Love and Affection
Consensual, Mutual, Real Love: A Compilation
"God intended for us to enjoy these bodies and our lives in them to the very full with every fiber and every nerve of our body! He put them there for a purpose. If it was a nerve to make you feel good, then He did it to have you enjoy it and to make you feel good,then He did it to have you enjoy it and to make you feel good, amen?!"
"Ninety-eight percent of life is not sex! So why not enjoy the other ninety-eight percent instead of letting two percent ruin all your enjoyment of life and all your pleasure? Sex is not the greatest thing in life! Serving the Lord is the greatest thing in life! Serving others is the greatest thing in life!.
* Warm, fulfilling, exciting lovemaking is not a result of knowing a specific set of techniques. It's not a "do this, don't do that" affair. It is a reflection of love, emotion, humility, warmth, passion, tenderness, honesty and concern for the other person. The best lover may not be the most experienced, but rather the one who cares for his or her partner with real outgoing concern, and is able to prefer his or her partner's happiness and pleasure.
* Give real love. "Sex can only last so long without real unselfish love, and if they don't get that, sooner or later it's going to sour".
* Relax. Don't try to be something you're not. Just be natural and be honest.
* Take your time. Don't be in a hurry. "There is hardly anything that can be enjoyed in a hurry!--A glass of wine, a walk, a talk, a ride, a view, a meal or an embrace! Go slow, take your time, you'll enjoy it more--even lovemaking! You'll get more out of life!".
* If you're inexperienced at sex, remember that no one is expecting you to suddenly be an expert or a "super lover." Sex and lovemaking is an art, and it takes time and experience to learn. Just go slow, don't push it, and enjoy yourself.
* Develop mutual interests with your friends/lovers beyond sex. Sex is an important part of life, but it takes more than sex to make a good relationship. People who spend more quality time together will usually enjoy more satisfying s*xual fellowship together.
"Sex can be just a selfish thing, just because you need it and want it. But to give a person love and affection and cuddles to show that you love them, that's something that's beyond and more than and even greater than sex. That's real love, to show you love them".
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