Well better to be on your own than with someone who doesn't want you heartofgold. Save that heart for someone who is worth it for you. Who loves you back just as much :)
There is "always" for some people and that's because they are committed to their partner. Through thick or thin they stick around. 80th anniversaries don't arrive because each partner has always been fulfilled in every way. They happen because each person is committed to the other and has worked through problems......
You listened to it for an hour! Patience of a saint! Luckily my date had a time frame, he had to go off and coach football.
Agreed about the tucking away baggage. I think down the track there is a time and place for sharing the minutiae of a breakup. Just not on the first date.
Yes I did. I referred back to how other women had mentioned he wasn't ready for a relationship (when he scoffed and said it was because he didn't WANT another relationship). I said to him given that he had just spent all that time talking to me about his ex, it suggested to me that he wasn't as far along in his "journey" as me. I said I'd been at that point too (although I've never gone on like that on a first date) but that I was further along than him.
Apart from all of the above, there wasn't a physical attraction for me either, but that is irrelevant in the end because the ex back story was a deal breaker.
Thanks Felixis, I appreciate the support. Yeah, I guess I'm not too sure what I want either, but to put it out there suggests a lack of interest. Although he wanted to see me again, I wasn't about to sit through another this is your life - the ex-wife episode!
No you didn't. I was just amusing myself, perhaps I've broken some sort of rule changing topics. Not sure how this works, never started my own and was thinking it boring as no one responded so I was talking to myself hahahahah.
Guess I'm the only one huh? Figures.....I just did a search for men who fit my criteria
A) live locally (distance doesn't work) B) within an acceptable age range (35-45) I'm 37 C) are of a certain height (at least 5'11) I'm 5'4 D) have pictures (only fair to see)
There are 4!
I'm frigged......maybe I should become a lesbian...
I have just returned from my first (and last) date with a particular gentleman. He was by all accounts a nice man. The few emails and texts we exchanged before meeting attested to that. Obviously he seemed decent or else a first date would not have taken place.
He bought me a drink (very nice thankyou although I was prepared to pay for my own), didn't join me in an alcoholic beverage (didn't drink) and I respect that. No problems there....
We chit chatted, well he mainly chatted and I sat back and answered the few questions that he asked. So that was perhaps 10 minutes worth......he commented on how he didn't want anything serious and just wanted companionship (that's fine, honest. I respected that)...he said women have told him it's because he's not ready for a relationship. He scoffed at that and said its because he doesn't WANT a serious relationship. No skin off my nose....what did bother me though is;
For the next half an hour, he talked exclusively about his estranged wife, how she ended their marriage, how she talked, how she dressed, how she acted, how she behaved with him, how she related to their kids.....on and ON....
Let me just say this; it's nice and even relevant to share a bit, but listen up men! No woman will go on a second date if all you've done is talk about the ex? Likewise no man would either...
Perhaps down the track there would be a time where dissecting and regurgitating a previous relationship breakup is relevant. But not on the first date!
You will be fine. Quite often you will be given a sedative that has amnesiac properties. Ie you won't remember the procedure. Post procedure you will usually have a lot of wind....the best remedy for that is to err, uhmmm, pass it!
I think the relevant bits certainly.....but it's all in the eye of the beholder as to what is relevant isn't it?
I guess if your other half/partner whatever he or she may be, if that person asks about your day, you should tell him/her. If they are drilling down wanting to know minute by minute, then there is something wrong.
NO! I have been given lines by 18year olds at nightclubs and (shudder) it's just too wrong. Anyway I want a man who is experienced and isn't afraid to go for what he wants. Confidence is attractive....and that comes with age I think. Maybe I'd see someone up to 10 years younger but I would never expect it to get serious. I guess it depends on the individual. But 18 years old (my son's age) - gigantic NO!
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First Dates, What NOT to say if you want a second!
I think I do, but catching a lot of old boots????