OK so who uses woundology (5)
I have a lot of faults, but trying to get people to feel sorry for me is not one of them. I hated it after the accident I was in, when I wasn't walking too good, when people would look at me like, oh you poor thing. I can't stand to be pitied. I don't share my problems with people, only my very best friends know. And they don't pity me, they respect my feelings.
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its like people who blame their violent natures on things from their childhoods, er, no - you make the decision in the now!
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The wise man has many cuts, the happy man doesn't count the scars.
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Interesting topic Trish, thanks.
I think we all do it sometimes, especially when we are very young, the "sore throat' that leaves us croaking and voiceless to get out of school type of thing or even something as silly as saying 'but I'm a girl/blonde/only X years old/johnny said/I got laid off/...putting the responsibility for our own actions onto a person or circumstance that appears to be outside of our control.
I don't think people realise they do it, for the most part. Then there are those who have it down to a fine art. I make a conscious effort to avoid it, having grown up in a home where illness was used as a stick and a control, but I have learned it is possible to go too far in the other direction as well.
To be well rounded emotionally is so complex and I am still not there! It took me years to figure out that asking when you need help, saying when you are in pain or not well, is not the same as holding people up to ransom and trying to direct their behaviour. When something sad, hurtful or painful happens we need support. And then we move on.
Very thought provoking!
I think we all do it sometimes, especially when we are very young, the "sore throat' that leaves us croaking and voiceless to get out of school type of thing or even something as silly as saying 'but I'm a girl/blonde/only X years old/johnny said/I got laid off/...putting the responsibility for our own actions onto a person or circumstance that appears to be outside of our control.
I don't think people realise they do it, for the most part. Then there are those who have it down to a fine art. I make a conscious effort to avoid it, having grown up in a home where illness was used as a stick and a control, but I have learned it is possible to go too far in the other direction as well.
To be well rounded emotionally is so complex and I am still not there! It took me years to figure out that asking when you need help, saying when you are in pain or not well, is not the same as holding people up to ransom and trying to direct their behaviour. When something sad, hurtful or painful happens we need support. And then we move on.
Very thought provoking!
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Or are you a well rounded individual who would never stoop so low - or do people even realise they are using this sort of behaviour