"Shine on You Crazy Diamond", by Pink Floyd. I dated and fell hard for a man with a terminal illness, for 6 months, and it was "our song". Of course, he unceremoniously dumped me the minute an older, much less attractive but infinitely wealthier lonely divorcee came along to be his sugar momma and pay all his bills I couldn't afford to pay....oh well....he turned out to be a consumate cheater, and she was insecure and used her wealth to get a guy on her arm -- I figure they deserve each other. Now, the song has a bittersweet sentiment.
"You are So Beautiful" by Joe Cocker always brings a tear to my eye, especially when he chokes up and his voice breaks on that penultitmate note...gets me, every time.
I know why. Because they can describe themselves as being 5'-11" and looking like Sting. Then you meet them, and they're George Costanza. Happened to me two weeks ago. True story.
30 years ago, Ann Landers said: "Age is just a number, baby!" I clipped that newspaper column out when I was 17 and kept it in my wallet until it became powder.
I married a man 14 year my senior (Chinese, I'm Caucasian) and we've been married 20 years, though separated the last 10. We had 3 wonderful boys, but my ex (wrongly) thought he was too old to participate in their upbringing, and largely neglected them. His loss.
Since then, I have only dated younger men, 10 years or more my junior, with the exception of one man who is now my best friend in the world and just two years younger than me. Even so, he's kind of stuck in 1985, hahaha!, and seems more like a 25-year-old than 45-year-old. He's truly young at heart. He's a "dude", and I love him for it!!
When I was 40, I dated a 20 year old man for 2 years. He was just 8 years older than my eldest son who was 12 at the time, but we had 2 great years together, and he was a full participant in my 3 young son's lives, nearly always including my kids in most of our supper's out, planning day trips around the kids' hobbies and activities, helping with their birthday parties, playing video games with them, you name it. He's with another younger woman now, but we are all good friends and still go out together several times year.
Since then, I've dated men aged 23, 25, 27, 33 and 38. Frankly, I have more in common with the 27 - 30 set than any other demographic. We listen to the same music, the men are athletic, energetic, ambitious, adventurous, passionate, still include my kids in our plans often and share a lot of the same interests as my kids (modern music, video/computer games, sports, skateboarding, tennis, squash, working out, going to amusement parks, day trips, etc).
My experience with dating older men (40+) is that they spend WAAAAYYYY too much time talking about money (I have very little, so it's a distressing topic for me!), obsessing on their jobs, which would seem to define them, sadly, and they don't seem to have the energy at the end of the day to go out to a club, or movie, or long walk, or bike ride, or to work out at the gym or play squash or....whatever. They lack, generally, the spontaneity that younger men relish. There's nothing wrong with curling up in front of the tv after supper now and again, but there MORE to life than reality TV!! This goes for "playtime" as well, which shouldn't ALWAYS simply be slotted between the 11 o'clock news and Letterman.
Give me a younger man any day, especially a well-brought-up one. They never point out my stretchmarks or south-going breasts (on the contrary, they seem to worship the fuller-figured; never make me feel self-conscious, are much more uninhibited), they don't act like they know ALL the answers to life, they acknowledge that I have kids who need some quality time with adult-types and appreciate being included-in in our activites sometimes. Younger men don't carp on money, but capture the moment. And when it comes down to it, that's all we really have.
Actor/singer Kevin Bacon and his composer brother Michael. One degree of separation! Shared an office with the late novelist W. O. Mitchell and prolific American novelist Joyce Carol Oates for two years when I was an instructor at the University of Windsor. Alistair MacLeod, and Margaret Atwood, too. Many other dead and still living Canadian authors and poets (I was the organizer of the guest speaker panel at university). Late historian Pierre Berton. Jian Ghomeshi of CBC Newsworld's PLAY is a very dear friend. Luba Goy of the Royal Canadian Air Farce. Lots of Canadian musicians and bands too numerous to mention (Barenaked Ladies, Great Big Sea, Moxy Fruvous, Hawksley Workman, Our Lady Peace). Comedians Mike Bullard and John Wing Jr. Jay Leno. Actors Leslie Nielsen, Paul Gross, Molly Parker, Jed Rees, Peter Outerbridge (my son and I were extras in the movie "Men with Brooms"). I have no problem walking up to celebrities or performers major or minor and starting a conversation with them (in Toronto where so many movies are filmed, it's easy to do); they often turn out to be very pleasant and more often than not, not a little shy!!!
Several days ago I met from this dating website a lovely young ex-Marine who presently lives in London, England, with whom I chat on MSN. We chat at mutually-agreed upon times, and I haven't heard from him in the last 12 hours, and I'm understandably upset. You are all, of course, aware of the bombings that occurred there early this morning during the morning rush hour. I don't know his last name, so I can't check the dead or injured lists. I've tried to page, email and message him to no avail. I fervently hope he's OK. I'm not a religious person by ANY stretch of the imagination, but I invite anyone who is to please help me pray for the safety and well-being of my chat friend Mark. Thank you.
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RE: what song can you not listen to
"Shine on You Crazy Diamond", by Pink Floyd. I dated and fell hard for a man with a terminal illness, for 6 months, and it was "our song". Of course, he unceremoniously dumped me the minute an older, much less attractive but infinitely wealthier lonely divorcee came along to be his sugar momma and pay all his bills I couldn't afford to pay....oh well....he turned out to be a consumate cheater, and she was insecure and used her wealth to get a guy on her arm -- I figure they deserve each other. Now, the song has a bittersweet sentiment."You are So Beautiful" by Joe Cocker always brings a tear to my eye, especially when he chokes up and his voice breaks on that penultitmate note...gets me, every time.