Cross-Cultural Identity (10)

Can cross-cultural differences determine relationships in today's changing society?

Sure it would have a baring on things but relationships are about compromise so problems can be sorted if both parties want that.I lived with a Jamaican girl for two years and we did OK.I now spend alot of time in Turkey and it's happening all around me with Turkish/British most don't work but some do i know more bad luck stories than good but in life things are never easy whether both parties are the same colour/creed or whatever.

Thank you for your inspirational suggestion and thought.I totally agree with you on the issue of compromise. But hey, just like you said nothing is easy nowadays especially when it comes to relationships. On the other hand, I still think though that the difference in cultural values plays a more pivotal part in deciding whether the relationship stands to prevail. Anyway would you agree that there are also huge benefits to cross-cultural intergration?

The only benifits i can see is a need for learning about each others needs.Some cultures like the muslims make the British turn to their faith and myself not being religious but having views think that religion shouldn't be forced it takes away their independance.JMO
I'm going to get hung her
I might be slightly biased here because my sister was seeing a Jamaican and they had 2 boys together and he hasn't been nowhere near for them,don't think i have problems with colour here though because i haven't.:)
Tell me what benifits you see buddy

Actually, your right because when it comes to the concept of religious beliefs. people become swayed to believe that some religions are far more complex than others hence avoiding relationships. You gave an example of Islam. However, you also forgot to mention that Islam just like any other religion has got its own traditional doctrines which if one fully practices and abides by them, they then happen to appear as extremist to others. But on the other hand, I would also like to agree with you on the issue of how some people belonging to the muslim faith are misrepresenting it. Mind you, most religions including Islam do not permit forceful conversion into their religions. They instead request that a person portrays in a more humble manner which in effect might lead to other's from different religions to embrace his/her faith.

Anyway, back to the benefits of cross-cultural intergration. Without breaking them down one by one, I can only suggest that you look at it from a Biopsychosocial,economic and spiritual perspective.

Personally, because I have dated more white women than black women, I have come to realise that most of my relationships with the white females tend not to last long because we seem to possess different ideologies in the way things are viewed or portrayed. Having said this, I still date and would even settle for if I had too with a female from a different cultural background. And by the way, dont get me wrong, am not insinuating that two people from different racial backgrounds cant have a successful relationship, because they have and will always do. But still, this does not mean that cultural differences never impede on relationships, if you know where am coming from. At the moment though, Iam yet to be proven wrong as this might just well be an empirical view I hold based on the facts from the few longterm relationships I have been involved in. Iam also certain that come one day, this will change as the young generation amalgamates.

How about you? reflecting back on your relationship with that Jamaican woman or even based on your sister's point of view. Do you think that the difference in social and ethical values may have determined the longevity of both relationships?

Of course it has a reflection on our future,what we did or saw in our past.
Without a past there can be no future.
My relationship with my Jamaican probably broke down because i was immature at the time and not ready for settling down we still speak and she is still a knockout we didn't have any social or cultural problems i did get a few funny/nasty looks off alot of black people when we went out because she was a model but saying that we got looks where ever we went maybe because we were both good looking or because the black/white mix?
Who know or cares that's my past and i look forward to my future.
My sisters relationship broke up because he couldn't keep his pants up if you know what i mean she only goes with black men you know the sayings black don't crack n once you go black you'll never go back well she didn't and i did i don't mind what colour or creed someone is she does the black guy is another wide boy and he goes with any woman with a pulse
Maybe we don't know what we've got till it's gone i don't know?
I hope you have luck on here mate and it's all good

Dude your so funny. Well, personally I wouldnt want to count on any luck off the site yet because I have been on quite a few far too many and far too long (CS inclusive), yet they still havent yielded any luck at all. Anyway, who knows it's too soon to reach to such a decision. But I'll just keep an open/healthy mind incase an offer comes knocking my way. Tell you what though, am having a great time in the forums this time round because I get to read different OP's from people that are ventilating their negative/positive feelings about past and present relationships.

what do u mean some cutlures like the muslims, they have no one cluture, its massively different, say between a north african muslim to a pakistani, also you have senagalise, to nigerian muslims, all have their own culture and views on islam. Sudanese and some african muslims do female circumsion,k whhile morrocans and libyians and other north african countries do not, same in pakistan, of course it depends if they are in the city or on the rural areas.