What do you think is the most common cause of divorce? ( Archived) (145)

romanticman4u: Once I read some advice , the first six months of a relationship is all happy carefree. everything is good with the world type infatuation. I have found if you give you and your love a chance to really get to know one another in terms of time and truely paying attention to the traits they bring to the relationship, it will either save you time and a divorce or make that person that much more attractive to you. Paying attention and listening is the key, I used to supervise people where I worked, temporary people and I found this to be true, if you listen over a period of time they will tell all about themselves and how they are regaurdless if they are good people or bad, I learned so much by listening and all you have to do is apply this to your relationship. So listen, pay atention to your possible future mates traits and do this over a good stretch of time , I favor two years, also don't ignore any red flags that you may see, investagate them and decide.

scousedon: Got to go along with this one. It all seems "me me me" approach, the what can he/she do for me attitude, instead of "us,us,us" approach saying what can we do for each other.