Well I’ve been through the mill and still looking. I wonder if there are any women out there who are really looking for an old fashioned relationship. One where a man meets women, they enjoy the others company, go out on a few dates and, if they enjoy each other, start a relationship. In my experience Internet dating has not been ideal since the scam artists and weirdoes have made a mockery of all trust issues on the internet. I’ve been on a few internet dates and find myself worrying more about being taken for a ride than enjoying the other person. Are there any trustworthy females out there who have moral values just want to meet a decent partner to enjoy. Someone you can laugh with, spend time doing things that both enjoy, together. When things go wrong, take up the challenge and work through it together. Yes a relationship the old fashioned way or have I lost the plot?
Daughter and I decided to spend some quality time this past week. We hired a chalet in Mpumalnga and spent some quality time bonding in the midst of a panorama of beauty provided by nature. The fresh early morning air tingled on our faces as we braved the nearby hiking trails.
The predefined pathways of the trails meandered over hills and dales, twisted through the valleys and dongas, and boy … It took a toll on my well used frame. Daughter seemed to take the shrub, stones and whatever obstacles in her stride.
And, being her bubbly self, she did not stop talking from the first step into the trail. On occasion I had to silence her when we came upon the various animals in the veld. We stopped at a few strategic places and took in the beauty that nature provided. Yes, you could see God’s hand from horizon to horizon, from the greens to the oranges to the deep reds. The vast open spaces, the timeless movements of the earth over millions of years were a few of the wonders that put us firmly in our place. In the greater scheme of things we as individuals are less than insignificant...
Later we treated ourselves to a game drive. Excellent. We saw a variety of species of buck, monkeys, baboons bush pigs, and zebra. Oh what an experience. Our tour guide was not only very knowledgeable about both fauna and flora, but also a good communicator who really enjoyed his work. His enthusiasm was infectious. He really went far beyond our expectations
But more importantly we did a lot of bonding. Just dad and daughter.
She is very open with me and sometimes I wonder if she if giving her dad too much information. Some of the things she so openly relates to me should be for her friend’s ears only. But then I realise the innocence in her communications and silently thank God that she can confide so easily in me. My concerns about the social and moral pressures that had me tossing and turning at night are being out weighed by the values that we in our roles as parents have tried to instil.
Maybe there is light at the end of this tunnel.
I remember my late teens and early twenties some refer to this period as the prime of their lives. Relationships were so much easier then. Boy meets girl, they date and if any fireworks, they would become a couple and a relationship would bloom from there
I remember meeting many of the girls that I dated in nightclubs or even on the train to and from work (and yes we did use the train and parked our cars at the station). Today a lot of us don’t use public transport any more, thus the state of traffic on the roads. Not to mention the state of the roads, but wait I digress.
My first love was a girl that lived a couple of houses away. She was the most beautiful thing on earth, brownish blond hair, hazel eyes and the softest skin ever. Ah she was an angel, made in heaven for the pleasure of God alone but escaped and ended up in my life.
The first time I kissed her I trembled uncontrollably, my hands were clammy and all rational thought went out the window turning me into a speechless idiot, (I wonder what went through her mind). She seemed controlled with just a little smile that moved across her face. Like the sun moving across a beautiful African sky just before sunset. Exquisite.
Now we get to use dating sites on the internet and hope to God that we don’t get hooked up with some crazy or worse some prostitute preying on people trying to find new relationships. Then if you do meet someone there is the problem of HIV and AIDS. I do not envy our younger people.
And then we have not even started on the drugs and porn. When we grew up these were available but the teenagers had to go out of their way to get their hands on either. Now technology has placed this at their fingertips and drug dealers have infiltrated the schools.
My good God life has changed; I pray that my daughter gets through this unscathed. All we could do is try to instil good values the rest is up to her.
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