deex4: hi just read your thread i understand what you mean since breaking up with my partner who i lived with for yrs i felt no one woold want me and he was the one that told me that i was too old and ugly to ever get a man i have been insulted and put down by him for so long he was an alcholic that i began to feel that noone would want me until one night i was out and a man started paying me some attention i felt at last im not 2 old or ugly and started to feel a bit of happiness at last at first this man was ringing me every day and wanting to see me then suddenly the calls were less frequent i began to feel i had done something wrong and asked him did i his reply was no i hadnt but he was married i just felt so stupid and hurt again and he has told me that he wants to talk to me face to face to discuss something iv no idea what it is but he more or less said he dosint want to see me again and now its back to me feeling i was used and worthless so i know how you feel beleive me and it does hurt
Some guys play away from home just because they can hun and they dont give a damn who they hurt in the process either - Im sorry you have had to go through this experience but please, dont let some low life affect your sense of self - you are not worthless, nobody is worthless
and as for your ex saying things like that to you, Im disgusted - its a game which insecure people play to get you down to their level and keep you with them, its usually when they are grasping at straws cos they know they arent good enough for you - strange how underhanded behaviour backfires - they zap your self confidence cos they have no other way of getting to you.
Being in a relationship isnt the be all and end all of life - I say take some time for you, tell the married prat to go suck a cactus and get on with living your life for you
it must be wonderful to be perfect...to be able to judge folks because we could never be judged by anyone perfect that we are......NOT....stop and think what it would be like to walk in another's shoes before we speak of anyone else..jibibiza i take my hat off to you genuine that you are...love can make us blind its a very strong emotion...R.
PILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK4,804 posts
rescuemepleez: it must be wonderful to be perfect...to be able to judge folks because we could never be judged by anyone perfect that we are......NOT....stop and think what it would be like to walk in another's shoes before we speak of anyone else..jibibiza i take my hat off to you genuine that you are...love can make us blind its a very strong emotion...R.
None of us know what round the corner. That maybe is for the best i try my hardest not to judge people as i never know if or when it could happen to me or some one i love.
I will not say i don't judge as we all do, however i try not to.
Hi JB, John here, I have to say, there must have been some warning signs that went up, maybe? However, as it is not your fault, and you are a very attractive woman, it's no wonder this guy was pursuing you, he wanted the best of two worlds, and did not care who he hurt in the process. I have never been married, so it is not for me to decide or judge anyone else's actions. Let me say, without a doubt, this person has probably hurt you deeply. In my case when I meet someone, I spend most of the first few dates proving that I am single/never married, thus I am 100% open about my situation, I tell all. I guess if there were a way for you to get the person you have met to be 100% straight forward and honest, you would not have expressed a return interest in him. All I can say is, after you have healed girl, you have to try again, that's what I am doing, learn from your mistakes and move on, with a fresh perspective. Best Regards, John
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Some guys play away from home just because they can hun and they dont give a damn who they hurt in the process either - Im sorry you have had to go through this experience but please, dont let some low life affect your sense of self - you are not worthless, nobody is worthless
and as for your ex saying things like that to you, Im disgusted - its a game which insecure people play to get you down to their level and keep you with them, its usually when they are grasping at straws cos they know they arent good enough for you - strange how underhanded behaviour backfires - they zap your self confidence cos they have no other way of getting to you.
Being in a relationship isnt the be all and end all of life - I say take some time for you, tell the married prat to go suck a cactus and get on with living your life for you