big women ( Archived) (12)

why do big women get judge so much we got wants and needs too the same as any one elses

I don't know--but I think there have been several threads somewhat like this one.....I don't think anyone has found a definite answer yet.....Good Luck in your search!!

Probably because some men are pigs..

Your comments are among the most thoughtful and forthcoming I've read on these boards. I am a man, I wish we could all be boys and girls but the numbers don't lie. What bothers me is the conditioned judgment against some trait and anyone alike in some way through which they can be grouped, isolated, made in to a stepping-stone. This isn't prejudicial or judgmental because no thought actually takes place, just a conditioned response, partially innate and reinforced socially. Social conditions such as they are there are intense pressures that manipulate our animal drives far beyond what is strictly necessary. Self-survival can be subtle and insidious and often our drive to survive/succeed becomes infused with a need to compete and win, to achieve a feeling of superiority.

What's really odd is that sometimes the broad stroke that conditions a response or judgment sometimes seems accurate and justified. You fair-mindedly say it works both ways, admitting to less charitable feelings toward the Barbies. The Barbies arguably may be superficial climbers who need to look down on others in order to feel on top. Some of them might be nice but my experience has been that attractive & thin women will fire off the first shot, while, what did I do, walk on the street? Look at/talk to her? These occasions might be anomalous, but I doubt it, so my feeling is that my brush stroke is more accurate than not. Grrrr I think that of the chicken and the egg, I see resentment as the response to offense. People who give offence for no acceptable reason do so usually on the basis of looks. "Looks" of course covers a lot of ground. Looking above acceptable weight or looking really skinny seems very small compared to the hateful judgment meted out by "groups" more dangerous than the thin and beautiful. I needn't spell it out but certain looks are really out in the South.

Gad, I'm long-winded!

Sticking to your thread, sort of: All else being equal, among women I've encountered nice-looking women who are "Thin" for lack of a better word always play it cool; I could be there, not be there. I mean they might like me but heaven forbid they show it in any easily understood way! But I've struck up a conversation with some really cute women who had more in every way, more size, more personality, more open emotionally, more friendly; more thoughtful to put me at ease--What's going on here?! This happens a lot. It's all probably completely obvious but sometimes I wonder if I'm somehow extra attractive to bigger beautiful women! Help me out!

How Sweet!!! :bye: :bye:

Ignore them prats!!

And that would be why????....

People who judge unless you think it ok!!!!!!

OK to judge someone?????


Absolutely NOT!!!!
Everyone has opinions---that's just a fact of life---we might not always agree with them--but they have that right to have it.....

Judgements----No one has that right......We are all created equal!!!!!!