what do you do ? (24)
She needs professional help ASAP
starrysky: a mate of mine has a problem with drugs , it has changed her personailty completely.
i tried to be there for her , i took her calls when she was having a reaction to whatever she had taken and was freaking out, i wandered the streets of my town looking for her worried out of my mind.
eventually i turned to her and told her it had to stop , that she needed to sort herself out and admitt she had a prob , because id had enough. she denied having a problem , so i cut contact.
she texts me every so often asking me to be her friend , yet when i metion her problem she goes mad.
we have been friends for 16 years, i want to help her because i know eventually what she is doing will kil her , but i cant get through to her . i cant put up with the lying and the drama either.
what can i do ?? she text me again tonight , i miss her alot but there are only so many chances you can give a person ...
i tried to be there for her , i took her calls when she was having a reaction to whatever she had taken and was freaking out, i wandered the streets of my town looking for her worried out of my mind.
eventually i turned to her and told her it had to stop , that she needed to sort herself out and admitt she had a prob , because id had enough. she denied having a problem , so i cut contact.
she texts me every so often asking me to be her friend , yet when i metion her problem she goes mad.
we have been friends for 16 years, i want to help her because i know eventually what she is doing will kil her , but i cant get through to her . i cant put up with the lying and the drama either.
what can i do ?? she text me again tonight , i miss her alot but there are only so many chances you can give a person ...
AlexeiFoxx23: She needs professional help ASAP
she wont get it .... tried to talk to her but she doesnt get it
Well I wouldn't recommend cutting her out of your life...does her family know, perhaps you should tell them if it's really serious. Her family should be the ones that can convince her to seek help...
starrysky: she wont get it .... tried to talk to her but she doesnt get it
AlexeiFoxx23: Well I wouldn't recommend cutting her out of your life...does her family know, perhaps you should tell them if it's really serious. Her family should be the ones that can convince her to seek help...
her family know , she wont listen to them either.
iv had enough , iv health problems and i need to concentrate on me .
starrysky: a mate of mine has a problem with drugs , it has changed her personailty completely.
i tried to be there for her , i took her calls when she was having a reaction to whatever she had taken and was freaking out, i wandered the streets of my town looking for her worried out of my mind.
eventually i turned to her and told her it had to stop , that she needed to sort herself out and admitt she had a prob , because id had enough. she denied having a problem , so i cut contact.
she texts me every so often asking me to be her friend , yet when i metion her problem she goes mad.
we have been friends for 16 years, i want to help her because i know eventually what she is doing will kil her , but i cant get through to her . i cant put up with the lying and the drama either.
what can i do ?? she text me again tonight , i miss her alot but there are only so many chances you can give a person ...
ohh tough situation to be in but at the same time if she wont help herself there's nothing you can do to help her.. i tried to be there for her , i took her calls when she was having a reaction to whatever she had taken and was freaking out, i wandered the streets of my town looking for her worried out of my mind.
eventually i turned to her and told her it had to stop , that she needed to sort herself out and admitt she had a prob , because id had enough. she denied having a problem , so i cut contact.
she texts me every so often asking me to be her friend , yet when i metion her problem she goes mad.
we have been friends for 16 years, i want to help her because i know eventually what she is doing will kil her , but i cant get through to her . i cant put up with the lying and the drama either.
what can i do ?? she text me again tonight , i miss her alot but there are only so many chances you can give a person ...
usually people have to reach rock bottom before they want help and i mean rock bottom :(
starrysky: her family know , she wont listen to them either.
iv had enough , iv health problems and i need to concentrate on me .
iv had enough , iv health problems and i need to concentrate on me .
AlexeiFoxx23: usually people have to reach rock bottom before they want help and i mean rock bottom :(
i just hope rock bottom wont be a coffin
all it takes it one bad line of coke or whatever ....
sometimes it is but not often....think people just come close to it and its a wake up call, thats why her family should really get her help if its this bad...quit the bull like, its hard to see someone be taking in for care but it just has to be done sometimes
starrysky: i know , its just so hard to keep telling her i dont want to be friends , it breaks my heart. and then she gets nasty which hurts even more
her mind is warped the drugs do that especially during the week because your'e on a downer after the weekend as hard as it sounds and this is coming from expierience, been her friend may not be the best thing for her she will view it as acceptance of how she lives her lifestarrysky: a mate of mine has a problem with drugs , it has changed her personailty completely.
i tried to be there for her , i took her calls when she was having a reaction to whatever she had taken and was freaking out, i wandered the streets of my town looking for her worried out of my mind.
eventually i turned to her and told her it had to stop , that she needed to sort herself out and admitt she had a prob , because id had enough. she denied having a problem , so i cut contact.
she texts me every so often asking me to be her friend , yet when i metion her problem she goes mad.
we have been friends for 16 years, i want to help her because i know eventually what she is doing will kil her , but i cant get through to her . i cant put up with the lying and the drama either.
what can i do ?? she text me again tonight , i miss her alot but there are only so many chances you can give a person ...
i tried to be there for her , i took her calls when she was having a reaction to whatever she had taken and was freaking out, i wandered the streets of my town looking for her worried out of my mind.
eventually i turned to her and told her it had to stop , that she needed to sort herself out and admitt she had a prob , because id had enough. she denied having a problem , so i cut contact.
she texts me every so often asking me to be her friend , yet when i metion her problem she goes mad.
we have been friends for 16 years, i want to help her because i know eventually what she is doing will kil her , but i cant get through to her . i cant put up with the lying and the drama either.
what can i do ?? she text me again tonight , i miss her alot but there are only so many chances you can give a person ...
ok this may sound a bit harsh but,
SHE chose to take a drug in the first place
you gave her the option of your friendship or the drugs
again
SHE chose drugs over you.
I know you care for her as she was your friend for 16 yrs but she doesnt want help (yet) and until she decides to do something or someone intervienes I would just ignore her calls and texts and even get a new sim card..
I hope for her she decides to get some help
jimbo79: her mind is warped the drugs do that especially during the week because your'e on a downer after the weekend as hard as it sounds and this is coming from expierience, been her friend may not be the best thing for her she will view it as acceptance of how she lives her life
i wish it was just the weekend , everyday she was in the head shop and then illeagal stuff at the weekend. iv heard so many stories bout what she has or hasnt taken.
AlexeiFoxx23: usually people have to reach rock bottom before they want help and i mean rock bottom :(
Completely agree.
As horrible as it sounds, if you've offered her help time and again, told her she has a problem and she is still in denial it seems she will have to lose everything before she sees the full damage of her habit.
Maybe offer her this...
"You admit you have a problem, seek help and I will be there for you."
Crazylegs: ok this may sound a bit harsh but,
SHE chose to take a drug in the first place
you gave her the option of your friendship or the drugs
again
SHE chose drugs over you.I know you care for her as she was your friend for 16 yrs but she doesnt want help (yet) and until she decides to do something or someone intervienes I would just ignore her calls and texts and even get a new sim card..
I hope for her she decides to get some help
SHE chose to take a drug in the first place
you gave her the option of your friendship or the drugs
again
SHE chose drugs over you.I know you care for her as she was your friend for 16 yrs but she doesnt want help (yet) and until she decides to do something or someone intervienes I would just ignore her calls and texts and even get a new sim card..
I hope for her she decides to get some help
its not harsh , its the way i see it too.
id help her if she wanted to get clean !!!!
new sim didnt work .... sick of changing my number she manages to get it every time !!!
i suppose all i can do is wait
thanks for you advice
starrysky: i wish it was just the weekend , everyday she was in the head shop and then illeagal stuff at the weekend. iv heard so many stories bout what she has or hasnt taken.
as others have said it will take her to reach rock bottom and at that stage its still 50/50 what she will do i hit bottom twice before i got my act togethertgwstw: Completely agree.
As horrible as it sounds, if you've offered her help time and again, told her she has a problem and she is still in denial it seems she will have to lose everything before she sees the full damage of her habit.
Maybe offer her this...
"You admit you have a problem, seek help and I will be there for you."
As horrible as it sounds, if you've offered her help time and again, told her she has a problem and she is still in denial it seems she will have to lose everything before she sees the full damage of her habit.
Maybe offer her this...
"You admit you have a problem, seek help and I will be there for you."
exactly the words i have said !!!
hopefully she ll get sorted out now the headshops are closed they were offering a cheap alternative
jimbo79: as others have said it will take her to reach rock bottom and at that stage its still 50/50 what she will do i hit bottom twice before i got my act together
i can only wait and see , although by the time that happens , i think my life will have moved on , goin bk to college and going to try and get a carrer , time to be a grown up !!
starrysky: i can only wait and see , although by the time that happens , i think my life will have moved on , goin bk to college and going to try and get a carrer , time to be a grown up !!
good for you, in the end of the day you can only be responsible for your own life and deedsyour friend has to recognize her problem by themselves and things may get worse before they get better, but until she asks for your help to get over it there is nothing you can do because people who use drugs will say and do anything just to get there fix, my brother went through this but thank god hes out the other side now 5 years later
I understand what you are goin through.. my mam is an alcoholic, and I have gone through all this with her.. eventually for the sake of my kids and my sanity.. I had to go with tough love approach.. Now my mam no longer calls me when she is drunk or is drunk when we visit..Its not everything i wanted, would prefer her to be sober permanently.. but for the time being it has to be enough until she is ready to deal with her addiction..When she drinks she is a like jekyll and hyde personality.. My advice to you would be tell your friend that when she is ready to kick her habit, that you will help her through it.. but until then you cant be around her..
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i tried to be there for her , i took her calls when she was having a reaction to whatever she had taken and was freaking out, i wandered the streets of my town looking for her worried out of my mind.
eventually i turned to her and told her it had to stop , that she needed to sort herself out and admitt she had a prob , because id had enough. she denied having a problem , so i cut contact.
she texts me every so often asking me to be her friend , yet when i metion her problem she goes mad.
we have been friends for 16 years, i want to help her because i know eventually what she is doing will kil her , but i cant get through to her . i cant put up with the lying and the drama either.
what can i do ?? she text me again tonight , i miss her alot but there are only so many chances you can give a person ...