is dating harder when you have children? (54)

yeah..maybe i just need to actually GO on adate and stop fretting about the what ifs and so on...

Yep so when are ya free

my next night is the meet..

and as your going too...

Ok you are on and I look forward to it

im off..up at 6..il be crying...

nite skimpy..
nite all...

Nite lancerbora I am of soon to am up at 6:30 to hit the gym.

Sue,,,theres a lot of ways at looking at this,,i think,,i remember being in your postion,,,as my whole life evolved around my kids,,and i loved it,,,then i got to the stage,,also...that i wanted more to life,,that just being a mum,,,don,t get me wrong,,anyone,,that knows me,would tell you,,i would,nt swop it for a day,(well maybe one r two ha ha),,,so about 6 yrs ago,,i met up with a class mate of mines,,and we started going out,,one night every weekend,,,she was like a life saver to me,,,as i forgot all about me,,for yrs,,,and she made me find myself,,other than being mum ,dad ,and uncle paddy,,as we say here.

What i,m trying to say u have to make time for you too,,,and as much as like us all,your kid come first,,you also deserve your time,,sues time,,,and i,m sure theres family members r someone,,closed that would baby sit for you,,and as for the other,meeting some one,,and them accepting you have a kid,,and not able to go out at a drop of a hat,,if he has feelings for you,etc,,then why would it matter if some nights u have to sit in,,and watch a dvd etc,,some times,,that can be as good as a night out,,and there is men out there,,wiling to do that to,,so good luck girl

I agree it's very difficult to meet someone when you have kids, but its all come up to you to make it happen, in building your confidence and self esteem. you do not need to mention your kids are first, they have to be first for you and understood by any considerate person. there are some mum's profiles filled with anger which doesn't help because it shows alot of lowselfesteem and despair.
I believe the best way to date when you have kids is to be friend with someone for a while and give the chance to a better environment for yourselves and the kids to get better aquinted, and if nothing you'll have a good friend.
If there is chemistry and the possiblity of a relationship that works you'll just know.

I dated a mum of a 5 year old girl from a different website, I was suprised when I saw her with a little girl, i didn't expect her to bring her daughter with her, even it was a little "adorable angel" and I couldn't ask her why she brought her in the first date. I found it inaproriate at first, but I understood later that maybe she was right to bring her, because in her mind she would know at the first date if its going to work or not.
Unfortunately, maybe some of you are going to laugh at this. but I couldn't believe what she was wearing her dress (a dirty tracksuit) put me off, we just went for a drink and little talk for the sake of the child. I had to text her later Im not the guy for her.

id sit in any saturday night with ya....