Yes you do exactly what I do and in the same way.. and I struggle also to feel chemistry for men I have met so far... lol It is me also.. not them. I am also not in a hurry, I am laid back and take each day as it comes.. I have a date today.. He is a nice man and he is good company, While we are at a distance I have no worries.... I treat men, as I would like to be treated, and that is with high respect. I have not had a passion for any men so far. But have not given up yet.. One will attract me I am sure, one day. It will be nice to have a passionate need towards someone, I miss that wanting feeling.. I have made some nice friends along the way and that is telling me it has not been a waste of my time or theirs.
I passionately kissed some one a year and 4 months ago.. I have had opportunities but have not wanted to... no chemistry with anyone since, has been the reason I have not wanted to.
I understand what you are saying. And you have your needs met.. Mine would be mental stimulation, someone who loves a good debate and discussion about things.. I feel all have different needs in a relationship. I will know when I fancy someone again and the chemistry is right. I am positive my instincts are only waiting for that special man to smiles back at me. A lot of people would rather wait until they have at least 50% of what they feel will make a difference to their lives.. you have found yours and the rest of us are with out, filling our time with all sorts so as we don't worry about it...
I am not desperate to meet anyone, just feel it is time that I did say yes to some of the invites I have been having... I take my time and am a very slow woman, if someone rushes me, I tend to lose interest, so not at all looking... really. As one of the other woman said she waits for the men to contact her mostly, I do the same.. I am not negative in my thoughts, about meeting someone one day who will change my mind about having a relationship again. Being positive takes alot of confidence. I am proud of who I am and what I have achieved. I am not in any hurry because I am happy and content here in my life. Kids calling me to play a board game with them, so write more later.. lol
I know that connecting with anyone is not something you can make yourself do.. You either do or you don't. A person cannot make themselves like or love another and you can not make them like you.. it all has to be a natural happening.
One lady said she has no way of meeting men back in this thread, that must be annoying to her at times when she feels she wants to be with someone, but she did say she would only be with someone if she felt right and would rather be on her own, than be with the wrong one.... I feel the same.. I often think our lives are mapped out, and what will be will be. Maybe if we were meant to be with someone we will be one day, if not then we have to fill our time and thoughts with other things.
yes ! rayform usa....You have quoted that people change and yes their needs are not to have kids, settle down etc. We have built our foundations and do want change as we age. A bit of selfish time with someone, with a little romance in toe is nice. Someone our age to chat to.. etc.
looks play a part of being attracted, Yes. But as we age only some looks manage to stay. For example... eyes,smile, and a few other things.. I go for eyes mostly, the way people smile etc... But chemistry has to be there also.. The need to want to be in a persons company, the need to want to get close is more interesting to most,unless you want a friendship only.
Meeting new people is one thing, being able to feel right with someone is another. I have had a few meets, on and off for the last year, but most of them are not worth a second meet, just know there is no chemistry. I personally take each meet with a pinch of salt and never expect anything more than some company for a while.
Why is it we can't find someone we are attracted enough to very often, are we all so set in our ways that no-one fits in? Is it that we are not even bothered to give people a chance?
Is it just luck that we find a person, who we are interested in? Maybe it is.
Being disappointed is the main feeling most have meeting new people.
How do other single people keep a positive attitude these days?
I think People hate being alone so keep partners who are (ok), maybe it is better to have someone, than no one at all..
I personally think differently and would rather be alone than be with someone who I can not love and be proud off.. We all know that most are in relationships that are hard work, But alot just need someone, and not necessarily any one special. Maybe they stay in what they are in and keep looking, just in case they do find someone who is more suitable, and if they do, they will dump the one they live with.. How sad is that???
Yes single for a few years now.. But some of have reasons why, and have not been looking.. But am trying to date now, so maybe will find a partner one day, if it is meant to be...
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RE: Why Girls think they are so beautiful?
Zoranova...Lol It is only because we are older and that we think this post is a little bit uninteresting...