I did that and yeah, it was STUPID. People don't respect themselves when they take without effort. When they don't respect themselves they are often unpleasant to you. Better to help them find income and share with a good budget. Set monetary goal of which you both can be proud to have reached.
She is working long hours too. We have a life together. The shops are way better in Bucharest than ever in here in this little town.
And finally, when we first met, I had a long nights work at the office (time-zones can be a pain in the etc.), I left her with some Swedish currency and told her the general direction of where to best get rid of them.
What happened? When I finally were done and came home, she had more money than when I left.
She had seen that if you take the recyclable PET bottles and drop them into a machine, you get a refund in cash. I had a pile of them in the kitchen (Fanta ), she returned them to that machine, and got bingo.
She is working long hours too. We have a life together. The shops are way better in Bucharest than ever in here in this little town.
And finally, when we first met, I had a long nights work at the office (time-zones can be a pain in the etc.), I left her with some Swedish currency and told her the general direction of where to best get rid of them.
What happened? When I finally were done and came home, she had more money than when I left.
She had seen that if you take the recyclable PET bottles and drop them into a machine, you get a refund in cash. I had a pile of them in the kitchen (Fanta ), she returned them to that machine, and got bingo.
She is working long hours too. We have a life together. The shops are way better in Bucharest than ever in here in this little town.
And finally, when we first met, I had a long nights work at the office (time-zones can be a pain in the etc.), I left her with some Swedish currency and told her the general direction of where to best get rid of them.
What happened? When I finally were done and came home, she had more money than when I left.
She had seen that if you take the recyclable PET bottles and drop them into a machine, you get a refund in cash. I had a pile of them in the kitchen (Fanta ), she returned them to that machine, and got bingo.
“From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs” seems to work pretty well. A marriage is a partnership, and different folks make up different rules on money.
I've always felt that what's ours is ours, what's hers is hers, and what's mine is mine. So what has worked well for me in the past is that no matter what either of us is earning, we take the total 'our' expenses and pay them proportionately based on each person's income. If either of us were not earning, I'll admit, that this would not work out, but so far that hasn't been a problem.
petalbabeOgdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland3,101 posts
Not sure if this is for guys only, but here goes anyway..
As far as Im concerned, if Im in a committed, long term relationship, we share everything. I am quite happy to have one joint account, where we each contribute toward utilities,etc, and food bills.
It would be nice to also have a seperate savings account for myself, from which I could buy my "girlie things", or His birthday and Christmas presents. That way, he is not paying for his own presents!! And just for any other little things that I would rather pay for myself.
But in general, I am more than happy to just have a joint checking account. Thats what marriage, or just a long term committed relationship, is all about..
i did it once wont do it again... she took me for everything i had..cleaned out both bank accounts.cleaned out my checking account and wrote bad checks..lesson learned it aint gonna happen again
All monies coming in are ours and after our bills are paid. A small portion of that remaining ( a resonable amount will be used for our decided purchases.) If she wanted a necklace....we would try to get it for her, but all should be fair and equitable in all things.
Ah well, I don't think any person should pay entirely for their bf or gf. I do think that when married what's mine is yours applies if kids are involved. Although my sisters and their husbands do everything 50/50.
This is one of the problems with marriages today! 50/50 is a division in place......it is to be 100% us. When you have two dividing things.....the marriage is divided and a false true union. It is playing at marriage until the game gets old. It is a self lie to a convience called a union, but divide.
serena1206cutie: In shanghai, China. Many husbands always give their wives all the money they make.. What about you?
Husband and wife is like two parts of one body,they should spend thier money Together wthout any hasitation,there shouldnt be any counting,that is a key tip for a successful life
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