (force) me to get married soon or else forfeit the blessings of child bearing and rearing (never mind the sleepless nights and zombie like days it will cause you), also I cant jump as high nor run as fast, even worst I have an affinity for old music, movies and old books.

But as my 29th birthday (yes i am 29 even though I look 28…lol) is fast approaching I am rather encourage that the Bible (which our guide and standard for living…defensive I know) views old age as the age of the wise. As one add years to her life one learns from experiences, good or bad, and it makes one stronger, wiser and even shrewder (Be wise as a serpent and humble as a dove). Youthfulness is always associated with vigor and even energy but with it also comes foolish decisions and miscalculated actions. Old age is look upon as the more mature age but also sluggish in a way.But which one is better being young or being old? Just as the springs role is different from that of the fall, so each season of our lives has a different emphasis, focus, and beauty. One is not better than the other (but preferableJ)….each yeilds its own unique treasures. I could not say that one season of my life is better than the other. Josh Harris said, “One age of our lives is not better than the other, each season builds on the one before it”. I agree with him completely J

So in conclusion, let me just say this with total intensity and deep conviction… I am old - more mature - I have grown physically (thank God), developed mentally and have changed for the better. I have matured and “with it comes the ability to assess things with objective eyes”. I can say that in my 28 years, all those hardships, struggles mistakes, failures…every happiness, fulfillments, joys and victories has created the person I am now. I wanted and longed for more…. but hey, the season of my life is still unfolding - who knows - I may yet be a LEGENDjavascript:emot('peace');
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times when nobody really understands you

there are times when nobody really understands you.... you take a a jump at a relationship and learn t give ur trust and then this someone turns their back... confirming your worst nightmare that most relationships are built on a quick sand.... so you vow "never again"

Being betrayed is soooo painful especially if you think highly of the person who betrayed you... its like you hanging in mid air and he comes and cuts off the only vine your holding.... the pain is so pure.......
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things taken for granted

APATHETHIC PEOPLE are the pathetic ones..


it’s not the distance that separates people from each other, it’s the wall they build among themselves..


only miserable people make other lives miserable..


its the simple things that surround us, we oftentimes take for granted, are the most important things in our lives...

things like friendship and love... after all its what we do to other that will shaped their thoughts of who we are in there lives
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CLOSING CYCLES (Paolo Coelho)

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on
staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the
meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles,
shutting doors, ending chapters - whatever name we give it, what matters
is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you
leave your parents' house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long lasting
friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering
why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won't take another step
until you find out why certain things that were so important and so
solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an
attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents,
your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone
will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with
life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill. None of us
can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we
try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not
return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel
guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an
affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of
coming back. Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really
go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy
souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate
the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a
manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts
and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for
other memories to take their place. Let things go. Release them. Detach
yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so
sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in
return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be
discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional
television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that
shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning
you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are
broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date,
decisions that are always put off waiting for the "ideal moment." Before
a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself
that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a
time when you could live without that thing or that person - nothing is
irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may
even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but
simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the
record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were,
and change into who you are.
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One Afternoon

i had a very busy day. A typical day i would say. But my afternoon was a tiniest bit different from the typical days. My afternoon took on a lazy atmosphere because of the cooler weather brought on by the darkened sky and a few scattered raindrops. The air is full of the sweet smell of freshly cut grasses - and it has an invigorating effect on me.
I sat on the empty classroom - alone. Time ad place and the atmosphere is so conducive for meditative sentimentality ... so i did just that.... these moments are not so often in my life that i felt in touch with my inner person. Thank God for rare moments like this that we can take a pause in our busy lives and reflect of all the good things that has happened and the blessings that has been given to us... because of this moment im ready to face another series f typical days :D
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