Do whatever you would like. I'm simply trying to tell you that you're acting immature. Believe me, I've heard that from people when I wanted to do things too. But you have to rise above it, it's the only way to get respect. I was obviously raised different than you, but I can relate to what you are feeling as well.
My ex boyfriend broke up with my via text message we weren't even into the relationship that far, but I did sleep with him. I was sick as could be when he broke up with me, I had a fever and was in bed. I called to ask him to come over, he said no and hung up. Then he texted me it wasn't going to work out. I didn't do anything out of frustration and hurt to him. You want to know what I did? I wanted to destroy the belt he left behind but I texted him about it, he didn't answer. I STILL gave it back. Instead of doing anything to him, I went out and got my tongue pierced. Something that I have always wanted, but he talked me out of. :) I don't know if he actually cheated on me or not when he went home and saw a girl friend that he had history with, I just know I was sick and wanted him to come over that night.
There are classy ways to blow off steam. Don't egg or saran wrap his car. Those are immature acts. Believe me, I have been screwed over worse than you in the past. I never once retaliated the way you are talking. You are feeding into it by letting him know it's bothering you. If you act like you don't care, that's the biggest insult you can use.
** Thank you for the compliment about having good sense for being young by the way :)
Do you honestly think that egging his car is mature? It's not harmless by any means it can strip the paint. Act more mature than he did. It's the first step in showing that you are better than him.
You're a beautiful girl... My guess is the guy was around your and my age? Men our age don't ever really know what they want... It's sorta why I'm not looking to settle down in my college years... After college men seem to shape up a little more.. still not as much as we would like, but it's a start. Good luck hun :)
Hey hun.. Idk your situation or what he is like, but I have seen and been in abusive relationships. You're doing what is best and while it's hard, you'll over come it. Your son may not understand right now, but someday he will. I wish you the best and Happy Birthday. Hold your head high and try not to let him see you when you're down. He'll turn your weakness on you. Good luck love.
We haven't decided what we would do... I want to see him he wants to see me but he works 6 days a week, actually before he moved he wanted to send me money to go to South Carolina so I can move there with my friend and I rejected his offer, he told me I could pay him back whenever, but I refused... So I'm sure he'd be willing to help with the plane ticket... I just want to hear from him is all, but that might not happen so it's okay... Thanks though.
I do mostly agree with you on this one... and it would have worked if he would have stayed in Minnesota... With his sister still there he will be going back and forth, but it still won't be the same, however... If I do hear from him which eventually I'm sure I will, I know I can trust him. I might move to South Carolina which is closer to him, but still not right there ya know? I don't know.. I'm not worried, what is meant to happen will happen.. It was a let down last night, but something could have came up.
Thanks for being so sweet haha.. I am giving him time... the only let down was that he made it a promise, whatever happens happens...
** As a side note, just because I'm 21 doesn't mean I haven't had to face things in my life... I've been through a lot, and I'm not about to tell someone who is younger than me that they haven't because I have no idea where the come from... So don't look down on me because of my age... I can't control my age, but I also know I've had a lot of lessons learned and obstacles I have overcame. Thanks.
I don't have a number to call him right now and even if I did with him working such long shifts, I wouldn't call because I don't know what his sleep schedule is...
I am going to go read my articles on suicide watch and mental health in prisons for my paper.. fun huh? anyways thanks everyone for the advice :) Bye.
To be honest, he's a wonderful father but he was raised where cheating is okay... I still talk to his wife idk if its his ex wife or not yet, but everyone has past...
*** No it's not mississippi men, the guy I'm talking to is from Minnesota, we just never got to meet before he moved, he was really busy and I'm in summer school... Otherwise things would be a little different right now.
One of my good friends from High school lives in South Carolina.. her boyfriends in Japan right now and she's having back problems from a car accident she had years ago that she nearly died... So I was going to go help her out for awhile, look for a job and transfer there for schooling... Once I'm down south it'll be easier to settle where I want to in a few years. Right now I think she needs me...
hahahaha! He wanted me to drop out of SCHOOL lol! I told him to well.. in nice terms "get real" :) Nah he was from Kentucky... We never met, and I got past it... He was mentally abusive anyways... :) I ended up getting so wrapped up in him because he was the last person I was talking to before something traumatic happened to me, but he was in no way a good guy.
Oh I know thanks :) It just takes a lot for me to open up to someone... I don't get close to people I put walls up, I listen but never talk about my own problems...
*** As far as visiting him in Mississippi I want to... He will come visit me in Wisconsin when he's back in Minnesota, but I love the south and he's really close to Tennessee, which is where I want to settle down someday. Love that state.
I'm trying :| it's so much easier said than done.. I'm great at giving advice, and I'd say the same thing to friends, but following your own advice is a different story... it's all fine till you're the one dealing with it.. then it doesn't appear so simple.
Thanks. :) Hopefully I hear from him within a few days but all I can do is wait it out.. If he called me once already, I don't know what would make him just stop... he probably just got caught up in something.
Yeah I know.. it just sucks when the one you want to run to about something that happened, isn't available you know? He's the one I can say anything to and he will never judge... he'll just listen.. always has... haha I just miss him.
He's important to me because he has said things to me that no other person ever would.. he's reached into the person that I actually am. He tries to help me through my issues and flaws that I know I have... He knows that I have a broken heart and even though it's broken he knows I have a one of a kind personality and would make any guy lucky.. I know it's just words, but this was before we ever started talking about meeting or anything.. i was actually dating someone at the time, but it didn't feel right. His past resembles a lot of mine.. Idk... Yeah I'm trying to distract myself as much as possible but my mind still wonders wondering what he is doing and where he is.. Trust is hard but I'm trying to have it with him.
No they won't... I have a hard time walking out on people, I'm hoping that he just lost track of time or has been really tired after work and passed out and he'll call me on his day off... I mean I thought he was moving into his place but when he called me he was at a hotel so I'm not even sure if he's started moving into a place yet... I don't think he'd just walk away from me like that... I just always second guess things.
Nope that isn't it... I have people to hang out with I'm writing a paper for class on Monday actually... It's not that he said he would call, he made a promise.. he rarely makes promises in order for them to have more value.. so it's kind of a let down, I'm not letting him go, I'm worried he's not going to contact me.
Thank you dear that's what I'm hoping.. it's just hard to wait you know? not knowing what you want to know... Wednesday we only talked for a half hour... He said he missed me and he knew I missed him too... Maybe he didn't get his work phone yet, I know he works 6 days a week, so his schedule is hectic.
Why does he make me feel better? He's the only person to understand the background that I come from... He understands my relationship that I have, or sorta don't have with my family... He knows my difficulties to trust people, and he knows how important it is when I do trust someone. Idk he's one of the only people I can have intellectual conversations with, and some people just have a certain way of taking away your problems, it's not easy to explain.
haha guys in wisconsin are lame... trust me.. and I'm not staying here anyways... I am trying to get my money together to go to South Carolina in March and look for a job.. This guy is amazing, I just don't know where he is at the moment...
Yes, but I would just be visiting him.. I'm trying to move to South Carolina right now, which is closer to Mississippi than I am now... I've been looking to move out of Wisconsin... and his sister is still in Minnesota, so he will be going back and forth sometimes if I don't move anyways...
Yes, but I would just be visiting him.. I'm trying to move to South Carolina right now, which is closer to Mississippi than I am now... I've been looking to move out of Wisconsin... and his sister is still in Minnesota, so he will be going back and forth sometimes if I don't move anyways...
Okay, so I've been talking to this guy everyday for 2 weeks, things were great he lived in Minnesota, and me living in Wisconsin I was happy... Well he moved on Monday to Mississippi for his job. He promised to call me within a week and I heard from him Wednesday, I didn't expect to hear from him that soon.. He was drinking but he wasn't at all drunk. He promised to call me in the next two days, so Thursday or Today, Friday... I haven't heard from him, should I care? He called me from a hotel phone and told me he'd call me from his work phone when he got it... He's working 10-16 hour days, so I shouldn't give up yet right? even if he did make a promise? I really like him and he's a lot different and once he gets settled down I plan on going to visit him... Ugh help :( I miss talking to him and really need to talk to him because he's the only one to understand me... And I Just had a fight with my best friend, so talking to him would mean a lot ya know? *Sigh* Any advice or input is appreciated... thank you!
lol Thank you... :) I figured if I'm not worth the 9 hour drive to come here, then I'm sure not moving for him, let alone droppin out of school and he knew I would never drop out of school so whatev his loss :)
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oh that was in response to the self respect post, I forgot to hit quote lol! Long day.