Tonight I cried.......... (42)
SereneGreenWexford, Ireland190 Threads 5 Polls 2,899 PostsDont know why I am posting this but tonight we were visiting a friend and her long term b/f who is separated with two small kids. My two girls 4 and 9 are besotted with my friends b/f and love going over there and watching a virtual stranger hug and give male attention to my daughters so easily broke my heart. Because I just wish that their Dad could see what he misses out on and how they yearn for a man in their life more that every second weekend. I dont want to bring everyone down but it is just something I never really noticed before and i don't want them to suffer needlessly.
SereneGreen: Dont know why I am posting this but tonight we were visiting a friend and her long term b/f who is separated with two small kids. My two girls 4 and 9 are besotted with my friends b/f and love going over there and watching a virtual stranger hug and give male attention to my daughters so easily broke my heart. Because I just wish that their Dad could see what he misses out on and how they yearn for a man in their life more that every second weekend. I dont want to bring everyone down but it is just something I never really noticed before and i don't want them to suffer needlessly.
every second weekend their dada sees them?Yes
SereneGreen: Yes
and youd prefer him to see them more, suggest it to him??
its sad, i see it all the time with my own children
alijo: its sad, i see it all the time with my own children
I think they really do get a very raw deal in a seperation situation (well most of the times)SereneGreen: Dont know why I am posting this but tonight we were visiting a friend and her long term b/f who is separated with two small kids. My two girls 4 and 9 are besotted with my friends b/f and love going over there and watching a virtual stranger hug and give male attention to my daughters so easily broke my heart. Because I just wish that their Dad could see what he misses out on and how they yearn for a man in their life more that every second weekend. I dont want to bring everyone down but it is just something I never really noticed before and i don't want them to suffer needlessly.
ah look my little lad is 5, we went to the zoo yesterday, now he has never known me and his mam together,this morning when he went back he asks me when is he with me again i said tuesday, adn he smiled, then he says why don't you come to me and mammy, guilt doesnt even begin to describe what i feelSereneGreen: I think they really do get a very raw deal in a seperation situation (well most of the times)
my ex lives just around the corner and he only sees our daughter once a week and half the time he goes out and leaves her with his mum but thats the way it always was, we seperated when our daughter was 1 so she was never really used to having him here. I have said it to him many times thats he should spend more time with her but he says he doesnt have the time
u cant make a him be a dad, sad but trueSereneGreen: I think they really do get a very raw deal in a seperation situation (well most of the times)
its never easy, i dont get to see my kids as often as i'd like due to them living a 100mls away from me, but we are almost in daily contact be it tru FB or phone etc, my ex has a new fella with 4yrs now nd my lads are mad bout him nd he looks after them very well, so i know my kids are happy, but still at the end of the day i'm losing out big time 
its beyound me why some fella's cut all ties or limit them to the bare minimum
Thanks for your replies I haven't the energy to quote y'all, but I just needed to vent and I suppose to validate my guilty feelings that my girls are missing out on having a father in their life for the most part because of what we both did (break up) and my youngest was only a few months old when we broke up and its her thats clinging like glue to my friends b/f.
Alijo I honestly feel your hurt for your child, it's hard to think how someone could just be a willing part time parent when it suits them.
Jimbo - be prepared for other remarks to cut you to the bone from their little mouths as they do ask tough questions.
Alijo I honestly feel your hurt for your child, it's hard to think how someone could just be a willing part time parent when it suits them.
Jimbo - be prepared for other remarks to cut you to the bone from their little mouths as they do ask tough questions.
baldydude: its never easy, i dont get to see my kids as often as i'd like due to them living a 100mls away from me, but we are almost in daily contact be it tru FB or phone etc, my ex has a new fella with 4yrs now nd my lads are mad bout him nd he looks after them very well, so i know my kids are happy, but still at the end of the day i'm losing out big time
its beyound me why some fella's cut all ties or limit them to the bare minimum
they do it because they have no interest.. its just like that.. i no a lad got his gf pregnant.. she told him n he went bonkers and left her.. has never seen the child once in his lifeits beyound me why some fella's cut all ties or limit them to the bare minimum
I feel for you SG, I am lucky in that my daughters father sees her twice a week...
But believe you me, a mothers love is enough to get your kids through life happy, i should know as i have been there...
But believe you me, a mothers love is enough to get your kids through life happy, i should know as i have been there...
MSN74: I feel for you SG, I am lucky in that my daughters father sees her twice a week...
But believe you me, a mothers love is enough to get your kids through life happy, i should know as i have been there...
But believe you me, a mothers love is enough to get your kids through life happy, i should know as i have been there...
thanks MSNunouwantme2: they do it because they have no interest.. its just like that.. i no a lad got his gf pregnant.. she told him n he went bonkers and left her.. has never seen the child once in his life
I think the majority of men have an interest and get great pleasure from their children...
It is a small minority, that unfortunatly give the bad name...
As for that lad you know Uno, he just needs to grow and and accept mutual responsibility...
MSN74: I think the majority of men have an interest and get great pleasure from their children...
It is a small minority, that unfortunatly give the bad name...
As for that lad you know Uno, he just needs to grow and and accept mutual responsibility...
ah the girl doesnt want him near her or the child nowIt is a small minority, that unfortunatly give the bad name...
As for that lad you know Uno, he just needs to grow and and accept mutual responsibility...
jimbo79: ah look my little lad is 5, we went to the zoo yesterday, now he has never known me and his mam together,this morning when he went back he asks me when is he with me again i said tuesday, adn he smiled, then he says why don't you come to me and mammy, guilt doesnt even begin to describe what i feel
ah but Jimbo I know that you do actually put effort into seeing your young lad and genuinely enjoy it, lots of other guys just dont. But I will say its guys like you that will benefit when your kids grow up and will have a tighter relationship so fair play 
unouwantme2: ah the girl doesnt want him near her or the child now
Can you blame her? When she was going through the toughest time of her life, he walked away.....?
MSN74: Can you blame her? When she was going through the toughest time of her life, he walked away.....?
yep went nuts... told her hed kill her and the child..... blamed her 4 not talking her contraception properlyunouwantme2: yep went nuts... told her hed kill her and the child..... blamed her 4 not talking her contraception properly
So honestly what do you think of his reaction?
MSN74: So honestly what do you think of his reaction?
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