Waste of time if you are single dad,, (138)
theguynextdoorMiddletown, New York USA5 Threads 1,335 Postsviva007: the good thing after seeing this thread is I realized am not a women and the bad thing is am a guy
It sucks to be us than huh
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theguynextdoor: It sucks to be us than huh
most probably..
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My brother has 3 lovely kids (7,6,4)who lives with him, has separated from his wife a year ago and now has a new love. And this new woman is experiencing a lot of rejection from the kids and the family but somehow they are going strong. I think he's giving the woman enough confidence, time, assurance, and love to hold on amidst their trials. He's not afraid to show his vulnerability and falls in love like a sick puppy. Good management skills are important too i guess.
You have a good profile on here anyway. Good luck in your search.
You have a good profile on here anyway. Good luck in your search.
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annie_nsw: Their loss, dont make it yours.Someone will come along who will love you and your kids,dont settle for anything less..
That's a nice sentiment, but the reality is otherwise.
Let me tell you a little story about Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, where I used to live:
When I reached middle-age, something really disturbing began happening. Young women with kids would literally take them across the street to avoid walking past me- a single middle-aged man. The first time this happened I just thought it curious, but because it kept happening I mentioned it to a few friends of mine. Their reaction was, "You just noticed this now???"
Single middle-aged men are shunned in Saskatoon. Why, I have no idea, but it is a fact of life. And young women tend to be extremely rude to single middle-aged men, and will call them "perverts" and worse, for absolutely no reason.
Older men with kids are often treated just as shabbily. Young women often remark with a shudder that they're glad they're not saddled with THAT mess, referring to both the kids and their father.
Saskatchewan is a province where people still marry very young, and those in the 18-25-year-old group who don't yet have children are often extremely rude, often aggressively so, towards single middle-aged men.
I've been living alone since I split up with my mentally-ill wife back in 1987 (she was eventually institutionalised with paranoid schizophrenia). I've been looking for someone to fill the void ever since.
So, not to be rude, but please don't patronise guys like us with platitudes like "someone will come along who will love you (and your kids)". Speaking from 23 years of personal experience, much as we yearn for the possibility, the liklihood is stacked against us.
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you mean ALL middle-aged single father's are shunned?
that is weird
that is weird
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ptb2010: All contacts went great until they found out I have two children. I guess too much bagage for most women.
Hmmmm always 3 sides to a story.........his side, her side and the police report! I tend to believe the police report!!
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i believe it go,s both ways, met a person on cs got along fine had dinner exchanged phone calls, finally felt comfortable enough to invite him to my house ,meet the kids and boom he was gone never to hear from again, but dont think of it as a bad thing, i think of it as, good riddens i come as a package deal except me accept my children or go boom boom boom boom 
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plainlyjune: you mean ALL middle-aged single father's are shunned?
that is weird
that is weird
No, I mean single middle-aged guys who at the time are by themselves, and in the case of single middle-aged guys with kids, the way younger women speak of them and their kids, and sometimes act towards them.
It's a Saskatoon thing.
An example- a friend of mine who moved to Saskatoon to play in the SSO (Saskatoon Sympohony). He had exactly the same problem, and like the rest of us found it impossible to start a relationship. In the end he left. And we're talking about a really, really nice guy, here, who in any other city wouldn't experience this same crap.
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Hmm, Maybe saying you have kids is just a convenient way out for some ladies who arent' feeling a connection with you and don't want to hurt your feelings or confidence. I personally would be thrilled to date a single dad who is devoted to his kids - if we were compatible match. I love children and would enjoy having more around. But if there's a war going on between him and his ex, I run the other way and never look back LOL.
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ptb2010: All contacts went great until they found out I have two children. I guess too much bagage for most women.
Dont worry to much,there is no shortage of those women who want just one thing.That can hold you over to you find that special one------ This thread is Archived ------
That's great. Mr Author, you see even a woman agrees that you don't start spilling your beans immediately!
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ptb2010: All contacts went great until they found out I have two children. I guess too much bagage for most women.
Honey I just checked your profile sounds good to me. Now those ladies whom after knowing u got kids vanish are better off where they are & u to. I don't want a mate who don't want my son in his life. Cheer up give it time
& b/4 u know it u'll be back in love man with someone who adore your kids.
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Depends on the circumstances.
About a year after my divorce, I went to get my sons for the weekend as usual. As we were getting the boys into my car, she handed me a paper and told me not to bring the oldest back as she couldn't deal with his ADHD any longer. The paper stated she was giving me custody in order for me to get him into school and it wasn't long before it was made legal in court.
From the time he was 9 which is when I got custody until he was 15, I can count the fingers on maybe both hands the number of times she made an effort to see him. Because of this, I had one angry young man on my hands which did not bode well for any relationship I got into.
I ended up having to put my life on hold for approximately 7 years just for him
About a year after my divorce, I went to get my sons for the weekend as usual. As we were getting the boys into my car, she handed me a paper and told me not to bring the oldest back as she couldn't deal with his ADHD any longer. The paper stated she was giving me custody in order for me to get him into school and it wasn't long before it was made legal in court.
From the time he was 9 which is when I got custody until he was 15, I can count the fingers on maybe both hands the number of times she made an effort to see him. Because of this, I had one angry young man on my hands which did not bode well for any relationship I got into.
I ended up having to put my life on hold for approximately 7 years just for him
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911gypsy: Hmmmm always 3 sides to a story.........his side, her side and the police report! I tend to believe the police report!!
yes ... his side, her side, and the truth, which is the police report
and yes, it is the police report we have to believe
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911gypsy: Hmmmm always 3 sides to a story.........his side, her side and the police report! I tend to believe the police report!!
yes ... his side, her side, and the truth, which is the police report
and yes, it is the police report we have to believe
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ptb2010: All contacts went great until they found out I have two children. I guess too much baggage for most women.
That's been MY experience also !
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Waste of time if your a single mum????????????????
still like flowers.
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