It wasn't all that long ago really, that when people met, and fell in love, they believed in staying together. In fact, it was as early ago as when my dear grandparents were young.
However, i've found in this day and age, only 50...60 years later we're become so far removed from what real love is anymore i find it sad. Especially when the world has opened up so much to us- enabling us to get to meet and know people we otherwise would not have.
We live in an age now, where things are made like crap. They fall apart because it's just easier to replace then fix. It's all about the 'newer model'. But that attitude toward MATERIAL things has also crept over into an area it has no right in being. Our love lives and personal relationships. People are treating those they once fell in love with like they are some thing to be replaced if it's not working. (and not working is a loose term as people can be replaced for a newer model too.)
Not everyone believes in Soul Mates. i get that. Many who know me know how cynical and bitter i am toward men- and love in general. Yet even i have to believe in them. i have to believe there really is someone out there meant just for us. Someone who is our other half.
There are those who find it too far out to believe that in the entire world there could be only one single person 'meant for us.'
Don't get me wrong. The world is a very large, vast place. Filled with millions and billions of people. i'm not saying people can't find someone to love, and be happy with. That it HAS to be one certain person. Lots of people end up together who have no right to be together. They lie, cheat and disrespect each other and themselves each and every day. Yet they still somehow make it work. Maybe they are just lonely, scared, or fooling themselves into a false sense of belonging and happiness. Whatever the reason, it works for them. Most times. Then there are those who end up together and they seem like a pretty good match. Outwardly they could be perfect for eachother.
But with Soul Mates... It goes so much deeper then that. i believe Soul Mates connect on levels many of us cannot even begin to fathom or understand. They connect without even being aware of it. Some people are so sensitive to their 'other half' that they can't hold a stable relationship- or they just don't get into one at all. Nothing ever seems right. We can't figure it out why, most of us just decide we'll just end up alone...or turning into one of those people who settles on whatever comes along eventually. Or not.
Sometimes however... Sometimes on very rare occasions i like to believe people are consciously aware of their Soul Mate. It's a feeling that cannot be fully explained. Hard as you may try, in the end it just isn't logical by any scientific reasoning. It's a feeling that can only be roughly and crudely described as instinct. Following a feeling deep in your gut. These highly aware people can be thousands of miles apart from their Soul Mate- yet share feelings of longing, pain, and saddness. They can think of each other without ever having met. You can dream about them, even close your eyes and feel them beside you- without them really being there. Like an echo of a possible future.
Fate and Destiny play their hands in bringing two halves together. But they can only do so much.
Everything happens for a reason. Everything is connected somehow.
If you've met someone and tried to forget them (for whatever reason) it seems like the world is 'against you' and you keep on being reminded of them- The world isn't against you. It's trying to tell you something. It can be subtle, direct or round about. In the end it's up to US how we interpret and act(or not) on these directions and hints. Not everyone can see/sense such things. It's a gift.
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Again...
i am shown that men can't handle it when a woman gives him her honest, uneditted thoughts and feelings.
Even after she has tried to educate him on how women like to vent, and speak to air out their thoughts... that what they say may not be exactly what they are feeling.
Even after she has tried to get him to read about such things in her favorite book... which he never touched even after she took many hours to delve into the books he liked.
Men like to ride on anger, thinking themselves always right. That what they hear IS THE WAY IT IS. They are too foolish to know it's not.
i wish i'd stop trying. the bitter taste of failure each and every time is getting unbarable.
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