Why do I always find ... (14)

the really nice guy....who turns out to have a very nice wife...who doesnt even know he's attempting to cheat, or the really nice guy....who turns out to have a long term gf in the background...who he wants to finish with, yeah right??? Are there really any available men in Ireland, around my age, and with baggage in storage, or shall I just stick to trying to 'improve' meyself in the forums???

dont worry ladies yer both beautiful.........................d right guys will come along soon enough.................

let me understand

is he nice because he atempt to cheat?

or do you mean a good looking guy?

lust and love it is not the same

and i will not consider nice a gal that is atemtping to cheat on his boyfried

do females belive that a guy that atempt to chea on his wife is nice?

i usually will cal him "cheater"

will not want one like that for my daughter no matter how "cute" or "ken" he is

Er...no...meaning I didnt know he was married any more than his unwitting wife knew he was on dating sites pretending to be single.. and Yes he was good looking too, but that wasnt what made him seem a really nice guy to me...he was intelligent and personable, the looks were a bonus, anyway it was only in my eyes he was good looking maybe, so no you got that one wrong too, and er...did I even mention lust or love, i seem to remember i used a euphamism of really nice guy just as a quick summation, of a couple of men I had met whom later turned out to be differant to my expectations...so please read my post again, before posting such a reply, I was not condemning or condoning anyone, merely pointing out my experiences..OK?

I do believe in sticking around Catherine as whats meant for you wont pass you by..... I was put on this site by my kids, in all their innocence thought it would be good for me since their dad had died....so anyone who approached me was told sorry i am a poor widow with 8 kids....most just ran.....then i started talkin to Jim and told him the same....but he was in Iraq in a war-zone the only thing we both could offer each other was someone to chat to.....Jim asked me if he made it back from Iraq would i meet up with him so he could thank me personally for our chats......now we are together since then and still going strong.... if that give you hope then stick around.......cause you never know....ask Martyg....

By the way My Granny always said....."There be no dirty men if there was no dirty women.!!!!" and it so true

I think I would have liked your Granny

Having been caught in the web of being cheated on and cheated with ( unknowingly ) I really do not understand the workings of "some" mens brains.
If you are in a relationship and your not happy to the extent that you have to cheat then get out of the relationship. Some men and also women do not know when the have it sooo good. Its all back to the old saying some people want what they have and others have what they want.