look JLM i see where you're coming from, like you said the internet is a total different ball game, but at the same time i think sometimes we have to lower our expectations a bit. basically the way i see it you send a first mail the person takes a look at your profile and sends a mail back if interested, doesnt really matter what you put in that first mail (unless its blatantly abusive or something). like i said the very first you say in real life is hi, you get an instant response one way or the other and play it from there. you dont get that instant response online, so the obvious thing to do is say hi... and wait to say if you get a hi back. least that way you know the other person is interested, then like i said you play it out from there. first emailing is a nerve wracking thing, especially with the absence of eye contact for obvious signs etc, so call me a fool but i'm not gonna open the conversation up til i have some kind of sign the other person's interested in getting to know me. i could open it up and ask some more questions in a first mail, but to be honest for me that's like putting my balls on a plate and handing out a machete. basically its self protection, and if we all didn't exercise this a bit we'd all be emotional wrecks. personally i try to see things from the other persons point of view not just my own, but i think both people need to be able to see it from the other persons side, relationships being a two way affair when all's said and done. Anyway, happy new year
just a question JLM. whats wrong with saying hello and asking someone how they are? is that not how it is when u meet someone out and about ie the first step in getting to know someone? it really riles me when peoples attitudes are to expect something more from a first mail, saying hello is just the first step and then the conversation flows from there (or not, in some cases...). as if its not nerve wracking enough sending a first mail in the first place
take your time to settle in, come along to the meet at the end of the month get a few beers you'll meet a few new people
and they say to always sell your strong points on your profile. so maybe say something like: 'Great multi-tasker, ability to perform under pressure. Able to make a rocket launcher out of a matchbox, piping and some copper wire'
when feeling down i'll come to you when skies are grey i'll come your way when skies are blue i'll think of you this bright new year this brand new day
as one year passes to the next a heartbeat slows as one reflects on what is true on what is real on how to live and how to feel
dont let the thoughts of this world pull or from your beauty take away my thoughts of you are only true my love for you is here to stay
when feeling down i'll come to you when skies are grey i'll come your way when skies are blue i'll think of you this bright new year this brand new day
jonathan_heart Forum Posts (2,108)
RE: 3 word thread
private detention now!