Am I wasting my time? (24)
Ooohhhhhh.......I think he might just not be into you hunny, if he was, he would have made a little bit more effort to contact you after the 'Buffer Date'.
SumYugHoe: Just wanna get some advice.I was mailing a guy on here for a good few months and we had a few phone conversations, we met up for a sort of date, I say sort of date cause he called a few days before and said he was nervous about meeting, so i said 'Ahhhh its not really a date, sure we dont even know eachother yet, its just a coffee'.So we met up for the coffee and I thought things went great, he was nice to chat to and very hot! We said our goodbyes after the coffee (to be honest we had gotten on so well I thought that he wud have kissed me , but he didnt) so afterwards i text him to thank him for the nice company he has text and e-mailed me a few times, theres been no increse or decrease in the amount of contact...............Is he interested......or is he just not that into me?
Just ask him, simple..
SumYugHoe: Just wanna get some advice.I was mailing a guy on here for a good few months and we had a few phone conversations, we met up for a sort of date, I say sort of date cause he called a few days before and said he was nervous about meeting, so i said 'Ahhhh its not really a date, sure we dont even know eachother yet, its just a coffee'.So we met up for the coffee and I thought things went great, he was nice to chat to and very hot! We said our goodbyes after the coffee (to be honest we had gotten on so well I thought that he wud have kissed me , but he didnt) so afterwards i text him to thank him for the nice company he has text and e-mailed me a few times, theres been no increse or decrease in the amount of contact...............Is he interested......or is he just not that into me?
men are strange ,
would you not text,email,and ask him does he want 2 go for a drink
SumYugHoe: Just wanna get some advice.I was mailing a guy on here for a good few months and we had a few phone conversations, we met up for a sort of date, I say sort of date cause he called a few days before and said he was nervous about meeting, so i said 'Ahhhh its not really a date, sure we dont even know eachother yet, its just a coffee'.So we met up for the coffee and I thought things went great, he was nice to chat to and very hot! We said our goodbyes after the coffee (to be honest we had gotten on so well I thought that he wud have kissed me , but he didnt) so afterwards i text him to thank him for the nice company he has text and e-mailed me a few times, theres been no increse or decrease in the amount of contact...............Is he interested......or is he just not that into me?
He is probably interested. Its hard to know weather to slap the gob on someone after a coffee date. At least after a few drinks it easier. He sound like he is shy so if you really like him why not tell him that. Maybe then he will feel comfortable comong out of his shell.
Leem1: He is probably interested. Its hard to know weather to slap the gob on someone after a coffee date. At least after a few drinks it easier. He sound like he is shy so if you really like him why not tell him that. Maybe then he will feel comfortable comong out of his shell.
TELL HIM!!! After one sort of date that I like him, I would feel like a loon, I big loony bint, it was only a coffee. I did ask him if he wants me to cook for him when my flat mate goes on holidys, he said yes but hasnt mentioned it since. And i do like to feel like a man is doing the chasing.
just ask him straight up...... Whats the worst he can say.. and if it is that he isnt interested well then atleast you know
SumYugHoe: TELL HIM!!! After one sort of date that I like him, I would feel like a loon, I big loony bint, it was only a coffee. I did ask him if he wants me to cook for him when my flat mate goes on holidys, he said yes but hasnt mentioned it since. And i do like to feel like a man is doing the chasing.
You dont have to tell him that you love him or anything
Just tell him you enjoyed his company and would like to do it again. Some men are too shy to make the first move. Maybe he is one of them. I dont think I would try and kiss a girl after just a coffee date. But after a few drinks I will try as much as i can get away with. 
Leem1: You dont have to tell him that you love him or anything Just tell him you enjoyed his company and would like to do it again. Some men are too shy to make the first move. Maybe he is one of them. I dont think I would try and kiss a girl after just a coffee date. But after a few drinks I will try as much as i can get away with.
Is a coffee date a no no in general for kissing?
JustLittleMe: Is a coffee date a no no in general for kissing?
Well a coffee date is normally during the day and only lasts an hour or so. I don't know if I would feel comfortable slapping the gob on someone at 2pm outside Insomina with a street full of sober people around.
At least at night it dark, everyone is drunk and you have normally been chatting longer than an hour.
SumYugHoe: TELL HIM!!! After one sort of date that I like him, I would feel like a loon, I big loony bint, it was only a coffee. I did ask him if he wants me to cook for him when my flat mate goes on holidys, he said yes but hasnt mentioned it since. And i do like to feel like a man is doing the chasing.
I met someone off here last week for a drink and we got on really well,, so well we are meeting again this week and i cant wate,we txt and ring each other every day,we both realy like each other,go with your heart and ring him if you really like him you wont know how he feels about you if you dont ask 
Just ask......just ask......just ask.......????
Am I the only one here who thinks thats you shouldnt have to ask? If someone is interested in you.........you should be able to figure it out yourself if he like you or not. Fair enough I see the point about not getting the kiss, as it was a coffee date and all, but come on........you should be able to tell if he is interested in you. You said you offered to cook for him, then set a date (excuse the pun) and see how it goes. If you dont get a kiss then your wasting your time pet and its best to move on. And if he hims and haws about you cooking for him.........soryy but............your right he is just not into you.
Am I the only one here who thinks thats you shouldnt have to ask? If someone is interested in you.........you should be able to figure it out yourself if he like you or not. Fair enough I see the point about not getting the kiss, as it was a coffee date and all, but come on........you should be able to tell if he is interested in you. You said you offered to cook for him, then set a date (excuse the pun) and see how it goes. If you dont get a kiss then your wasting your time pet and its best to move on. And if he hims and haws about you cooking for him.........soryy but............your right he is just not into you.
JustLittleMe: Just ask......just ask......just ask.......????
Am I the only one here who thinks thats you shouldnt have to ask? If someone is interested in you.........you should be able to figure it out yourself if he like you or not. Fair enough I see the point about not getting the kiss, as it was a coffee date and all, but come on........you should be able to tell if he is interested in you. You said you offered to cook for him, then set a date (excuse the pun) and see how it goes. If you dont get a kiss then your wasting your time pet and its best to move on. And if he hims and haws about you cooking for him.........soryy but............your right he is just not into you.
Am I the only one here who thinks thats you shouldnt have to ask? If someone is interested in you.........you should be able to figure it out yourself if he like you or not. Fair enough I see the point about not getting the kiss, as it was a coffee date and all, but come on........you should be able to tell if he is interested in you. You said you offered to cook for him, then set a date (excuse the pun) and see how it goes. If you dont get a kiss then your wasting your time pet and its best to move on. And if he hims and haws about you cooking for him.........soryy but............your right he is just not into you.
Thanks.....my flatmate is away next week so I will ask him around for dinner and see how it goes. Fingers crossed he kisses me.
SumYugHoe: Thanks.....my flatmate is away next week so I will ask him around for dinner and see how it goes. Fingers crossed he kisses me.
Well Ill cross my fingers for you too.....hope it all goes well
JustLittleMe: Just ask......just ask......just ask.......????
Am I the only one here who thinks thats you shouldnt have to ask? If someone is interested in you.........you should be able to figure it out yourself if he like you or not. Fair enough I see the point about not getting the kiss, as it was a coffee date and all, but come on........you should be able to tell if he is interested in you. You said you offered to cook for him, then set a date (excuse the pun) and see how it goes. If you dont get a kiss then your wasting your time pet and its best to move on. And if he hims and haws about you cooking for him.........soryy but............your right he is just not into you.
Am I the only one here who thinks thats you shouldnt have to ask? If someone is interested in you.........you should be able to figure it out yourself if he like you or not. Fair enough I see the point about not getting the kiss, as it was a coffee date and all, but come on........you should be able to tell if he is interested in you. You said you offered to cook for him, then set a date (excuse the pun) and see how it goes. If you dont get a kiss then your wasting your time pet and its best to move on. And if he hims and haws about you cooking for him.........soryy but............your right he is just not into you.
I am terrible at reading the signals weather women like me or not. There was a lady I used to work with that i really thought fancied me so I asked to to meet for a drink to "catch up". Turns out she did not like me that way.
And i was so sure. Then there have been times when I did not notice someone liked me until they told me. Looking back now I see the signs but when it happening i am clueless.
Leem1: I am terrible at reading the signals weather women like me or not. There was a lady I used to work with that i really thought fancied me so I asked to to meet for a drink to "catch up". Turns out she did not like me that way. And i was so sure.
Then there have been times when I did not notice someone liked me until they told me. Looking back now I see the signs but when it happening i am clueless.
Then there have been times when I did not notice someone liked me until they told me. Looking back now I see the signs but when it happening i am clueless.
And have you ever asked a girl, straight out if shes interested in you?
JustLittleMe: And have you ever asked a girl, straight out if shes interested in you?
Yes but not just after a coffee. Normally if I have been on a date and I am not sure if she is shy or just not interested. I would normally just ask her if she is interested inb meeting up again or does she want to leave it. No pressure on her just so I know.
Its not like you will end up with a broken heart if she says she is not interested after one date.
Leem1: Ouch. I dont like the sound of that. The poor man. Did he use a doughnut ring afterwards.
He still does.
Hmm sounds like a case of shyness or he was thinking dan she's cute but was holding back.There is certain sighns us guys and girls give one and othier when we fancy each other i know what a load of crap but it's true. Your story story exactly like mine. The guy i was dating was super cute but i say had very little dating experience like this chap wore a hoody to a restaurant with me 
i was dressed up for the night and he c*m down the stairs in a hoddy and jeans for a three star restaurant this guy wouldnt kiss me either it was all hugs and more hugs and quick kisses on the cheek, i felt like his sister i had this all week end.Maybe in your case sum one accidently it does happen sum one said to the guy dat wasnt a nice kiss stuff like that would make a guy worried and would toatelly knock his pride . Look in the long run i wouldnt worry about it these things happen to everyone. So the next guy you meet give him a kiss for him to remember.Best of luck
i was dressed up for the night and he c*m down the stairs in a hoddy and jeans for a three star restaurant this guy wouldnt kiss me either it was all hugs and more hugs and quick kisses on the cheek, i felt like his sister i had this all week end.Maybe in your case sum one accidently it does happen sum one said to the guy dat wasnt a nice kiss stuff like that would make a guy worried and would toatelly knock his pride . Look in the long run i wouldnt worry about it these things happen to everyone. So the next guy you meet give him a kiss for him to remember.Best of luckjohn wayne
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I was mailing a guy on here for a good few months and we had a few phone conversations, we met up for a sort of date, I say sort of date cause he called a few days before and said he was nervous about meeting, so i said 'Ahhhh its not really a date, sure we dont even know eachother yet, its just a coffee'.So we met up for the coffee and I thought things went great, he was nice to chat to and very hot! We said our goodbyes after the coffee (to be honest we had gotten on so well I thought that he wud have kissed me , but he didnt) so afterwards i text him to thank him for the nice company he has text and e-mailed me a few times, theres been no increse or decrease in the amount of contact...............Is he interested......or is he just not that into me?