Ladies HELP please!!!!!!!!! (7)
ah, well all good things must come to an end.
She broke up with me last night.
She broke up with me last night.
Of course she did, you acted like a jerk. and she as the hardhead.
I suggest you find someone with no children. you don't seem to have the personalty to cope well and you'll end up in the same situation you are in now.
Remember; when you date a woman with a child it is a package deal, and you get the added weight of the X and X family and X friends..
Save yourself, don't go back nor ask back..
I suggest you find someone with no children. you don't seem to have the personalty to cope well and you'll end up in the same situation you are in now.
Remember; when you date a woman with a child it is a package deal, and you get the added weight of the X and X family and X friends..
Save yourself, don't go back nor ask back..
Obviously you've never been in a situation similiar to this with NO SLEEP and a TON of stress. I suggest before you go name calling you ask for a little history. I recently had a relationship end after 10 years where the GF had 3 childeren. Twin Girls and a boy. and I loved them dearly and they loved me. I love kids and they love me. I had no problems with the package deal, her family and friends are still fighting for her and I to get back together. Since SHE IS THE ONE WHO JUMPED THE GUN.
O.K .. If you weren't on your best, you should of stayed home and got rest, not use it as an excuse for your lousy behavior.
And- I've been in my fine share of ''situations' also, but never made a dummy out of my self.
Your before relationship seems it all went well for you,
(sorta) nonetheless this one did not, and won't.
Aslo, your before relationship has the 'family and friends involved in your bizzniz, not good.
Try to find someone with less weight for you to haul.
Zee
And- I've been in my fine share of ''situations' also, but never made a dummy out of my self.
Your before relationship seems it all went well for you,
(sorta) nonetheless this one did not, and won't.
Aslo, your before relationship has the 'family and friends involved in your bizzniz, not good.
Try to find someone with less weight for you to haul.
Zee
Zee,
Sometimes I hate "chat" rooms or "forums" because you can never hear the emotions in ones voice or see their body language to "reed between the lines". Which is why I am writing this.
A. I apologize if I am coming off to you sounding like a dumba** jerk who doesn't have a clue.
B. As for your opening sentence, what do you think I've been banging my head up against a wall over since this occurred.
C. No matter what the situation is or was I still feel that for her to totally shut me out of her life and to do it via the internet instead of face to face is WRONG. and I have talked with many that agree.
D. I already know about my lousy behaivor. Are you trying to purposly open old wounds by bringing it up. you know the old saying if you can't say anything nice don't say it at all. well please I am looking for some positive feedback. I know I have lost her. I know there isn't much I can do about that. However, can I possibly have a friendship with this person. I have never "totally" broken off a relationship. and thats what hurts the most.
e. please, if you can't say anything positive don't say anything at all. I've been through the f'in grinder already I don't need more.
f.
Sometimes I hate "chat" rooms or "forums" because you can never hear the emotions in ones voice or see their body language to "reed between the lines". Which is why I am writing this.
A. I apologize if I am coming off to you sounding like a dumba** jerk who doesn't have a clue.
B. As for your opening sentence, what do you think I've been banging my head up against a wall over since this occurred.
C. No matter what the situation is or was I still feel that for her to totally shut me out of her life and to do it via the internet instead of face to face is WRONG. and I have talked with many that agree.
D. I already know about my lousy behaivor. Are you trying to purposly open old wounds by bringing it up. you know the old saying if you can't say anything nice don't say it at all. well please I am looking for some positive feedback. I know I have lost her. I know there isn't much I can do about that. However, can I possibly have a friendship with this person. I have never "totally" broken off a relationship. and thats what hurts the most.
e. please, if you can't say anything positive don't say anything at all. I've been through the f'in grinder already I don't need more.
f.
Sometimes I hate "chat" rooms or "forums" because you can never hear the emotions in ones voice or see their body language to "reed between the lines". Which is why I am writing this.
...............................
I can read between your lines. You are hurt and asking for a cure for it. there is no magic, it lingers on until somebody else comes along.
then you'll wonder why you felt like you do now; it will seem unimportant.
.....................................
A. I apologize if I am coming off to you sounding like a dumba** jerk who doesn't have a clue.
......................................
you're too soft to be a 'real' jerk..
..........................................
B. As for your opening sentence, what do you think I've been banging my head up against a wall over since this occurred.
...........................................
Itt's over now , time to step foward and say the hell with it I screwedup
and the world is still here and spinning.
............................................
C. No matter what the situation is or was I still feel that for her to totally shut me out of her life and to do it via the internet instead of face to face is WRONG. and I have talked with many that agree.
.............................................
It's not 'wrong' it started here on the net and it ended on the net, so to say..
no matter if you think wrong or not, it is the way it is, and yeah it sucks.
She doesn't want contact with you therefore she chose the net route to say goodbye, is all..
..............................................
D. I already know about my lousy behaivor. Are you trying to purposly open old wounds by bringing it up. you know the old saying if you can't say anything nice don't say it at all. well please I am looking for some positive feedback. I know I have lost her. I know there isn't much I can do about that. However, can I possibly have a friendship with this person. I have never "totally" broken off a relationship. and thats what hurts the most.
................................................
If my mentioning your behaviour hurt you then you need to heal.
As for needing 'positive' feedback, just what would you like to hear to make it all better..?
the usual, you will find someone else who will be better, and time heals all wounds, or what..?
................................................
e. please, if you can't say anything positive don't say anything at all. I've been through the f'in grinder already I don't need more.
f.
................................................
f. most everything I;ve sadi is 'positive, you need to see it as being that way.. you are crying in your beer and that is OK to do, but nobody can make it better for you, sorry.
zee
...............................
I can read between your lines. You are hurt and asking for a cure for it. there is no magic, it lingers on until somebody else comes along.
then you'll wonder why you felt like you do now; it will seem unimportant.
.....................................
A. I apologize if I am coming off to you sounding like a dumba** jerk who doesn't have a clue.
......................................
you're too soft to be a 'real' jerk..
..........................................
B. As for your opening sentence, what do you think I've been banging my head up against a wall over since this occurred.
...........................................
Itt's over now , time to step foward and say the hell with it I screwedup
and the world is still here and spinning.
............................................
C. No matter what the situation is or was I still feel that for her to totally shut me out of her life and to do it via the internet instead of face to face is WRONG. and I have talked with many that agree.
.............................................
It's not 'wrong' it started here on the net and it ended on the net, so to say..
no matter if you think wrong or not, it is the way it is, and yeah it sucks.
She doesn't want contact with you therefore she chose the net route to say goodbye, is all..
..............................................
D. I already know about my lousy behaivor. Are you trying to purposly open old wounds by bringing it up. you know the old saying if you can't say anything nice don't say it at all. well please I am looking for some positive feedback. I know I have lost her. I know there isn't much I can do about that. However, can I possibly have a friendship with this person. I have never "totally" broken off a relationship. and thats what hurts the most.
................................................
If my mentioning your behaviour hurt you then you need to heal.
As for needing 'positive' feedback, just what would you like to hear to make it all better..?
the usual, you will find someone else who will be better, and time heals all wounds, or what..?
................................................
e. please, if you can't say anything positive don't say anything at all. I've been through the f'in grinder already I don't need more.
f.
................................................
f. most everything I;ve sadi is 'positive, you need to see it as being that way.. you are crying in your beer and that is OK to do, but nobody can make it better for you, sorry.
zee
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O.K. I need some advice/guidance whatever.
As some of you may know I met and fell in love with my current um girlfriend here on connecting singles. Last weekend we had our first official "bump" in the road.
the issue was something that occurred between me and her 61/2 yr old child.
I knew how stupid I had acted and apologized to her stating honestly that I would do everything in my power to ensure that the problem did not happen again but, that I could not guarantee with 100% certianty that it wouldn't happen again. (I can control my actions but the childs I cannot)
my question is with this little bit of description how many people out there would understand and accept the apology? or How many would be upset that I was not willing to say that I would guarantee the issue would never happen again?
I hope I'm making sense because I don't want to lose her. any advice would be appreciated