dating as a single mom ( Archived) (11)

hello.. well i can say it really sux dating as a single mom of 2 wonderful boys. its more like job interviews. lol. if anyone has advice for me i would love to hear it

dont worry i know what you mean with the interview process im one of the few guys that doesnt mind a girl with kids its a challenge that not many men step up to

well im glad to know that there may actually be a nice guy in the world. its hard to find sincere people who really do care.

well thank you i dont know why a guy would judge a girl by her kids i love kids i dont have any but i am around them all the time i have 13 cousins under the age of 10 so i love kisd and i dont mindd a girl has kisd i figure if your gonna date her involve the kids

well most men are only out for 1 thing. they will say just about anything to get it. once they get it their gone. but hey i guess thats life.

A guy is not a man if can not accept a women because of her offspring. They will always be a part of her. To date her one must also in a way date her kids....


Any guy that can accept that is a real man, that will also reap the benefits of unconditional love and affection from both her and her offspring. Plus the greatest reward would be a chance to relive ones childhood through her offspring....

It can suck as a single dad also. I did it for the past 9 years with a son who had been diagnosed with ADHD. Because my ex hardly had anything to do with him, I had to deal with the anger.
With each woman I introduced to him, he would do or say something that would totally kill any chance I had for another date. It got to a point where I put my life on hold and practically bent over backwards trying to help him deal with things thru parenting classes to counselling with no avail.
I began to pray for when he turned 18 and as of this week my prayers were answered. He signed a lease with a couple friends for an apartment and will be out by this Sat.
I think the experience I went thru the past 9 years has convinced me that anyone I get involved with, either has no kids, no plans on having kids or have kids in the teen years.
Now I can get my life back on track. :)

Go ray,
Calling all women, Calling all women....lucky stud single and ready to mingle!!!!

Well I don’t know if this will help or not. But I would suggest not treating a potential date like it’s a job interview. (I’m sure the “job interview” was only an analogy but this will still apply) Most job interviews are extremely stressful, even when you’re qualified. Men will know if there being interviewed, as if, you are checking them out to see if they are father material. That will worry the average guy, if they sense that is what is happening. And even if you don’t realize you are doing it.

What I would recommend is to simply see if you are happy with a guy just because you like him and he likes you. I wouldn’t worry about what the kids will think of him early on. Now I’m not saying that this is what is going on, but most women tend to do this if they have children to consider. The relationship between your date and your children will have to come on it’s own. And, in it’s own sweet time.

I would just let a guy know early on… YES I am a single parent. Short of that I would leave the issue of children alone. I would just concentrate on getting to know him for yourself, making sure he's a nice and decent guy. Just take it easy and have some fun together. Another thing, if possible, I wouldn‘t take the children out on your dates too early on in a relationship. He‘ll probably be under enough pressure just trying to get to know you.