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was sitting here thinking about the week and my son. he has only been gone to his moms for a week and ive tried calling every day to talk him..funny thing is when she ask him if he wants to talk to me i hear him in the back ground say no im busy but tell him hi and i miss him and love him.. dont get me wrong im happy hes having a good time but this also makes me sad..only six more weeks til hes home. what are some of your expiriences the first time your kids went away for a long period of time?

You know...

Hearing the child saying those things is such a wonderful thing! You are doing something right...
Wish my ex loved his like that...

I know you miss him. I dunno how you handle it really.

I think as parents we get so involved, that once we ahve the fre time, we have no idea what to do... wemiss them being near, and knowing the are there...

Just wanna say, seems you are a good Dad...

Doug, how old is ur son?

I don't know the feeling---but I feel for you. Both of my kids are with me all of the time....I don't know what I would do......
But take heart---He'll be back...and what a blast that will be..... I hope you feel better soon...........

he is 7..

i will have to go with soulmate on this one as i have mine all the time i do intend leaving them soon but not for long this will be my first experience away from them so i will know what ur going through shortly for all the times i wanted some peace i bet when i get the chance im not going to wish i did leave them but its an experience i dont want to miss

Seven is a most adorable age.You sound like a remarkable Daddy. I've never heard a father openly admit to missing an absent child so much after just a week of separation. Don't fret, he will be calling you before his vacation is up.

Ejoy the precious times that you are together and let him grow around the other peeeps in his life also as it will make him a better person and no matter what he will always come back to you then.........i believe this. Presently i am waiting for my 16 year old son to return.........he may not for a while but i am giving him the space and time he needs to make the choices that he needs to make at this time in his life. Please read the thread i did the other day on on "when kids grow up" and you will maybe understand where i am coming from. If you think it is bad now after just a weeks holiday wait until he is the same age as my son and thank your lucky stars that you have him for the next at least nine years until he decides to make his own choices also and just be there again as you are now and he will always know that no matter what he will have a nice fat pillow to fall on when he needs to without getting hurt. It is called unconditional love and it is not measureable.

Take care and chat anytime you feel you need to............
Magsy xx

I have 2 of my 3 boys with me 24/7. Their bio dad isn't in the picture and hasn't been in the picture since he moved back to CA over 10 years ago. My 2 doesn't even want anything to do with him. It's ok, I can play both mom and dad for those two. My youngest though i'm doing everything I can to gain custody of him also. His dad doesn't want him..just knowing that he has something to hang over my head.