Why waste time trying to fix something that is broken? You are either right or wrong for each other. Sometimes a little tweak can sort things out but you sound like you need the full roadside recovery.
I was trapped in a relationship where the partner was wonderful to me but I did not feel the same. I stayed only because I know it would hurt her to leave. In doing that I trapped both myself and her. Eventually she knew I was unhappy and we talked and parted. It was hard for her but life is too short to waste it with the wrong person and what she needed, I could not give her.
Maybe it's that I need a soulmate and not simply a partner that makes me seek a deeper more spiritual bond. She was never as deep as I am and that was the wrong recipe.
Any way, you don't stay with someone out of comfort. Just like comfy slippers things eventually fall apart and you have to find new ones. I promise you you will regret wasting the time in something you know is wrong for you.
When my parents both died suddenly I became very depressed. I shut everyone out because I didn't want to hear the 'How sorry I am' from people around me. Locked my emotions away in tight little box.
I needed to close up my feelings to stop from crying all the time. I pushed everyone I loved away so I could deal with my grief in my own way. Seeing the fact he's cut his daughter out too it would indicate that it is not just about you.
You have to understand there is a lot of pressure on guys to stay strong, not to show weakness and you feel ashamed if you lose it.
Strangers don't ask about you parents dying and how do you feel. They talk about unimportant things that distract you from whats going on inside. For me it was video games and mindless chat forums talking about inimportant things that helped me recover. It took me over 2 years though to open back up again.
I can't speak for him but it takes time to get over a death, especially if you're close and you weren't expecting it. You always think your parents or partner will live forever. When they just go in an instant it rips you apart. You regret all the time you should have spent with them, all the bad things you said, all the issues you never resolved, all the questions you should have asked, all the things you needed to tell them but now will never get the chance.
Maybe he cares about you and doesn't want to go through the same. He's afraid that if he get close to you he'll get hurt again. Maybe he's closed up his feeling to keep it together.
The only person who can tell you is him. I'd take my courage in my hand and either call him or go and speak to himin person. Tell him you understand he needs space but you're worried you losing him and you care a lot for him.
If he's unwilling to talk,get his daughter to go round and see him and talk to him
As regard texting, it an be something you put off and will get round to but never do. Personal contact works far better.
At least you'll know wehere you stand and can choose to wait or move on.
'We despise all reverences and all the objects of reverence which are outside the pale of our own list of sacred things. And yet, with strange inconsistency, we are shocked when other people despise and defile the things which are holy to us.'
Guys like this are out there, but you've got to have that bit of a bad boy in you to make the relationship fun.
You can be one when your alone and the other outside.
Being English, being the bad boy is easy. Every film has an English guy as the baddy.
On the other side, I only let those very close to me see the soft side inside. I'm like and M&M. Tough on the outside but once you've got through the crunchy bit you can get to the soft centre.
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RE: When The Wrong Man , Loves You Right !!
Why waste time trying to fix something that is broken? You are either right or wrong for each other. Sometimes a little tweak can sort things out but you sound like you need the full roadside recovery.I was trapped in a relationship where the partner was wonderful to me but I did not feel the same. I stayed only because I know it would hurt her to leave. In doing that I trapped both myself and her. Eventually she knew I was unhappy and we talked and parted. It was hard for her but life is too short to waste it with the wrong person and what she needed, I could not give her.
Maybe it's that I need a soulmate and not simply a partner that makes me seek a deeper more spiritual bond. She was never as deep as I am and that was the wrong recipe.
Any way, you don't stay with someone out of comfort. Just like comfy slippers things eventually fall apart and you have to find new ones. I promise you you will regret wasting the time in something you know is wrong for you.
Time to look for pastures new...