How often have we told someone we don't want to meet that we are busy. I guess many of us are guilty of doing that. I for one always believe that if I dont want to see or meet someone, I would rather tell him directly then give excuses. I know sometimes that may seem rude, but rather that let the person think or believe that he has a chance, I would rather put an end to it immediately.
For those who go into chat rooms, Im sure you would have noticed some claiming to be busy, yet they would be practically the whole day in the chat room. If someone were that busy, how could he/she be in the chat room the whole day, even during working hours. That only says one thing, that the person has got no work to do or is neglecting their work to chat in the room instead. If only their bosses knew what they were paying these irresponsible staff to do..lol
Recently I observed a conversation in a chat room on another site. Now although Im not a person who would normally visit a chat room, sometimes I do go in just for a while to see whats going on, A woman there asked a man if they could meet for drinks and the guy answers that he is not sure as he will be busy. Does that mean during that period he is not going to have time to eat, sleep, rest, or relax. I find it really kinda rediculous for anyone to say they are busy for such a long period. If its a particular day and he says, im busy today or on that day, I can understand, but to claim to be busy for a long period of time and indefinetly, is a whole load of bull. I think that woman should have realised that the guy didn't think she was important enough to find time to have a drink with her on any one day, not that she specified any particular date but just that they meet for a drink.
I always believe that if we feel something or someone is important enough, we will make the time for that something or someone. A gentleman is one who when he makes an appointment with someone will ensure he will keep it unless of course there is an unforseen reason which should be a good reason, such as someone being sick or passed away. I dont think any other reason is good enough to break an appointment. Don't make an appointment if you are not sure about it.
If a guy asks me out and he is someone I would like to spend time with, no matter what I will make the time for him, but if he is not someone I enjoy being with, I would rather be at home doing nothing than going out with him. And if someone I dont enjoy being with ask me out, I would tell them straight that Im sorry but I don't want to go out with him. Of course I would put it in a nice and polite way. I wouldn't use the excuse of being busy if I dont want to meet someone, after all I don't think its anyones business what Im doing. I don't think I need to give explanations to anyone for declining their invitation. I rather be honest about it so he does not have any future hopes of being with me. I think the worst thing we can do to anyone is to give them hope knowing there is none. As it makes it harder to accept the longer the person has to wait to know he is never going to have a chance. Why let him get deeper into it thinking there is hope.
If anyone were to break an appointment with me without a very good and valid reason, there is no way I would ever accept another invitation from him. If a person thinks that Im not important enough to keep his appointment with me, then I dont think he is important enough for me to waste my time with him.
Just my thought.
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