Need Some Advice Here
First let me say Hi to all and thanks for taking the time to read this.Here is my problem I am going to become a Grandmother in July
I myself am tickled to death about this but the biggest part of my family is having a hard time accepting the fact that my son's girlfriend is bi-racial. To me it isn't a problem but my family members are not willing to accept her and if they can't accept her can they really acept the baby? I know that there is always going to be people out there that are against this but let me ask this, when a child is born and is both black and white what race should they lean toward? Is it so awful that my family wont accept her? I know that times have changed but why is it that most people refuse to do the same? This really has me torn. This is the greatest time of my life and I can't really share it with my loved ones. If any of you guys have been thru it then please let me know how to deal with my family. Any and all advice will be greatly appericated!
Comments (8)
People can't accept what they don't understand, I guess.
The way I dealt with family is that I flat out said I love this person and if you can't be happy for me...oh well....I don't hold a grudge, but I just didn't bring her around.
I can see what you mean as I have 2 Philipino half bros and 2
coloured cousins,turns heads for sure but as long as you love them
there should be no problem, unfortunatly society has wot i call
tunnel vision in that respect and i will stand up and be counted
for my family,with a bit of luck and time they may come to be
accepted in yours too,so please don't give up the kids need all
the help they can these days,this is a very good question to ask
other countries too.good luck my friend hope all goes well..
I was raised on a farm in an Amish community in southern Indiana. I was raised that white is right, and that because I have blond hair and blue eyes, that I was a beautiful person. little over a year ago, a black man named Chester Jones pulled my body out from harms way after I was out cold. He saved my life that day. And till this day, we are best of friends. I have become acceptant to being open with everyone. They are all the same. Everyone's blood runs the same color. If your family has a problem with excepting that, then they need to except themselves first. Remember that. Thanks,
Very Respectfully,
Andy
People can change but it is their decision.
You need some comfort. Do you have friends that can support you
Hang in there
I think with the love you are going to provide to this child no matter what any of your family says will start to open doors of acceptance in your famiy. They have to think it's just a question of color of their skin. Ask them , What if you don't
have enough melanin in your body and you turn completly
white, then they would probably want to be a little darker??????
Love will brake barriers and who knows that child will the light of your whole family.
Good luck!