Honesty, what's your Version? (3)

Honesty... What exactly is it? I mean I see these, are there any honest men or any honest women threads and I wonder what exactly do u mean when u say Honest. I mean is it like Invention of lying where u have to tell ppl the truth even if its none of their business? Is it being able to tell the person u love they look awful in the new shirt they just love? Is honesty being able to boldly tell someone you don't know some of the most intimate details of your life and who you are? Do you expect your partner to be so honest to say "I know I can't be faithful and I'll probably cheat on you"? I mean How much honesty do we really need. I am not saying Lying is a good thing, I am saying Everyone does it!!I am saying that sometimes I might rather if I was just lied to then know the truth. I am saying we all have secrets or half-truths. We are always asking each other to give us something that we ourselves can't give...
I consider myself to be a mostly honest person, reserving the lies for moments when I feel it's only absolutely necessary, Usually guilt follows directly, even when it is the simplest thing, like "no I didn't eat the last brownie". For some reason I felt like that particular occasion warranted a lie.. why? I a still don't know. Insecurity I guess. I think that in relationships of every kind a certain amount of privacy should be entitled no matter how intimate the relationship is, otherwise we are eventually forced to lie.

my versiion of honesty is plain open honest tell the truth. all lies eventually catch up with you and then things are only made worse by the lie. My son is now 26 years old and all the time he was growing up I always told him if he did something wrong he would get in more trouble if he lied about it than if he just told me. If I want to be with someone why would I want to hide anything from them. As far as I'm concerned you take me for who I am or go away. No loss to me. Yes insecurity and worrying about what other people think about are a big part of lying. one of my favorite sayings is: " If you are talking about me behind my back, then you are close enough to kiss my A.