Sorry NMP: In short, it's illegal under the American Foreign Corrupt practices Act (and seriously frowned upon by other governments). People have gone to jail and companies have been fined millions of dollars for someone engaging in facilitating payments as mentioned in the thread.
But, as some other astute soul (Scubadiva) said, sounds like case prep work to me so I thought I'd keep it off the forums.
“From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs” seems to work pretty well. A marriage is a partnership, and different folks make up different rules on money.
I've always felt that what's ours is ours, what's hers is hers, and what's mine is mine. So what has worked well for me in the past is that no matter what either of us is earning, we take the total 'our' expenses and pay them proportionately based on each person's income. If either of us were not earning, I'll admit, that this would not work out, but so far that hasn't been a problem.
Not exactly the same ages, but in general, I've been there, done that.
Together for 3 years; it was lovely at first. We got engaged, had a daughter, but lost the relationship when the age gap became too apparent. What got me through this in the end was the understanding that one should not cry because something's over, but to smile because it happened at all!
Seriously, at 20, you have really got to ask: 'what's in it for her?' I know only too well what was in it for me - both good and bad!
So, I can not caution strongly enough to avoid taking up the offer if you want something long term. Chances are, it will NOT turn out the way you hope. By the way, ignore the shotgun threats, In my case, her dad is still a friend.
Just in case, I plan an exit strategy in advance: That's why - if I can arrange it, longer lunch dates on a week day are also a good idea FOR BOTH OF US! I'd much rather feel that there has been far too little time to spend than to feel a lifetime has passed.
Google tells me that it was Bobby Womack (who's he?) Javascript:emot(''); who said: ""Leave them wanting more and you know they'll call you back."
Geography is not a really strong suit for my family back in Minnesota either. I told my beloved Aunt that I had been to Brussels on business, and she asked me "Is Brussels in Belgium, or is Belgium in Brussels?"
Next time I'll ask tell her that I'm off to Paris - though she'll probably think it's in Colorado!
RE: scare or tattoo
How about a design contest: you post a picki of the tat, we all take a stab at helping you to design a new one?Nah, really dumb idea, I can't draw!