Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, they serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be; your friend, your neighbor, teacher, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger who, when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way. Sometimes things happen to you and at the time they seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never have realized your potential, strength, will power of heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments or true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of the soul. Without these small tests, if they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smooth paved, straight, flat road to nowhere…safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet who affect your life and successes and downfalls you experience, they are the ones who create who you are. Even the bad experience can be learned from. Those lessons are the hardest and probably the most important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them. Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen, let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it. I wish you all the best in your endeavors as well as struggles in life. Have a fighting spirit and never hesitate to get back in the struggle!
There are times in a persons life that they find themselves staring at a situation that they could not have seen themself in if they lived to be 1000. I found myself in one of these predicaments a few weeks ago. Not really understanding how I got there or why. It wasn't a new ordeal. I had been here before, but thought I would never return. Funny how fate always reminds us where we are suppose to be. I am standing here on a cliff looking down at what was a great life. Shattered on the rocks below. Not really understanding what has happened yet but realizing it did. I am perplexed in the way life looses itself in the winds and finds itself parelling out of control. In the past I never took the time to look up. I just keep staring down at the rocks and felt that was where I needed to be as well. I looked at the rocks this time at the life I loved so much and realized that there might be more. So I stood there looking as the tides moved in and started to wash the broken pieces away. Then a strong breeze came across and as the waves crashed into the cliff I breathed in the mist of the ocean of life. I can feel the winds blowing on my face, the taste of salt in the air. I see the world in a differant way. A way I have always seen it but not clouded or obscoured by perils. Destiny has laid her hand on my shoulder and showed me that the cliff wasn't the end of my path but an oppertunity for me to change directions. You don't have to jump off of the cliffs you come across in life but to clarify why you have reached them and walk away. I have come across many cliffs large and small. One that I never thought I could walk away from. I do not know what direction I am suppose to go for the first time in most of my life, but I know it is time to change directions or I will end up falling off the cliff.
Too often, when love comes to people, they try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift freely given and a gift that just as freely moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was.
They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small thing were different love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances. They blame each other. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways they live in a sea of misery.
You need to treat what love brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you toward whom you feel no love, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love will deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are very different.
If you fall in love with another who falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know it in time, but time itself will choose the moment.
Remember this and keep it in your heart. You don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it to you. Give it to others who seem poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.
Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. If it chooses to leave, from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and nothing you should do. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open, it will surely come again.
To the single folks out there, this is for you. Single means you have the time to grow and be the person you want to be. Single gives you space to grow. Sometimes, it is harder to grow when you are too close to someone. Trees are planted far apart so they can spread their branches and become strong as they mature. Single means learning to live by yourself. However, that is no more difficult than learning to live with somebody else. Single means freedom. You are free to spend a week's vacation on the beach, to take computer courses, to work late on an interesting project, to spend the day in bed with a good book or simply with a person who has read one. Single means learning not to need a man/woman to make your life meaningful but learning to live with a man/woman because you want to be with him/her. Single means that sometimes you will wonder why you will bite your lip and feel wistful and wonder if marriage is better. Ironically, yet quite happily, single is feeling good about being in control of your life. It is liking and respecting who you are and why you are. Single is realizing that being married is not necessarily better, it is merely different. Single means that there could be something wonderful around the corner and you can take advantage of it. Single means you are free to love again.
I think that so many people abuse love, they don't know what they have or they don't care. It's so hard to find someone who loves you. I mean really loves you. Be with you 50 years from now love. So many times people leave someone who has given them that kind of devotion, not realizing what they were giving away until later. I swear I see it all the time. I'm not the only one who sees this, right? It's not only men who do this, it's women too. Why can't people see when they have that kind of love? Do they just not want it? It's crazy.
I'm one of those "whats meant to happen will happen" type people so of course I believe there's a person for everyone whom they're supposed to be with. I know a lot of people don't believe that. But anyway why do people treat love as if you could buy it on every corner? You can't! Real love is so hard to come by. There's people married to people who they don't even love. Maybe they gave away the right one a long time ago. Or maybe they settled and stopped looking for the right one. Who knows I guess. It's just such a waste.
So, if you're in the wrong relationship and you know it, get out now. Don't be afraid to be alone for a while. You will meet the right one. One of the worst things you can do is stay in a relationship for the fear of being alone. You won't be alone forever. There is someone out there for you, you just haven't found them yet. But don't keep stringing someone along if you don't love them back, they don't deserve it and neither do you. You're wasting precious time out of your life and life is short. If you've already let someone go who did love you that much. Maybe you should take some time and think about that. Why'd you let them go? Are you sure it was a good enough reason to throw away that kind of love?
If you're in that kind of relationship already, be grateful! If you have a girl/guy who loves you more than anything else and would marry you tomorrow and be with you when you're old, don't do anything stupid! Be grateful for what you have. So many people don't have it and wish they did. And people, once you taint the love/relationship by being unfaithful or dishonest it's never the same. So stop messing up a good thing!
You don't know what you've got til it's gone! That's some real talk.
And a message to those of you who are giving the love, the great love and you aren't being appreciated and treated like you should. Just do the best you can. If the relationship ends up failing, at least you will know you did everything you could to make it work. One of the worst feelings you can feel is sitting there alone after a breakup wondering if you did everything right, thinking "if I could go back, theres so much I would change" you don't want to feel this, so do it now. I know sometimes it seems like future is so clear and you think you'll be with that person for a long time and then bam! Things change, well you know what that means right? They weren't the right one. They weren't deserving of your love or your time. Give it to someone who does appreciate you.
Always be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not just to keep someone else happy. If you're having to do this, they don't love you. Sorry, harsh but true. Someone that loves you would love everything about you. And would encourage you to be yourself and do what makes you happy. You may think it's worth to keep the person in your life but it's not. You will never be happy living this way.
And for those who are giving the love and don't know when to say "Enough is enough", well enough in my opinion is when you've done all you can. You've compromised as much as you possibly can and they still don't change. That is enough. When you've been going through the same shit year after year, month after month. That is enough. You have to fight for love but you also have to be fair to yourself and give yourself what YOU deserve.
A good heathly relationship should have no end in sight.
Just so everybody knows I'm not in a relationship i just thought of this quote and wanted to write it down somewhere, so enjoy.
"A real man needs a real woman, a fake man needs a fake woman, so what should a real couple do when they realize that most of the world is fake?"
Because you can't mix the real with the fake and thats why so many relationships fail these days and then some people find it hard to stay true to the world and feel they must conform to the ways of the fake.
There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can not make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have, He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't
belong to you and was never intended for your life,
Then you need to......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains
......
LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back,and
See your worth.....
LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you ........
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil
and revenge......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents.
LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......
LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to you to a new level in Him......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves......
LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed
.........
LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to.......
LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing!!!
LET IT GO!!!
Get Right or Get Left .. Think about it, and then ..
LET IT GO!!!
Love is something to be cherished, not played with. When a person plays with love they are playing with fate and others hearts. They are too selfish to see or even care what they are doing is killing someone else emotionally. The people get emotionally drained, then try to give the little bit of love they have left and can't. The little bit of love they have left they use to live their life to what they can. The person is never full of love, hope, or sense of direction. Love is not to be taken as weakness or a joke. Love is not to manipulate another for something you want or feel that you need. Love is not selfish, Love is not jealous, Love is not envy, Love is not idolizaum, Love is not impatient.
Don't settle for you can live with, but best to wait for the one you can't live without. By comparing yourself with others, you undermine your worth. We are different and because of it. Each one of us is special. Life's a little weird, we are all a little weird. Letting go isn't the end of the world, it's the beginning of a new life. Set you free, beautiful things are unseen. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. That's why we sleep, cry, imagine, and kiss, with close eyes? Finding someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, fall in mutual weirdness is love. The trick is join up with them and call it love, without making a mistake. For only those who have been touched, their lives can appreciate. The importance of the people. They have love. Don't let your life slip through your fingers. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life. The one, a great love? Only you know what is best for you. So still smile, still care for her or him. Over shed tears love her or him. You never have to die with it, still you long for her or him. It never has to die either. You can always remember it with a smile . That's what true love is. Somehow along the course of life, you learn about yourself and realize there should never be regrets, only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you've made. Loving is part of how you forgive, not how you listen but how you understand, not what you see but how you feel, and not how you let go but how you hold on. Secret tears scar forever while tears can be wiped away.That love, that energy is eternal. It's best to wait for the right one. The one you love, the one you want. Don't set your goals by what other people deem important,but give importance to the things closest to your heart. If you settle for one that's available, that who happens to be around. Laugh to your heart's content. Happly, you cannot go
through life without it. Don't give up. Don't be afraid you are less than perfect. Encounter risks without being afraid of it. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave. Because life is too short to waste on just crying or longing. Sometimes the one you love turns out to be the one who hurts you the most, and sometimes the friend who takes you into their arms and cries when you cry turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted. Cling to that as you would your life, for without them life is meaningless. Nothing is really over, until you stop trying. If you still have something to give, don't shut love out of your life by saying it's impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give love. The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tightly. To keep love is to give love. Don't dismiss your Dreams, to be hopeless is to be without
dreams or purpose. But also know where you're going. Life is not a race, but a journey to enjoy every step of the way. Love openly, live openly, indeed. Don't run through life so fast that you forget where you've been. In love, there is no losers, rarely do we win, but true love, love stronger than the love you love yourself even when we lose the love, we are still winners, just because you love someone and someone love you back. Feel the joy, let it be. Fly free like energy in space.
To make a mountain of your life is just a choice. But I never learned enough to listen to the voice that told me...always love... hate will get you everytime. Always love... don't wait till the finish line. Slow demands come around and squeeze the air and keep the rest out. It helps to write it down even when you then cross it out. But Always Love... hate will get you every time. Always love... even when you want to fight.
A gentle word like a spark of light. It illuminates your love one's soul. As each sound goes deeper, it's you that makes your love one whole. There is no corner, no dark place that love cannot fill. If the world starts causing waves. It's your devotion that makes them still. In sweet honesty and truth, your caring heart keeps your love one out the rain. Your love is the ultimate roof.
The special person. The perfect person. Wait a while cause the person is worth it. Don't know why and don't know how. In due-time, the person will be told. You don't wanna wait. Don't act so soon and it won't seem late. That power, that feeling. It brings a type of healing. A wonderful time. Love will teach you so much. But you can't just jump in. Wait for the trust. Love is so powerful. The most strongest thing. It can be a wonderful dream or a terrible nightmare. It affects your life and it also affects the lives of others. So wait for that special someone cause to love, there is no other. For the people that already found it, may you continue to have that great everlasting dream, which is now actually reality.
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