How about a book? Or maybe a whole set by her favorite author? It will stay with her forever, not be too presumptious, and it will show her that you really care about WHO SHE IS. As for the 15 year old, wait until she has an occasion (a birthday or something) before getting her something too. Otherwise it really WILL look like you are trying to buy your way into her heart.
You are so right. Character, strength, someone you can really respect. I'm a strong woman, and I need a strong man, but he has to be a GOOD man. I'd like to find someone I can look up to and admire. As some of you already know, I thought that was what I HAD. I'm going to be gun-shy for a long time after this experience, but if my Dad was such a good man, I know there must be another good man out there somewhere.
I think it's that women want to be the one to "tame" him. They would like to be the only one he ISN'T mean to. (Kinda like the idea of a "one man horse"--you know a horse that will only allow one person to ride him.) Also, some women with mis-placed compassion want to "save him from himself". I was that way when I was in my 20's. I married a mean old biker, who treated me like dirt under his feet. I thought I could teach him about love, but instead he taught me all about low self-esteem. I didn't suffer from that before I married him, but about 2 years into the marriage, I was an expert!
The Acadamy of St. Martin in the Fields. The St. Louis Symphony. The Turtle Island String Quartet. The Orpheus Chamber Orchestra. I guess you figured out I love classical music. Bach and Vivaldi and Telleman. I also like the modern composers. Stravinsky and Schostakovitch. And the guitar wizzards, like Guiliani and Fernando Sor.
I was with a man for over a year, who I thought was the most honorable man I ever knew. He was always honest, he was kind, he always strove to take the high road. I admired him and wanted to be more like him. Then he cheated on me and eventually dumped me for her--BECAUSE SHE WAS BETTER IN BED!!!! THERE IS NO HONOR. ANYONE CAN BE BOUGHT, IF THE PRICE IS RIGHT.
I'm going through that right now. My boyfriend of over a year announced two weeks ago that he was leaving me. I knew there must be someone else, and finally he admitted he's been seeing her for TWO MONTHS! When I asked why he didn't break up with me BEFORE he started seeing her, he said "I wasn't sure where it was going with her." I trusted him completely. I thought he was the most honest, HONORABLE man I had ever met. Now I'm trying to get my mind (and heart) around the idea. Not only did he cheat on me and dump me, but I feel like someone died. The man I loved never existed. So how DO you learn to trust again? I've been around for a while now, and thought nobody could pull the wool over my eyes. I've never done this internet dating before. HE SAID he never did either. Said it would make him feel like a piece of meat on the market. Guess where he met her? That's right-ON LINE! So here I am, on the rebound and feeling foolish. Will I ever really trust anyone again? Probably not. I've never had a jealous bone in my body. I always figured any man who was fool enough to throw me away didn't deserve to have me in the first place. And now I AM jealous! This is a SMALL town, and everyone is talking. He's squiring her around town and throwing it in my face. So what's the answer? I don't know.
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RE: Gift ideas.... HELP!
How about a book? Or maybe a whole set by her favorite author? It will stay with her forever, not be too presumptious, and it will show her that you really care about WHO SHE IS.As for the 15 year old, wait until she has an occasion (a birthday or something) before getting her something too. Otherwise it really WILL look like you are trying to buy your way into her heart.