Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: Do opposities attract?

It would be logically impossible for opposites to attract, since opposing personalities/tastes cannot complement each other (nice catch, Portiea, on the difference between "compliment" and "complement," by the way).

Differences, however, can exist that are not in opposition and are complementary. For example, men and women are different and (largely) complementary. An intolerant person and a tolerant person are not.

Jeff

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

That may be a slight exaggeration, but thanks, A. (I'll have to quote you to my ex-wife )

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

True, but sometimes people have to change *in order to be who they truly are*, no?

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

Wise words, I think, for one so young, Aries. (Or at my age is almost everyone seeming young? )

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

I don't mean to be, X. My point is that love is *not* unconditional, that's all. We all have any number of conditions which, if they aren't met, exclude a person as a romantic partner and/or friend.

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

Very wise words, Mindful, very wise words!

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

Hey X! Hmmmm...

Then I take it you would have no objection to dating a 70 year old buddy of mine who's grossly overweight, never showers, smokes and drinks as though the end of the world were imminent, and who has a zit on his forehead with the approximate dimensions of Mount Everest?

Seeing as how your love is unconditioned and all.

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

What if one's gas-passings smell sweet and inviting? Surely then such a blessing should be shared with the general public?

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

I'd say you're just about right (with respect to seriousness), Gringa.

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

Right. I regard ultimatums *generally* as playthings of the maladapted. *However*, I can easily think of - and have personally experienced - situations where there don't appear to be any reasonable alternatives. E.g.:

"You must end your affair or we're finished."

"Either you stop drinking or we're done."

"Tear up your credit cards and promise never to put us into horrid debt again, or we're getting a divorce!"

Is the issue of smoking different from the above in principle - given that you agree the above are justified.

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

Hi, Morg!!

What say you?

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

Who does? The question is whether or not they - or requests logically related to them - are ever reasonable?

If you stopped smoking, I'd date and possibly even marry you...:wink:

This was inspired by the thread where the hypothetical was posted: if someone lost thirty pounds an engagement ring would be offered.

Okay, so here's the topic: "bottom lines," "ultimatums," or...reasonable requests. How much are we entitled to ask of another person regarding changes in that person which may make them more compatible with (or approved by) you? Is it possible to reasonably make such requests/demands? Never reasonable?

What are your experiences with these kinds of "if you do this or change that I would find you acceptable" situations?

Jeff

RE: What are your top 5?

Robbie, I think some of your advice was well-intended. I've noticed over the years, however, that when people don't ask for advice they very rarely are grateful to receive. I've learned that from hard experience.

Cheers,

Jeff

RE: Tattoos?? Do you have Them, Want Them, and If So How Many

Don't take this the wrong way, K, but I think they're "icky."

RE: How far would you go to protect yourself?

RE: Take an IQ test and post your result.

I love you, too, baby. Hey - "humble" is my middle name, you know that.

RE: FAKE TAN

Oh, it's definitely addictive (though I resent the imprecation that she's in any way fake)!

RE: Take an IQ test and post your result.

I scored a 93.

"If you apply yourself, you may at some point find gainful employment as a ditch digger or piano tuner."

Hmmmmmm....

Whom would you match on CS?

Okay...slap me silly for trying...but I'm thinking Ras and Rose. THe alliteration alone makes this match potentially special...

RE: Okay.. let's see if you are hiding secret pain?

That's very selfless and noble of you, dear Claire. I especially was touched by your thinking about it *twice*. That's true compassion for you.

RE: Lying about ages???

Okay, well, maybe that "strutting" comment was a bit uncalled for, my friend. You're too nice of a guy to flaunt it like that.

"Sashaying" would be a better description, I'm thinking.

Whom would you match on CS?

Well, you can't blame a guy for wanting to share the love...

RE: Okay.. let's see if you are hiding secret pain?

Oh, Jeez, Claire...is it my imagination, or are you kind of stuck on this particular subject today?

Thank god my heart is so "leetle" or might be in some serious pain about now myself...

RE: Lying about ages???

Well, for one thing, Robert, I might have a shot at all those hot girls forty-year-olds like you are always strutting about with...

Hi, guy! Good to see you around more these days...

Whom would you match on CS?

I know, and we deeply appreciate your support, Dana. She likes you a lot, too...which makes me wonder... no, I'd better perish that particular thought...

Whom would you match on CS?

Hellooooo, my dear Claire!

Not that you'd know anything about "epic undertakings"!

RE: Lying about ages???

How many other "glowing persons" do you know on this list, Alison?

It's okay if you look at me...it's those accusing eyes that I find disturbing.

Whom would you match on CS?

That was truly an epic understaking, Dana. But who said anything about anyone being "better" than you? I found my "special someone" before we'd even met, you know.