The question is "what is the best?" Is it the biggest? Is it the richest? Does it have specific features of specific dimensions and colors? We can only approach perfection; it can never be attained. It is a direction, not a specific location, for as we approach it, we fine tune it more and we can never reach it. The ideal is to seek out compatibility, not perfection. Compatibility triggers positive growth in all areas. Even appearance is enhanced, for how we feel impacts how we look. Both people are so self-confident that they look forward to the uniqueness of their partner, not feeling threatened by the differences, knowing that both people truly care about the growth of each individual and the relationship. The whole becomes greater than the sum of its parts. It comforts us, energizes us and adds a new dimension to our lives.
It is unfortunate that people tend to focus more on what they want to say or do rather than the impact it might have on those we share it with. People get so used to others thinking only of themselves, that they start to feel that they must do the same, if they want to ever get what they want. Always ask yourself two questions. Will what I plan to say or do take me in the direction that will allow me to accomplish my long-term objectives and would I truly appreciate being on the receiving end of what I plan to dish out? 'Do unto others before they have a chance to do it unto you' will never lead to self-confidence, happiness and fulfillment. The important thing going into any relationship is to be very observant. See things for what they are rather than for what you want them to be. Seek clarification. Find out what the person has learned from past relationships, both positive and negative. Find out what draws them to relationships, what they believe they bring to a relationship and what they are seeking from a partner. If they won't answer your questions, get defensive or evasive, ask yourself whether it might be your communication skills or maybe this might not be a compatible partner for you. A healthy partner is one who truly wants you to understand who he/she is. People who are evasive are just playing games or aren't ready for a real relationship. Don't be afraid of limiting your potential partner pool. If you are going to get a negative response, it is better to discover that before you invest in the relationship. Don't expect this person to treat you differently than he/she treats others. Unfortunately, the beauty of innocence tends to be destroyed as people age. If we don't take the time to see the truth in a potential relationship, from the start, then we end up being hurt again and again. With each new hurt, our suit of armor gets tougher, making it harder for people to get back to that unconditional love and trust we gave to our first love. Learn about how to develop and nurture healthy relationships before you seek a new partner. A little quality is more valuable than a lot of quantity.
Some people have legitimate reasons for not posting a picture. I would much prefer an accurate description without a photo over a photo of someone else or old photos. I have more of an issue with people not saying anything in their profile. I'd be reluctant to reach out to someone with a great photo but no profile. What kind of statement is that (I am just a piece of meat -- I have nothing to offer but the physical)? When people are serious about meeting someone, and not just playing games, they will take the time to clarify what they bring to a relationship and what they are looking for (and I'm not talking about the ones who just say they want someone to spend money on them). Superficial gets superficial; depth gets depth.
Some people have legitimate reasons for not posting a picture. I would much prefer an accurate description without a photo over a photo of someone else or old photos. I have more of an issue with people not saying anything in their profile. I'd be reluctant to reach out to someone with a great photo but no profile. What kind of statement is that (I am just a piece of meat -- I have nothing to offer but the physical)? When people are serious about meeting someone, and not just playing games, they will take the time to clarify what they bring to a relationship and what they are looking for (and I'm not talking about the ones who just say they want someone to spend money on them). Superficial gets superficial; dept gets depth.
A couple of suggestions: 1st -- Realize that all muscles have opposing muscles. Don't just do crunches; do 4-way sit-ups. It's easiest to do on a Roman chair. Just lift your upper body with face up, face down and on each side. Also, make sure you stretch out your hamstring muscles, as when they shorten, they pull on the spine and cause lower back pain. There are other exercises that you can do for mid-level pain or upper back pain. 2nd -- Get and read "Pain Free" by Pete Egoscue. He gives exercises to help people heal and prevent injuries by providing exercises that return the body’s functions to that which they were designed, rather than what we’ve been accustomed to.
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RE: California
That may be true, but I still never dream of returning to my birthplace (Detroit).