Men aren't cruel to big women. Boys are. As a man I have never made fun of big women and find some attractive myself. I think some men might be turned off by large women if they are too large and their bodies look out of wack but still that's not a reason to make fun of them. I've dated some large females in the past and some smelled really bad but I'm not making fun of them when I say that. I'm just stating some of my experiences.
RE: My shopping list...
Which explains why you're here and possiblity on many other dating sites as well. Good luck with your listBy the way do you think your exs will say you have even have of those qualities? Doubt it.