Waiting.. and wanting.. (42)
nicki_love: Ok.. so for those people who have met someone on a dating site and actually had some kind of "relationship" with that person.. this is for you.. Given that the person is legitimate, not a scammer, not married or any of those negative factors that would occur online..
You meet this person purely by chance.. he/she was actually not your physical type but you decided to respond to his/her flower with a brief email saying thank you and feel free to drop a line. He/she takes it and starts communicating and soon enough you realise that you want to chat with this person all the time.. You both make every possible time available to chat, while you are a work, while he is at work...lol.. while you two have free time at home.. you chat all the time, about everything. You actually feel like you know this person for ages. And it feels good. You plan to meet and really want to but have to wait because of one circumstance or the other. How do you bear waiting to see if that connection is real?? What do you do in the meantime, while you are waiting to meet this person.. I mean, the intrigue sets in and sometimes overwhelms.. what do you do about that?? How do I deal with all these feelings??
Oh! I think I need help!
The only thing you can do is keep emailing each other..You meet this person purely by chance.. he/she was actually not your physical type but you decided to respond to his/her flower with a brief email saying thank you and feel free to drop a line. He/she takes it and starts communicating and soon enough you realise that you want to chat with this person all the time.. You both make every possible time available to chat, while you are a work, while he is at work...lol.. while you two have free time at home.. you chat all the time, about everything. You actually feel like you know this person for ages. And it feels good. You plan to meet and really want to but have to wait because of one circumstance or the other. How do you bear waiting to see if that connection is real?? What do you do in the meantime, while you are waiting to meet this person.. I mean, the intrigue sets in and sometimes overwhelms.. what do you do about that?? How do I deal with all these feelings??
Oh! I think I need help!
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cincity: The only thing you can do is keep emailing each other.. I am having a similar problem here...
Aww.. but its so hard!
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I can't find anybody I want to talk to that much or who wants to talk to me that much... hmmmm 
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bittersweet28467: I can't find anybody I want to talk to that much or who wants to talk to me that much... hmmmm
Aww.. well after two finally, I think I actually found one! And believe me if I had looked at his pic alone and allowed myself to be ruled by my old self, I may not have replied but something told me that day to reply just for the heck of it.. and now, for almost two months now, we have been inseparable.. lol.. dont worry, it will come your way one day.. maybe not here but who knows when or how! I never expected this and it is still quite new and interesting!
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And what happens if you have real strong feelings for the person, but they live half way around the world........
You consider the possibility to travel and meet with them, but realise that if you did meet and hit it off, and the chemistry was really working, it's still an impossible dream....... what happens then............
You go back home knowing that you have commitments in your own country as they do... and that relocation really is NOT an option....
So rather than torture each other, you decide the best option is to cool the relationship off now !
I guess that's the major problem with an International dating site. 
You consider the possibility to travel and meet with them, but realise that if you did meet and hit it off, and the chemistry was really working, it's still an impossible dream....... what happens then............
You go back home knowing that you have commitments in your own country as they do... and that relocation really is NOT an option....
So rather than torture each other, you decide the best option is to cool the relationship off now !
I guess that's the major problem with an International dating site.
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I think lust is the better one to trust
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nicki_love: Aww.. but its so hard!
Isn't it...but what else can we do??? If work and finance would allow it I would be on a plane now...But..instead I have to live on emails..and skype...------ This thread is Archived ------
cincity: Isn't it...but what else can we do??? If work and finance would allow it I would be on a plane now...But..instead I have to live on emails..and skype...
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nicki_love: Ok.. so for those people who have met someone on a dating site and actually had some kind of "relationship" with that person.. this is for you.. Given that the person is legitimate, not a scammer, not married or any of those negative factors that would occur online..
You meet this person purely by chance.. he/she was actually not your physical type but you decided to respond to his/her flower with a brief email saying thank you and feel free to drop a line. He/she takes it and starts communicating and soon enough you realise that you want to chat with this person all the time.. You both make every possible time available to chat, while you are a work, while he is at work...lol.. while you two have free time at home.. you chat all the time, about everything. You actually feel like you know this person for ages. And it feels good. You plan to meet and really want to but have to wait because of one circumstance or the other. How do you bear waiting to see if that connection is real?? What do you do in the meantime, while you are waiting to meet this person.. I mean, the intrigue sets in and sometimes overwhelms.. what do you do about that?? How do I deal with all these feelings??
Oh! I think I need help!
You meet this person purely by chance.. he/she was actually not your physical type but you decided to respond to his/her flower with a brief email saying thank you and feel free to drop a line. He/she takes it and starts communicating and soon enough you realise that you want to chat with this person all the time.. You both make every possible time available to chat, while you are a work, while he is at work...lol.. while you two have free time at home.. you chat all the time, about everything. You actually feel like you know this person for ages. And it feels good. You plan to meet and really want to but have to wait because of one circumstance or the other. How do you bear waiting to see if that connection is real?? What do you do in the meantime, while you are waiting to meet this person.. I mean, the intrigue sets in and sometimes overwhelms.. what do you do about that?? How do I deal with all these feelings??
Oh! I think I need help!
skype video chat?or are you already doing that?
i think you do get to a point where you just gotta meet before you invest anymore time and emotions-difficult when thats not possible...goodluck
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are we all talking to someone from miles away 
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Englishman55: And what happens if you have real strong feelings for the person, but they live half way around the world........You consider the possibility to travel and meet with them, but realise that if you did meet and hit it off, and the chemistry was really working, it's still an impossible dream....... what happens then............You go back home knowing that you have commitments in your own country as they do... and that relocation really is NOT an option....
So rather than torture each other, you decide the best option is to cool the relationship off now ! I guess that's the major problem with an International dating site.
So rather than torture each other, you decide the best option is to cool the relationship off now ! I guess that's the major problem with an International dating site.
Hey big guy.. I agree that the fact of distance is quite a big issue.. however I believe that if you come onto an international dating site and are willing to even open yourself up to a person from another country, then you should have considered the relocation issue first. I have and whilst it will be the toughest thing to leave my family (sisters who I am very close with).. if I am sure that a person is the one for me, then I would relocate with my kids.. and hopefully things would work out.. if it didnt, I can always come back home! I would hate to know that I passed up the opportunity that I've waited for all my life.. Dont know, maybe I am a bit too open! What do you think?
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Englishman55: And what happens if you have real strong feelings for the person, but they live half way around the world........
You consider the possibility to travel and meet with them, but realise that if you did meet and hit it off, and the chemistry was really working, it's still an impossible dream....... what happens then............
You go back home knowing that you have commitments in your own country as they do... and that relocation really is NOT an option....
So rather than torture each other, you decide the best option is to cool the relationship off now !
I guess that's the major problem with an International dating site.
You consider the possibility to travel and meet with them, but realise that if you did meet and hit it off, and the chemistry was really working, it's still an impossible dream....... what happens then............
You go back home knowing that you have commitments in your own country as they do... and that relocation really is NOT an option....
So rather than torture each other, you decide the best option is to cool the relationship off now !
I guess that's the major problem with an International dating site.
very difficult when those commitments are young children depending on you..
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demonfairy: are we all talking to someone from miles away
not me!
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cincity: Isn't it...but what else can we do??? If work and finance would allow it I would be on a plane now...But..instead I have to live on emails..and skype...
Aww.. dont worry girl.. it will happen sometime!
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tomboygirl: skype video chat?or are you already doing that?
i think you do get to a point where you just gotta meet before you invest anymore time and emotions-difficult when thats not possible...goodluck
i think you do get to a point where you just gotta meet before you invest anymore time and emotions-difficult when thats not possible...goodluck
Thanks.. and yes we are planning to meet.. it just wont happen quite as soon as we would have liked it..
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demonfairy: are we all talking to someone from miles away
Hey DF.. what's funny??
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nicki_love: Hey big guy.. I agree that the fact of distance is quite a big issue.. however I believe that if you come onto an international dating site and are willing to even open yourself up to a person from another country, then you should have considered the relocation issue first. I have and whilst it will be the toughest thing to leave my family (sisters who I am very close with).. if I am sure that a person is the one for me, then I would relocate with my kids.. and hopefully things would work out.. if it didnt, I can always come back home! I would hate to know that I passed up the opportunity that I've waited for all my life.. Dont know, maybe I am a bit too open! What do you think?
I think you have not considered all the scenarios.
I have considered the relocation option and even discussed it with my two boys who are only 10 & 8 years old.
I only get to see them at weekends which is bad enough as it it, but to relocate to the other side of the world would mean seeing them only about every 6 months or a year..... for me a No, No.
There is no way my ex would allow the boys to live with me, let alone take them out of the country
I would miss the best part of their lives and they would not have a father in their life.
I would relocate to somewhere in Europe as this is much closer to them.... about a 2/3 hour plane ride away.
So, an LDR of more than 3 hours flight away, really is a non-starter for me now.
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Englishman55: I think you have not considered all the scenarios.
I have considered the relocation option and even discussed it with my two boys who are only 10 & 8 years old.
I only get to see them at weekends which is bad enough as it it, but to relocate to the other side of the world would mean seeing them only about every 6 months or a year..... for me a No, No.
There is no way my ex would allow the boys to live with me, let alone take them out of the country
I would miss the best part of their lives and they would not have a father in their life.
I would relocate to somewhere in Europe as this is much closer to them.... about a 2/3 hour plane ride away.
So, an LDR of more than 3 hours flight away, really is a non-starter for me now.
I have considered the relocation option and even discussed it with my two boys who are only 10 & 8 years old.
I only get to see them at weekends which is bad enough as it it, but to relocate to the other side of the world would mean seeing them only about every 6 months or a year..... for me a No, No.
There is no way my ex would allow the boys to live with me, let alone take them out of the country
I would miss the best part of their lives and they would not have a father in their life.
I would relocate to somewhere in Europe as this is much closer to them.... about a 2/3 hour plane ride away.
So, an LDR of more than 3 hours flight away, really is a non-starter for me now.
Difficult one that, English, for you..
I know how difficult it must be to be torn between what is right for your boys, and what maybe is best for YOU.
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Englishman55: I think you have not considered all the scenarios.I have considered the relocation option and even discussed it with my two boys who are only 10 & 8 years old.
I only get to see them at weekends which is bad enough as it it, but to relocate to the other side of the world would mean seeing them only about every 6 months or a year..... for me a No, No.
There is no way my ex would allow the boys to live with me, let alone take them out of the country
I would miss the best part of their lives and they would not have a father in their life.I would relocate to somewhere in Europe as this is much closer to them.... about a 2/3 hour plane ride away.So, an LDR of more than 3 hours flight away, really is a non-starter for me now.
I only get to see them at weekends which is bad enough as it it, but to relocate to the other side of the world would mean seeing them only about every 6 months or a year..... for me a No, No.
There is no way my ex would allow the boys to live with me, let alone take them out of the country
I would miss the best part of their lives and they would not have a father in their life.I would relocate to somewhere in Europe as this is much closer to them.... about a 2/3 hour plane ride away.So, an LDR of more than 3 hours flight away, really is a non-starter for me now.
English.. so my question was really what do you think about me being willing to relocate.. lol.. I fully understand what you say about your situation though.. I imagine that would be really tough. On the other hand, I have both my kids and my son is gonna be 16 at the end of this month and he can easily go to college at our new location.. which would even be better for him.. and my daughter of 19 months.. well, her dad is not in the pic and doesnt want to be.. so for me it would all work out. As I said before, the only hindrance would be my sisters whom I love so much and who has raised me when my parents died as a kid. But for your case, as I said, I understand.. and maybe even sympathise!
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You meet this person purely by chance.. he/she was actually not your physical type but you decided to respond to his/her flower with a brief email saying thank you and feel free to drop a line. He/she takes it and starts communicating and soon enough you realise that you want to chat with this person all the time.. You both make every possible time available to chat, while you are a work, while he is at work...lol.. while you two have free time at home.. you chat all the time, about everything. You actually feel like you know this person for ages. And it feels good. You plan to meet and really want to but have to wait because of one circumstance or the other. How do you bear waiting to see if that connection is real?? What do you do in the meantime, while you are waiting to meet this person.. I mean, the intrigue sets in and sometimes overwhelms.. what do you do about that?? How do I deal with all these feelings??
Oh! I think I need help!