I have given this alot of thought, done research in the past and reached deep deep down inside my own mind way down where mushrooms begin to take you on a journey... No mushrooms in this journey. Just alot of deep thinking. Thinking about love and what makes up a working relationship. Love is an atachment to somthing. A very strong bond that causes you to do crazy things you wouldnt do with any other normal feelings. It makes you feel really good inside. It also gives a person the power to overcome situations that are normally difficult and usually wouldnt even be attempted to overcome. Love can also cause you to make decisions that are somtimes rash or illogical. It can also play with someones mind if they arent careful. With love it can be difficult to know when to toss in the towel or follow it to a dead end. I tend to do the second one always. Its foolish i know because i risk everything i feel for somthing that can bite back in the end and leave me emotionally hurt. Time heals hurt if the hurt is dealt with. I choose this type of journey for that edge and to satify my own curiosity. When you want somthing bad enough you will follow this choice. Try it sometime. Its a hard way to live. For some reason there are things i just cant leave alone until they leave me alone.
Relationships... There are many kinds. It is the balance that is most important. Kinda like a fire triangle where you need fuel, ogygen, and heat for fire to exist in any fire related situation. Three things must also exist and be in balence for a healthy relationship. Love i have already spoken of. This is the ingrediant that bonds everthing together and it must go both ways as do the other two. Trust. This takes time to devolope, and if its comprimised it starts all over if the relationship continues... Somtimes further back than it was in the begginning. The last one is communication. A lack of it can be very stressfull. Without it, everything falls apart. Being honest, letting the other one know what your thinking and planning, and choices you are making are important for this to work properly. Finding the balance of all three and having those three flow both ways to the person you love and from the person you love is the key thing to a healthy relationship. Its easy to love with little or no effort. Anyone can easily love anything, to get the love coming back can sometimes be a really big struggle. Sometimes there are situations when it was always there and never went away. It still has to be felt occasionally to know its still there. You ever tell someone on the phone "Still there" to see if the call was dropped? A really good relationship can take little or alot of effort depending on the balance it is at. If the love is strong enough, it should always be worth it. For me... I would rather know i tried and give it everything i could than not have tried at all and always wondered where it could have gone. This is largely tied in with personal comfort zones. Im always trying to push my comfort zone out further and further. If you know me and know where ive been and done and what ive gone through, then im sure you understand what im talking about. The funny thing about this... my own personal comfort is at its greatest when im with who i love most. Without this i freak out somtimes literaly, like in those Anime cartoons. I really crack myself up long afterwords over this. On the otherhand, when im dedicated to something... i put in alot of effort and its usually beyond insane. Many friends and family have seen this. Sometimes i even wonder about my never give up until i run into that dead end where i can go no further attitude. "Give up" is not in my volcabulary. My efforts always intend pride and quality. So should yours.
Eurythmics - Sweet Dreams
Is it that hard to say the truth ??? why we should live a lie..."Hurt me with the truth but dont comfort me with a lie"
But some people still living a lie................
Rejection may come from many sources and some of those causes can be somehow ridiculous for some but extremely serious for others. Incidentally the most common reason for rejection is a feeling of inadequacy and a fear of failure from your partner. Regardless of the reason your significant other is dropping you is still devastating to the ego. The list is endless but let me mention a few reasons why you could be dropped.A lack of communication a lack of chemistry a lack of mental support a lack of s*xual activity a lack of understanding a lack of good health a lack of spirituality.........
Some relationships are worth fighting for to be sure, but really take a look at what the reasons were that led to the breakup or rejection. You don’t want to beat a dead horse. Let it go and spend your time fighting for something and someone with a future.
Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, at's her.
Love is like fog it doesn't clear up until you work through it,Love is honey it's sticky at first but when it hits your mouth, it sweeter than life sweeter than the sugar , Love is like the sunset it leaves but you know it will still be there tomorrow..................................... and love love love
Hello World,
I just want to say to whom that have a bad past with a relationship or anything that was affecting his life and still affecting they way that lives at the moment, Never let life's hardships disturb you,promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best. forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you!
If someone broke your heart move on, you deserve better, if someone walk away from your life let him/her go , why you bring a headache to yourself or let those things affect you, you as yourself know whats better for you, if someone reject you that doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you, move on cause someone else will accept you, life is like a school the more you learn from it the more you be aware what is going on with you and how you will solve something in the future.
One thing i wanna add but women dont get me wrong, but some females is like a book you have to open every page of their life's so you can be able to understand them..... and same apply to men.
Regards
Ash W
Who agree with me, the 90s music is much better than the new crap these days.....
# A relationship with a foundation of dishonesty is like a house of cards.
# Grass only looks greener on the other side.
# You may secretly wonder if there isn't a better partner out there. This is your mind's way of communicating that you are dangerously close to real intimacy with your current partner.
# If your partner says he or she is willing to grow and change, don't test him/her. Support him/her in his or her commitment.
# Emotional maturity is knowing when you are overreacting. Stop and take care of your needs so you can get back in balance.
# What you think you want is often not what you really want, but rather a sideways plot to get your needs met.
# If you ask, very often you will receive.
# Communication means two way understanding, not one way accusing.
# Until you resolve your past, you are not free to have a future.
# What people do to you is rarely about you and is almost always about their unresolved past. Don't take it personally.
# Until you realize that a great relationship is created by who you are, you won't have one.
# Until you love yourself enough to take care of your needs, no one else will.
# If you feel empty, a relationship will most likely make you feel even emptier.
# Compassion for your partner goes a long way in getting what you want.
# s*xual intimacy has very little to do with attractiveness and everything to do with emotional intimacy and trust.
# Women rarely appreciate money and assistance as a substitute for emotional intimacy.
# If your partner continuously says, There is nothing wrong with me. Our problems are all your fault,get help.
# This is not a dress rehearsal this is your life and your relationships in progress. Start creating your life the way you want it to be today.
* Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness.
relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames the partner.
* Make and keep clear agreements.Do not expect your partner to agree with you on every issue.
* Use communication to establish a common ground to understand different points of view and to create a mutual, collaborative agreement or plan.You can choose to be right or to have a successful relationship. You can't always have both.
* Approach your relationship as a learning experience.
* Tell the unarguable truth.Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love.
* Forgive one another.Forgiveness is a decision of letting go of the past and focusing on the present.
* Review your expectations.Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations - including acceptable and unacceptable behavior and attitudes, especially attitudes towards money. Everybody needs love, intimacy, affection, and affirmation.
And there are some others but didnt want to make my blog long and boring ....
It's funny or i dont know , but recently i noticed that if you called a women beautiful or pretty etc.. she will get mad but if you tell her she is sexy or nice body she will be happy ?????? really weird
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