how do i handle this? ( Archived) (24)

I think it depens on the attitudes of both of you. But you DO have to have a heart-to- heart with her. If she is wanting romance type of love and you don't , that's a problem. But if you both still want to be friends , it's possible that both of you could see it as a soul-sharing experience , and have this between you to remember in the future.

Maybe , maybe not. Just another possible twist.

Best of luck , my friend.

i cant do it over the phone! can i?
i dont want to invite her out and then do it, maybee she will get the wrong idea?

DEFINITELY not over the phone!

If you think a few minutes , you can find a way to arrange a meeting without making it sound like a romantic date.

Just my opinion

i knew i couldnt!

any ideas?.. am thinkin the beach with some friends

NO PHONE, def call her over say wanna "hang out" u know stuff like watchin comedies or hell invite her to go to the gym with u or something so its not like a date at all then u can switch over into the talk

id distence myself from her for a while until the air is clear and then slowly go back to the friendship that you had before.

I hope it works out for you Rob, Best wishes always buddy.

Ron

rob I don't know about distancing urself...if you do that you'll hurt her badly if she is feeling something, and if shes not still she'll think u were only using her, it might make it impossible to have a friendship ever in the future and might leave u with having a reputation among other mutual friends as a user

a here ya! shes only on island for another month or so, i think am gonna have a beach thingy this weekend. If i dont talk to her bout it tonite.

fanxs everyone.

R

oh F@$k, she just called, Fidels after work.

R

Candy, I think you make some very valid points. Unlucky, ur gonna have to be like NIKE and just do it! Has this happened ever before between the two of you, or was this an isolated case? I think the answers to those questions will make it easier to come up with the answer you're looking for. I totally agree...NO PHONE! That's the way we did it in high school, and I would hope we're past that. It's really something no one can answer for you, as we don't know the entire scenario, so as much as I'm sure it's not what you want to hear... You're the only one that knows how to handle it . I though would not suggest going any place that would be considered romantic, but definitely meet with her and hit this thing head on, and don't let it sit and think it will go away on it's on, cuz it won't. Good luck man, just be up front and straight with her, in the end she will be much more appreciative.

Steve