Starting Over:
That's the thing about love and romance, no one can predict where it will take you.
love will fill your heart, break your heart and then heal the heart that's broken.
Well, we have been through it all. we have loved, we have kissed, we have won
and we have lost. all in the name of love. poets have compared it to a ride at the
carnival, a trip to the heavens and back, and just about anything else you can think
of.
The one thing everyone agrees on, though, is that no matter how painful, no matter
how crazy and no matter how confusing, love is still what makes the world go' round.
Many of us reads chapters and thinking to ourselves, "That's it, I am through with love.
"We have all felt this way more than once. we have all felt that the pain is too much.
and it just isn't worth it. If we all feel this way, we will soon change our minds and be
ready to love again. In the meantime, use this break to nourish ourselves. use this time
to hang out with friends. make new friends.
Do things different. make a change in your life. enjoy your freedom and use it to become
more of a whole person. use it to get stronger and healthier so that when the next one
comes along you will be ready.
Most importantly, use this time to heal. Let your heart mend, and encourage it to stay soft.
Many times when love or the lack of it breaks our hearts, we allow our hearts to become
brittle and hard. Whatever you do, we do, don't let this happen.
Each new love that you experience will bring you joy and happiness. The amount of love that
you can feel, thought, depends on the openness of your heart.
-------------------------- FALLING IN LOVE It is a mystery why we fall in love. it is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails. You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out of the experience. This is the dream we all share. more often, it will come and take hold of you. celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on. When this happen to people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. when they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift what it was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery. You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. if you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find yourself someone in love with you but, you don't love her back, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to assess blame, Let It Go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you lin any way you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away. Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE. If You Keep Your Heart Open, It Will Come Again..!!!
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