A Typical Love Story (95)
venusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 PostsMaybe they were not meant to be together??? yaknow, just a thought 
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hbateach: two people meet.... have fun... dream...make plans .... argue and part ways..
what's wrong? why most couple can't reach the finish line?
what's wrong? why most couple can't reach the finish line?
Unfortunately in real life , it takes MUCH MORE than that , to keep a relation alive...!!!
So I believe that, all what matters is , how much more , everyone of us is willing to give.!!!
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If commitment is what's lacking, I'd hate to think of marriage as THE finish line.
one or both must have realized they're making plans with the wrong person.
one or both must have realized they're making plans with the wrong person.
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makis822: Unfortunately in real life , it takes MUCH MORE than that , to keep a relation alive...!!!
So I believe that, all what matters is , how much more , everyone of us is willing to give.!!!
So I believe that, all what matters is , how much more , everyone of us is willing to give.!!!
yes! keep the love alive
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I3estman4u: I will make an attempt to not offend anyone.
To be fair, it wasn't always like this. There was a time when marriages that remained was greater than the divorce rate.
Two people meet....have fun...discover each others character and personality.....dream....learned each others "love language"....make plans.....get married....argue.....make up.....grow old....buried beside one another.
A mantra I have noticed for a while now on women's profiles (sorry but I don't look at guy's profiles) is that they love to laugh. Not only so, but that is a requirement of the person they are looking for. While there is nothing wrong with laughing, I love to laugh also, any single person will tell you that life is full of many ups and downs...not all days are filled with laughs. How much more when 2 single lives are merged together? When in a good relationship, you will have laughter automatically...it just works out that way.
What I observe in Canada is that many people think about relationships as an adventure and exciting, and it is. Many consider what they want/need from a potential partner, as they should. But I question how much they think about what they need to bring into the relationship, because I can.
When 2 people get married, a common vow is that they will love one another for better or worse....what's worse than worse? Likewise, as love can produce "feelings" of joy, laughter and create good times, those are not satisfactory for a lasting relationship. Commitment and sacrifice is....okay, I'll toss in selflessness.
I have concluded in my own thoughts about my next relationship that I will not concern myself so much to how she treats me, but rather how I treat her. I just HOPE she does the same. I reason that if we both are doing that, neither will be lacking and have a more fulfilled relationship.
To be fair, it wasn't always like this. There was a time when marriages that remained was greater than the divorce rate.
Two people meet....have fun...discover each others character and personality.....dream....learned each others "love language"....make plans.....get married....argue.....make up.....grow old....buried beside one another.
A mantra I have noticed for a while now on women's profiles (sorry but I don't look at guy's profiles) is that they love to laugh. Not only so, but that is a requirement of the person they are looking for. While there is nothing wrong with laughing, I love to laugh also, any single person will tell you that life is full of many ups and downs...not all days are filled with laughs. How much more when 2 single lives are merged together? When in a good relationship, you will have laughter automatically...it just works out that way.
What I observe in Canada is that many people think about relationships as an adventure and exciting, and it is. Many consider what they want/need from a potential partner, as they should. But I question how much they think about what they need to bring into the relationship, because I can.
When 2 people get married, a common vow is that they will love one another for better or worse....what's worse than worse? Likewise, as love can produce "feelings" of joy, laughter and create good times, those are not satisfactory for a lasting relationship. Commitment and sacrifice is....okay, I'll toss in selflessness.
I have concluded in my own thoughts about my next relationship that I will not concern myself so much to how she treats me, but rather how I treat her. I just HOPE she does the same. I reason that if we both are doing that, neither will be lacking and have a more fulfilled relationship.
Very beautiful said! Eastman
and yes the starting point is what good I can bring to a relationship.
a relationship -a good one- should bring the very best of each one out and make each one better persons and that requires commitment!
I definetely look for a lifelasting relationship!
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There is not such a thing in relationship, to start measuring your commitments,either you take all,and you give all, or you take your hat and go,starting for a new search. A relationship is a total commitment,no half measures.
makis822: Unfortunately in real life , it takes MUCH MORE than that , to keep a relation alive...!!!
So I believe that, all what matters is , how much more , everyone of us is willing to give.!!!
So I believe that, all what matters is , how much more , everyone of us is willing to give.!!!
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Very well said
I3estman4u: I will make an attempt to not offend anyone.
To be fair, it wasn't always like this. There was a time when marriages that remained was greater than the divorce rate.
Two people meet....have fun...discover each others character and personality.....dream....learned each others "love language"....make plans.....get married....argue.....make up.....grow old....buried beside one another.
A mantra I have noticed for a while now on women's profiles (sorry but I don't look at guy's profiles) is that they love to laugh. Not only so, but that is a requirement of the person they are looking for. While there is nothing wrong with laughing, I love to laugh also, any single person will tell you that life is full of many ups and downs...not all days are filled with laughs. How much more when 2 single lives are merged together? When in a good relationship, you will have laughter automatically...it just works out that way.
What I observe in Canada is that many people think about relationships as an adventure and exciting, and it is. Many consider what they want/need from a potential partner, as they should. But I question how much they think about what they need to bring into the relationship, because I can.
When 2 people get married, a common vow is that they will love one another for better or worse....what's worse than worse? Likewise, as love can produce "feelings" of joy, laughter and create good times, those are not satisfactory for a lasting relationship. Commitment and sacrifice is....okay, I'll toss in selflessness.
I have concluded in my own thoughts about my next relationship that I will not concern myself so much to how she treats me, but rather how I treat her. I just HOPE she does the same. I reason that if we both are doing that, neither will be lacking and have a more fulfilled relationship.
To be fair, it wasn't always like this. There was a time when marriages that remained was greater than the divorce rate.
Two people meet....have fun...discover each others character and personality.....dream....learned each others "love language"....make plans.....get married....argue.....make up.....grow old....buried beside one another.
A mantra I have noticed for a while now on women's profiles (sorry but I don't look at guy's profiles) is that they love to laugh. Not only so, but that is a requirement of the person they are looking for. While there is nothing wrong with laughing, I love to laugh also, any single person will tell you that life is full of many ups and downs...not all days are filled with laughs. How much more when 2 single lives are merged together? When in a good relationship, you will have laughter automatically...it just works out that way.
What I observe in Canada is that many people think about relationships as an adventure and exciting, and it is. Many consider what they want/need from a potential partner, as they should. But I question how much they think about what they need to bring into the relationship, because I can.
When 2 people get married, a common vow is that they will love one another for better or worse....what's worse than worse? Likewise, as love can produce "feelings" of joy, laughter and create good times, those are not satisfactory for a lasting relationship. Commitment and sacrifice is....okay, I'll toss in selflessness.
I have concluded in my own thoughts about my next relationship that I will not concern myself so much to how she treats me, but rather how I treat her. I just HOPE she does the same. I reason that if we both are doing that, neither will be lacking and have a more fulfilled relationship.
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You are so right
zooluvin: in this time people are too ready for an easy fix to their problems and are not taught to search for solutions that are not obvious. people arent taught to think outside the box and to stick out problems and be persistent until they can be resolved. rush rush rush and instant gratification = short attention spans and impulsive, impetuous behavior. Schools teach r r r but not the subtle nuances of human inter-relationships and values. (respect, loyalty, commitment)
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Wondering if each others finish lines were the same. Depending on the person maybe one person caved in to make the others dream a reality. Or the other always wonders the what if factor. There are way to many things now adays to get you to turn your head, the american way bigger better more more. When the curtains go down and your left alone maybe the other person will realize that what he or she had was the real thing.
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What you said absolutely true.- In the Irish marriage proposal, what could have happened if the woman,was going to say to the man,"" no we get burried with my folks"".- As you put it seems his side of the family.- Again i agree with the rest you have written.
GingerBe: An old Irish marriage proposal used to be.........."Would you like to be buried with my folks?"
I believe that if people don't have similar moral and ethical values then they can kiss goodbye to a long relationship.
Staying power depends on quirks these days, not real values. People choose a partner based on how politically correct they are, or what social skills they have, how much they earn, or how much fun they can have together. They base their values on whether they are polite, rather than whether they will cover their back in a crisis.
If a person can't cope with someone who holds and squeezes the toothpaste in the wrong way, or doesn't laugh at their jokes, then how will they cope with someone who has lost limbs, or gets a terminal disease, the death of one of their children, being made homeless, develops alcoholism, or gets addicted to prescription drugs?
Love, to my mind is about compassion and being selfless and choosing someone with selfless values too. It is so importnat that they don't get hung up on the little things, and always see the bigger picture, can take consturctive criticism for their own good, and be willing to do the same for their partner.
People these days often don't want to see the negatives because they are taught that they should come first and that the glass should always be half full, (whatever that means, because half way is just that.....no more no less.)
Reality is tough, and if people can't be there to support each other, (which is 99% of what relationships are about), then there is no hope for them staying together at all.
I believe that if people don't have similar moral and ethical values then they can kiss goodbye to a long relationship.
Staying power depends on quirks these days, not real values. People choose a partner based on how politically correct they are, or what social skills they have, how much they earn, or how much fun they can have together. They base their values on whether they are polite, rather than whether they will cover their back in a crisis.
If a person can't cope with someone who holds and squeezes the toothpaste in the wrong way, or doesn't laugh at their jokes, then how will they cope with someone who has lost limbs, or gets a terminal disease, the death of one of their children, being made homeless, develops alcoholism, or gets addicted to prescription drugs?
Love, to my mind is about compassion and being selfless and choosing someone with selfless values too. It is so importnat that they don't get hung up on the little things, and always see the bigger picture, can take consturctive criticism for their own good, and be willing to do the same for their partner.
People these days often don't want to see the negatives because they are taught that they should come first and that the glass should always be half full, (whatever that means, because half way is just that.....no more no less.)
Reality is tough, and if people can't be there to support each other, (which is 99% of what relationships are about), then there is no hope for them staying together at all.
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Men don't behave like men anymore and now women have to in order to take up the slack so the children are raising themselves and that has thrown all of western society off kilter... That's just my personal theory. Around here just the first step (two people meet) seems to be a monumental task in itself. Crap, am I jaded? :(
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""" People become stagment over time""", i agree with you.- So the old good saying " Seven year itch" is the answer,people have to learn to reanew their relationship, although some of them they don't know how, and some don't bother.-
Christmas1: I don't believe that all marriages that end in divorce are because one picked the wrong person. Pfft. People change over time. People become stagment over time. One will actually fall out of love during your marriage many times. But if recognized can work to be in love again. It takes work. One must talk things over with their partner. Not just drop it on them from nowhere.
When the rooster saw all the coloured Easter eggs, he got jealous and killed the peacock. The point is talk things through one gets married for love (I hope).
When the rooster saw all the coloured Easter eggs, he got jealous and killed the peacock. The point is talk things through one gets married for love (I hope).
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Why does there have to be a finish line?
If there is a finish line that naturally means there has to be an end.
Keep going past the so called finish line and just keep going. Run through the town, climb the mountain, swim in the lake, what ever.
The reality is that your path and how you travel it is going to change for the rest of your life. When there is someone else with you sometimes you have to adjust your speed and find a middle path that you both can go on and still get to where you both can be happy being. Sure there is compromise and even sacrifice but that can be good too in the long run.
You change, they change, the relationship and even the love changes but if you adjust and adapt to the changes you win even without a finish line to cross.
If there is a finish line that naturally means there has to be an end.
Keep going past the so called finish line and just keep going. Run through the town, climb the mountain, swim in the lake, what ever.
The reality is that your path and how you travel it is going to change for the rest of your life. When there is someone else with you sometimes you have to adjust your speed and find a middle path that you both can go on and still get to where you both can be happy being. Sure there is compromise and even sacrifice but that can be good too in the long run.
You change, they change, the relationship and even the love changes but if you adjust and adapt to the changes you win even without a finish line to cross.
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mindfful: i think because most people under 50 and especially under 40 werent taught and didnt get to see what you must endure to maintain commitment.
as you say they argue and part
the key is arguing and yet continuing on together
as i get older i find i have less rules and less things that will make me leave. i also have learned to pick better i think-
so i dont pick someone who would do the one or two things that would cause me to leave
that's wander full,, sounds like the road to recovery as you say they argue and part
the key is arguing and yet continuing on together
as i get older i find i have less rules and less things that will make me leave. i also have learned to pick better i think-
so i dont pick someone who would do the one or two things that would cause me to leave
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mark_bolton: that's wander full,, sounds like the road to recovery
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